Yes, those are all clear signs and symptoms of alcoholism. Sounds like he’s likely at the point of physical dependency “, so abruptly stopping could be lethal via seizures. Medical detox would be the best bet if him and the rest of your family ever decide it’s time for him to get his shit together. It doesn’t sound like he’ll be willing to do that anytime soon from your description but best of luck.
The thing that's always the saddest about people in this situation is that if only they'd broaden their own horizons they'd find plenty of people willing to date them and even forge strong and meaningful relationships with them. There are “ugly” women out there who could make you very happy if only you'd give them a chance. It's not your looks that are keeping you single, it's that your definition of “women” probably only includes conventionally attractive women.
This does seem like the biggest issue. Whether she uses the account or just her friends do, she’s saying “Hey hun, I want to toy with the emotions of other people for no reason but my own amusement: you’re OK with that, right?”
It doesn't matter what your grandpas issues are, and remember that one or both of your parents were exposed to the same conditioning and as a result, same denial. It doesn't matter what label is placed on it, you have unresolved trauma. Emotional immaturity doesn't negate the fact that treating children that way and withholding love is exceedingly traumatic to the child.
Sure, but the reality is that he doesn't want kids, even if he has no legal recourse as you claim. What about the kids? You want to birth children with the knowledge that their father doesn't want them? Just because something is one way on paper doesn't make the ramifications of the issue in reality go away?
I never thought of it that way and I appreciate you explaining it like that.
It's not just a red flag, it's a red door with an exit sign. End it.
Yes, those are all clear signs and symptoms of alcoholism. Sounds like he’s likely at the point of physical dependency “, so abruptly stopping could be lethal via seizures. Medical detox would be the best bet if him and the rest of your family ever decide it’s time for him to get his shit together. It doesn’t sound like he’ll be willing to do that anytime soon from your description but best of luck.
Is keeping love letters not also weird? I wouldn’t be thrilled to find my current partner had them unless it was like someone who died or something
Send him food. He's at a loss for words.
Please the wife be 21 when getting married not now.
She only told OP after multiple texts and calls trying to confirm.
You're POS assuming this is real. Erik used you like the gross thing that you are.
The thing that's always the saddest about people in this situation is that if only they'd broaden their own horizons they'd find plenty of people willing to date them and even forge strong and meaningful relationships with them. There are “ugly” women out there who could make you very happy if only you'd give them a chance. It's not your looks that are keeping you single, it's that your definition of “women” probably only includes conventionally attractive women.
Well then if you don’t have balls to leave enjoy staying with a cheater their is nothing else to tell you
This does seem like the biggest issue. Whether she uses the account or just her friends do, she’s saying “Hey hun, I want to toy with the emotions of other people for no reason but my own amusement: you’re OK with that, right?”
It doesn't matter what your grandpas issues are, and remember that one or both of your parents were exposed to the same conditioning and as a result, same denial. It doesn't matter what label is placed on it, you have unresolved trauma. Emotional immaturity doesn't negate the fact that treating children that way and withholding love is exceedingly traumatic to the child.
Exclusive for 3 months and he's already cheating, Leave him.
You know he can recover the videos, right?
Sure, but the reality is that he doesn't want kids, even if he has no legal recourse as you claim. What about the kids? You want to birth children with the knowledge that their father doesn't want them? Just because something is one way on paper doesn't make the ramifications of the issue in reality go away?