External stress in my partner is just as important to our relationship as me regulating my emotions. Relationships take two people being open and honest with how they feel. And, I'm not assuming I'm without blame. She's obviously not getting what she emotionally or physically needs from me, and that's okay. People grow apart, and blame isn't needed to respectfully separate. All I know is that she is conflicted, and that hurts, but in no way does that mean I must surrender and allow my boundaries to be compromised. We've openly discussed them with each other as we grew up and changed throughout our relationship. Dismissing her actions to assume my feelings are invalid is an insecure trauma response, too. I've been working with a therapist since I was 19 because I, like her, suffer from adverse childhood experiences. I've encouraged her to come with, or go alone, to see a therapist for years, and she freely chooses not to go. And that's okay.
External stress in my partner is just as important to our relationship as me regulating my emotions. Relationships take two people being open and honest with how they feel. And, I'm not assuming I'm without blame. She's obviously not getting what she emotionally or physically needs from me, and that's okay. People grow apart, and blame isn't needed to respectfully separate. All I know is that she is conflicted, and that hurts, but in no way does that mean I must surrender and allow my boundaries to be compromised. We've openly discussed them with each other as we grew up and changed throughout our relationship. Dismissing her actions to assume my feelings are invalid is an insecure trauma response, too. I've been working with a therapist since I was 19 because I, like her, suffer from adverse childhood experiences. I've encouraged her to come with, or go alone, to see a therapist for years, and she freely chooses not to go. And that's okay.
it could cause more issues with her dad/escalate the situation