I think you just need to have an honest conversation with your boyfriend. Everyone has a different timeline that they feel comfortable with in meeting family and parents especially. Everyoneâs family is different and everyone has family baggage. You wonât know what your bf is thinking unless you ask him. I realize that you had an expectation but if you havenât communicated that expectation, he canât even respond to it (whether in the way youâd prefer or not). I think opening up a dialogue with him would be the first step. If you canât calmly and nonconfrontationally talk about wanting to meet his family (and leaving room for his side), you have larger communication problems to figure out.
where did you pick up that hilariously stupid idea of morality, seriously that makes less than zero sense
no wonder they don't want to talk to you you haven't even begun the first steps of taking responsibility for one's actions. “It doesn't make sense!” You keep saying, well, fucking figure it out. Obviously you are refusing to acknowledge some uncomfortable truths.
Youâre not reading too much into this. Itâs a genuine concern.
Maybe the two of you donât even get that far. We canât know. But what if you do? The fact that heâs thinking about it means itâs a possibility if all works out.
So to get a dog knowing heâll have to re-home it if that happens is grossly irresponsible for so many reasons. Even ignoring the obvious, what about now? Are you just not able to bring your kid around ever?
Id say for you to walk away, if she simply doesn't get it, then start filing a divorce and pack a bag and dont mention it to her until you do, just leave, she's using you as a safety net…that aint right
Youâre way too immature to be dating. How big is your ego that you are calling her difficult just because she didnât break down into a blubbering mess at the sight of you with another woman! My god thatâs some self centred egotistical nonsense
Ok there's quite a bit to unpack here, so I'll try to keep it as brief as possible. First thing, No I don't think that your behavior, per this example, is indictive of “a psycho”. Second, As you didn't explain what the fight was about, I'll assume it was over something trivial. With that said, it seems to me that actually your wife's reaction was the one that was way over the top. She seems rather needy (the hugging & cuddling and then wanting chocolate), as well as a little childish (the lady and the tramp thing). However, it is possible that her over the top reaction is actually the by-product of something else that is going on in y'alls lives; ergo, stress has manifested itself in an unusual way. Last, getting back to the whole “Am I a psycho” thing…. I'm not really understanding how you rewinding what y'all were watching and her exclaiming that you are unempathetic have to do with one another? (Actually I thought that was a thoughtful thing to do.) When she went crying and running out of the room, was she expecting you to follow her? And because you didn't, is that why perhaps she is calling you “unempathetic” and “psycho”? You didn't mention how old y'all were, but she seems immature.
I'm absolutely horrible at texting. I'll read a message, reply in my head, put my phone aside for hours, remember the text a few days later. I'm not making excuses for anything – just saying that new guy honestly might not be much of a texter. I have the same insecurity so I feel you âĽ
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You can not get divorced in less than a month. You can't grieve your marriage in a month. You can't be in a healthy place to date 2 weeks after discovering an affair. Your child can't adjust to all of those changes in a month.
It's not surprising you've rushed into an inappropriate relationship with a woman that doesn't respect you. You need therapy op, as will your child if you keep making bad decisions.
And if you were fertile and still didnât want kids but he managed to get you pregnant but you were terrified of it and the pregnancy was awful and you died during childbirth would you forgive him for something like that?
And if you were fertile and still didnât want kids but he got you pregnant and the pregnancy went well and the baby was born but you felt no love or connection to it, being a mother was hell to you and while struggling with motherhood you kept thinking about how your entire dreams were crushed forever but a drop of cum thru a hole in the condom, and the man turned out to be abusive, he disrespected you again in many other ways, but you couldnât leave him because of the guilt about leaving your baby or finances, and you were stuck, alone, miserable, for years and years⌠would you forgive him for something like that?
how did I cheat when he put his hand on my throat and I pushed him off? Me and this person were friends, that hung out and had a friendship prior to things happening. And why would I automatically assume an invitation from a FRIEND, a platonic friend, would be for sex. The boundaries of me being in a relationship with someone was set. I didnât put myself in a situation to get assaulted, let alone have someoneâs hand on my fucking throat. Someone in the military whoâs basically trained to fight.
I think that's a weird way to phrase it, but yes you're being close minded about how people use their faces to express themselves. It's not rude or disrespectful to have an emotional reaction within yourself. It affects you zero what she does with her eyes, and yes it is a very common and easy way to express frustration and exhaustion.
I roll my eyes at myself all day, I roll my eyes at Karen's in public, I roll my eyes when my partner does something I've told him 50 thousand times not to do (ie put the junk mail on the first surface he sees instead of the trash), I roll my eyes when my mom is condescending. I roll my eyes to express myself without being verbally confrontational. I roll them for ME! I roll them to take a second and chillllll so I don't cause a problem out of an annoyance, and then I throw the trash away myself or I walk away or I breathe and try and calmly discuss. My facial expressions are not disrespectful.
Than you have validated her point that she has nothing to offer him to stay. She knows he wants kids. He wants kids. Yes there is all of those things there is also the days your kid goes with you to watch your favorite movies. You take your child out for lunch at your favorite steak house. The day you take your son to his first baseball game. The day you take your daughter out for a Saturday afternoon bike ride around a lake.
You make memories that will last a lifetime because when you are dying on your death bed you arenât thinking of the spreadsheet that had a V lookup that didnât work. Or the tax lot of securities that you couldnât figure out the purchase price. No thatâs not what you are remembering. Itâs the experiences of those events you shared with your children.
No he gave up not you. This is his failure and itâs naked but accepting itâs over and making plans for you and your daughter moving forward is whatâs best for you both.
He can regret it and still be unfit to date or marry a WOC. Imagine the things he says behind her back. As an Indigenous woman, I wouldnât accept a whiff of racism OR this this type of ignorance. There are plenty of nice white men out there, if thatâs what youâre looking for, and lots of them arenât actively problematic.
Tell her u want it. It doesn't matter when she told u anything. So she ll be drinking less and she only has short time to go. It doesn't matter if you love her or not after.
Nah, this ainât worth it. Labels and exclusivity donât matter. She clearly has you as a backup in case her ex decides that he doesnât want to get back with her. Do you really wanna stick around so that you can be second choice? Find someone that wants to make you their first choice and actually who wants to be in a relationship with you and not their ex.
He doesnât owe you friendship and you have no right to demand nor expect a chance to earn it back. You had your chance, and if he doesnât want to give you another one, that is 100% HIS prerogative.
Maybe in time he will cool off and reach out, but the worst thing you can do is try to harangue him into communicating again.
That doesnât feel like a super kind way to express that message. (Itâs also not just a few days my period can sometimes last up to a month because of my PCOS) He has a high sex drive too and itâs naked on him because he wants to still have sex but canât get over the mental block of it.
I mean by that he should listen, which he probably would. Im not blaming him here.
DO IT!! She deserves closure! And you deserve petty revenge!!! You absolute queen!! đ
I think you just need to have an honest conversation with your boyfriend. Everyone has a different timeline that they feel comfortable with in meeting family and parents especially. Everyoneâs family is different and everyone has family baggage. You wonât know what your bf is thinking unless you ask him. I realize that you had an expectation but if you havenât communicated that expectation, he canât even respond to it (whether in the way youâd prefer or not). I think opening up a dialogue with him would be the first step. If you canât calmly and nonconfrontationally talk about wanting to meet his family (and leaving room for his side), you have larger communication problems to figure out.
where did you pick up that hilariously stupid idea of morality, seriously that makes less than zero sense
no wonder they don't want to talk to you you haven't even begun the first steps of taking responsibility for one's actions. “It doesn't make sense!” You keep saying, well, fucking figure it out. Obviously you are refusing to acknowledge some uncomfortable truths.
Talk to her before things go haywire
Youâre not reading too much into this. Itâs a genuine concern.
Maybe the two of you donât even get that far. We canât know. But what if you do? The fact that heâs thinking about it means itâs a possibility if all works out.
So to get a dog knowing heâll have to re-home it if that happens is grossly irresponsible for so many reasons. Even ignoring the obvious, what about now? Are you just not able to bring your kid around ever?
Heâs being absurd.
Id say for you to walk away, if she simply doesn't get it, then start filing a divorce and pack a bag and dont mention it to her until you do, just leave, she's using you as a safety net…that aint right
Youâre way too immature to be dating. How big is your ego that you are calling her difficult just because she didnât break down into a blubbering mess at the sight of you with another woman! My god thatâs some self centred egotistical nonsense
Ok there's quite a bit to unpack here, so I'll try to keep it as brief as possible. First thing, No I don't think that your behavior, per this example, is indictive of “a psycho”. Second, As you didn't explain what the fight was about, I'll assume it was over something trivial. With that said, it seems to me that actually your wife's reaction was the one that was way over the top. She seems rather needy (the hugging & cuddling and then wanting chocolate), as well as a little childish (the lady and the tramp thing). However, it is possible that her over the top reaction is actually the by-product of something else that is going on in y'alls lives; ergo, stress has manifested itself in an unusual way. Last, getting back to the whole “Am I a psycho” thing…. I'm not really understanding how you rewinding what y'all were watching and her exclaiming that you are unempathetic have to do with one another? (Actually I thought that was a thoughtful thing to do.) When she went crying and running out of the room, was she expecting you to follow her? And because you didn't, is that why perhaps she is calling you “unempathetic” and “psycho”? You didn't mention how old y'all were, but she seems immature.
I'm absolutely horrible at texting. I'll read a message, reply in my head, put my phone aside for hours, remember the text a few days later. I'm not making excuses for anything – just saying that new guy honestly might not be much of a texter. I have the same insecurity so I feel you âĽ
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Iâm more concerned about your pedophile boyfriend…. Both of them are creeps preying on a girl too young for them.
You can not get divorced in less than a month. You can't grieve your marriage in a month. You can't be in a healthy place to date 2 weeks after discovering an affair. Your child can't adjust to all of those changes in a month.
It's not surprising you've rushed into an inappropriate relationship with a woman that doesn't respect you. You need therapy op, as will your child if you keep making bad decisions.
Thank you so much
And if you were fertile and still didnât want kids but he managed to get you pregnant but you were terrified of it and the pregnancy was awful and you died during childbirth would you forgive him for something like that?
And if you were fertile and still didnât want kids but he got you pregnant and the pregnancy went well and the baby was born but you felt no love or connection to it, being a mother was hell to you and while struggling with motherhood you kept thinking about how your entire dreams were crushed forever but a drop of cum thru a hole in the condom, and the man turned out to be abusive, he disrespected you again in many other ways, but you couldnât leave him because of the guilt about leaving your baby or finances, and you were stuck, alone, miserable, for years and years⌠would you forgive him for something like that?
I have a feeling this is fake.
You can still be groomed by an abuser even if you are over 18.
How manipulative đ Iâm sorry.
Your right mate. I've not had any issues. If they say no just move on. It's no big issue.
Your right mate. I've not had any issues. If they say no just move on. It's no big issue.
how did I cheat when he put his hand on my throat and I pushed him off? Me and this person were friends, that hung out and had a friendship prior to things happening. And why would I automatically assume an invitation from a FRIEND, a platonic friend, would be for sex. The boundaries of me being in a relationship with someone was set. I didnât put myself in a situation to get assaulted, let alone have someoneâs hand on my fucking throat. Someone in the military whoâs basically trained to fight.
You forgot drinking and getting physical
Legally. I'm not on the main house. He's not on the vacation house. Utility bills are split equally. We file taxes separately. Etc.
She's not hiding anything, she was trying to be gentle about not wanting to be with you.
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Am I close-minded on the issue
I think that's a weird way to phrase it, but yes you're being close minded about how people use their faces to express themselves. It's not rude or disrespectful to have an emotional reaction within yourself. It affects you zero what she does with her eyes, and yes it is a very common and easy way to express frustration and exhaustion.
I roll my eyes at myself all day, I roll my eyes at Karen's in public, I roll my eyes when my partner does something I've told him 50 thousand times not to do (ie put the junk mail on the first surface he sees instead of the trash), I roll my eyes when my mom is condescending. I roll my eyes to express myself without being verbally confrontational. I roll them for ME! I roll them to take a second and chillllll so I don't cause a problem out of an annoyance, and then I throw the trash away myself or I walk away or I breathe and try and calmly discuss. My facial expressions are not disrespectful.
Than you have validated her point that she has nothing to offer him to stay. She knows he wants kids. He wants kids. Yes there is all of those things there is also the days your kid goes with you to watch your favorite movies. You take your child out for lunch at your favorite steak house. The day you take your son to his first baseball game. The day you take your daughter out for a Saturday afternoon bike ride around a lake.
You make memories that will last a lifetime because when you are dying on your death bed you arenât thinking of the spreadsheet that had a V lookup that didnât work. Or the tax lot of securities that you couldnât figure out the purchase price. No thatâs not what you are remembering. Itâs the experiences of those events you shared with your children.
Police first, second share your recording from your coffee shop meeting (in person, with context) with the friends that youâre bothered about.
And obviously, Iâd stay to fuck away from that nutcase!
Truth? Move on. It was only 2 months and in that 2 months, she told you the relationship was too much work. Iâm really sorry.
No he gave up not you. This is his failure and itâs naked but accepting itâs over and making plans for you and your daughter moving forward is whatâs best for you both.
He can regret it and still be unfit to date or marry a WOC. Imagine the things he says behind her back. As an Indigenous woman, I wouldnât accept a whiff of racism OR this this type of ignorance. There are plenty of nice white men out there, if thatâs what youâre looking for, and lots of them arenât actively problematic.
RereAd your own post.
What would you tell your BFF in this situation?
Drop him and seek individual counseling to determine why your self worth/esteem is so low that you put up with this level of disrespect.
You deserve to be cherished, respected and loyalty.
Ffs, this is useless.
I think we can both agree that diet and exercise play a crucial role. My boyfriend doesnât drink, but he sure loves his fast food and soda.
Tell her u want it. It doesn't matter when she told u anything. So she ll be drinking less and she only has short time to go. It doesn't matter if you love her or not after.
So do you like being a Mommy's Boy or do you want to grow up and have a life? Like being the moderator of a plastidip sub LMFAO
Nothing to clear up. Is there anything that he does exclusively? No job or task that he does because you simply can't or don't like to?
Like I said, if you can't do this thing for him then I suspect that crux of the issue in the relationship is something deeper.
Iâm texting her
I don't talk to her like this because she doesn't make random assumptions or name call or call me an idiot without knowing me.
I am not. Perhaps I should talk to my doctor about this.
Break up and grow a backbone in your next relationship
Nah, this ainât worth it. Labels and exclusivity donât matter. She clearly has you as a backup in case her ex decides that he doesnât want to get back with her. Do you really wanna stick around so that you can be second choice? Find someone that wants to make you their first choice and actually who wants to be in a relationship with you and not their ex.
Based.
Source: Me after I lost my dog and a shit ton of money after I left my abusive partner.
Based.
Source: Me after I lost my dog and a shit ton of money after I left my abusive partner.
5,800 square feet us not a typical home at all.
He doesnât owe you friendship and you have no right to demand nor expect a chance to earn it back. You had your chance, and if he doesnât want to give you another one, that is 100% HIS prerogative.
Maybe in time he will cool off and reach out, but the worst thing you can do is try to harangue him into communicating again.
These are imperative years when it comes to growing and becoming who you are. Donât let that fire be extinguished. Fucking flourish.
That doesnât feel like a super kind way to express that message. (Itâs also not just a few days my period can sometimes last up to a month because of my PCOS) He has a high sex drive too and itâs naked on him because he wants to still have sex but canât get over the mental block of it.