Yes bring it up. Some childless adults need to be explained that children are in fact small human beings rather than objects. Some parents too, for that matter.
Underwear modeling is something that a significant other might not be comfortable with their partner doing. Especially if they’re not a model already so I can see why he’s upset about it.
I hate his reaction though. You’re right that he can’t forbid you from doing something. And he never should have involved your mom, that’s crossing a line.
If this is a normal reaction for him I’d say you need to think if this is the kind of relationship you want. But if he hasn’t had reactions like this before I would be curious exactly how the conversation of you bringing this up went.
If you talked about it and he explained that’s this is a boundary for him and you just decided to do it anyway then I can see how it blew up. Not saying his reaction was justified or right, but if my spouse suddenly decided they wanted to be an underwear model and didn’t care how I felt about it I would be upset.
I'm concerned that you don't want to do chores at your moms house. You'll have chores to do anywhere you live!.
Fair enough response. The “uncomfortable” aspect I was referring to is regarding things like them asking me to be their designated driver, or asking me to pick them up when they get shitfaced, which does make me uncomfortable. I do clean up after myself, but being asked to clean up after my step-dad because he refuses to also makes me uncomfortable. Back when my mom was single and it was just me and her living together, I cleaned up after dinner almost every single night. No problems there. Sorry if I gave too much info, I tried to keep it vague in the post.
Stay in your room the majority of the time, tidy up after yourself, pay your rent on time, be careful not to damage any property.
Lucky for me that's how I already online, lol. The increased independence will make the quality of life much higher, though. Thanks for the reply!
Unless she's going to be out crazy late, I don't care. Even then, it's only because if she isn't home I start to worry
Yes bring it up. Some childless adults need to be explained that children are in fact small human beings rather than objects. Some parents too, for that matter.
This is tricky.
Underwear modeling is something that a significant other might not be comfortable with their partner doing. Especially if they’re not a model already so I can see why he’s upset about it.
I hate his reaction though. You’re right that he can’t forbid you from doing something. And he never should have involved your mom, that’s crossing a line.
If this is a normal reaction for him I’d say you need to think if this is the kind of relationship you want. But if he hasn’t had reactions like this before I would be curious exactly how the conversation of you bringing this up went.
If you talked about it and he explained that’s this is a boundary for him and you just decided to do it anyway then I can see how it blew up. Not saying his reaction was justified or right, but if my spouse suddenly decided they wanted to be an underwear model and didn’t care how I felt about it I would be upset.
I'm concerned that you don't want to do chores at your moms house. You'll have chores to do anywhere you live!.
Fair enough response. The “uncomfortable” aspect I was referring to is regarding things like them asking me to be their designated driver, or asking me to pick them up when they get shitfaced, which does make me uncomfortable. I do clean up after myself, but being asked to clean up after my step-dad because he refuses to also makes me uncomfortable. Back when my mom was single and it was just me and her living together, I cleaned up after dinner almost every single night. No problems there. Sorry if I gave too much info, I tried to keep it vague in the post.
Stay in your room the majority of the time, tidy up after yourself, pay your rent on time, be careful not to damage any property.
Lucky for me that's how I already online, lol. The increased independence will make the quality of life much higher, though. Thanks for the reply!
Consent is simple, and if you don't understand it or think it's a “loaded” term, you're an idiot.