I would divorce any spouse who treated my child this way and didn’t see a problem with it. Stop trying to “balance” things – choose your daughter. She is innocent and completely dependent on you. Your wife has it completely in her power to be a better parent (and stop being an asshole) and she’s choosing not to. Stop trying to make it work and tell her unless she changes her behaviour she can sign divorce papers.
Then break up with her? Again you are saying it's not a big deal, but it clearly is
He the side piece.
I would divorce any spouse who treated my child this way and didn’t see a problem with it. Stop trying to “balance” things – choose your daughter. She is innocent and completely dependent on you. Your wife has it completely in her power to be a better parent (and stop being an asshole) and she’s choosing not to. Stop trying to make it work and tell her unless she changes her behaviour she can sign divorce papers.