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I was in your position about five years ago. Not Latin but Polish Catholic, very religious mother. I was going to church only to appease my mom. She goes to church every day and her life revolves around the community. It works for her and there is nothing wrong with those who do.
I know a lot of people here are saying “just say no” and shut her down when she asks which may work too, but this is what I did and now her and I have a good relationship.
I had to have a really tough conversation one day where I told her that I am very thankful for the life and teachings the church gave me as a kid and that it has given me some great values. However, I do not find myself pulled towards going to church every Sunday and although I respect those who do, it would be lovely to have the respect reciprocated back. I told her that I do not feel guilty whatsoever and that I can still be a good person without going to church every week. I told her that I found myself lying to her about a lot of things (like going to church) and that I no longer want to do that because I’d rather be honest with her even if it’s not what she wants to hear. Ask your mom if she would also prefer this. It was quite difficult for my mom but it was a necessary conversation that she ultimately accepted and now our relationship is really good. I am sure she would love it and hopes that I one day go back to church regularly but for the time being she doesn’t bug me about it.
Bit odd to let each other know tbh, unless she wanted you to use it on her. I don’t think I’ve ever asked before getting toys and I’ve offered to get them for my fiancé but if he had responded with the above, I would’ve questioned his insecurities and pettiness.
I was in your position about five years ago. Not Latin but Polish Catholic, very religious mother. I was going to church only to appease my mom. She goes to church every day and her life revolves around the community. It works for her and there is nothing wrong with those who do.
I know a lot of people here are saying “just say no” and shut her down when she asks which may work too, but this is what I did and now her and I have a good relationship.
I had to have a really tough conversation one day where I told her that I am very thankful for the life and teachings the church gave me as a kid and that it has given me some great values. However, I do not find myself pulled towards going to church every Sunday and although I respect those who do, it would be lovely to have the respect reciprocated back. I told her that I do not feel guilty whatsoever and that I can still be a good person without going to church every week. I told her that I found myself lying to her about a lot of things (like going to church) and that I no longer want to do that because I’d rather be honest with her even if it’s not what she wants to hear. Ask your mom if she would also prefer this. It was quite difficult for my mom but it was a necessary conversation that she ultimately accepted and now our relationship is really good. I am sure she would love it and hopes that I one day go back to church regularly but for the time being she doesn’t bug me about it.
Hope this helps!
Bit odd to let each other know tbh, unless she wanted you to use it on her. I don’t think I’ve ever asked before getting toys and I’ve offered to get them for my fiancé but if he had responded with the above, I would’ve questioned his insecurities and pettiness.
Make this third breakup with him the one that sticks.
Why are people getting married this young?!
Does anyone have any advice for what I should do now?
Yes, you should get out of Reddit and go straight to therapy to treat you self steem issues.