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When you marry into another family, your eyes open up to things you might have ignored/not noticed/not given a hoot about in your own family of origin. For example, maybe a marriage in the new family looks different from what you're used to and you realize spouses didn't treat each other well in front of you. If the difference is vast enough, it can then become very difficult to ignore the differences, dysfunction, etc. I think it's likely your brother found out about a different way of being a family when he married his wife, and something about the way they do things feels more comfortable for him. It doesn't necessarily have to be a rejection of you guys, nor does it necessarily mean they think you guys are bad. Maybe it's as simple as preferring them just because of vibes. Maybe they treat him in a way he feels more supported by. It's totally possible that there is no offense here, merely an evolution of preferences and priorities.
However, it's also important for you to recognize that you guys are a blended family. And not just any blended family, but one that came together out of what sounds like some pretty severe conflict and pain. You joined your families together but you do not have the same family nor the same experiences or relationships within that family. For example, take his age into account. He's a full decade older than you. He had an extra 10 years with your mom and you simply can't know how she behaved during that time because you weren't there. He also had 10 more years of experience and awareness when your families merged, which means he once again had a dramatically different experience and knowledge set during that time. Your parents easily could have been significantly different with him than they have been with you, and your young age and lack of big life experiences will further cloud your perceptions of things between them. You admit your dad is a harsh, strict man. You also said his own dad was piece of work. Many things may have happened between the 3 of them to create this dynamic and you simply wouldn't have noticed because you were still a kid yourself.
So, going into this you need to make sure there is no attacking, no anger, no making him justify himself. You need to be prepared to learn that he has realized things he doesn't appreciate about your parents/life growing up and he's working through the slow and painful process of going NC or LC with his family. Go into this as a info gathering mission, not an attack. Leave your assumptions and existing viewpoint at home. Go into this with a simple, “I have noticed some changes in our family dynamics since your engagement. I feel confused because I'm struggling to figure out what could have caused this shift. Can you maybe help me understand what is going on? I love you and want to support you achieve your goals, but I think I'm going to struggle to do that if I can't understand this new dynamic. Did something happen between you guys and our parents that I maybe don't know about? “
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I matched with him on a dating app and we have been talking for a few months now. I didn't think I'd ever get along with somone that much older than me, but still decided to give it a go. And now I really like him, I think we get along really well and would want to have smth more serious later on. He's also my first in some things so I feel like it might have had an affect on how I view him.
However after talking with my friends they found that age gap to be huge and that it doesn't sound great. And that's making me doubt everything. And some said even if it's not an issue now, years into the relationship that generational difference might be an issue so because of that I should go with someone younger.
So I'm not sure if I should keep on going with him or just end things because of the age gap?
And is there anyone out there with happy long term relationships with a similar age gap?
Ok, well from your comment, I’d suggest you take therapy seriously. Things change, now that you are older and more assured of yourself, your probably giving off a more confident feel and people are picking up on it. You don’t have to be alone and you don’t have to be stuck at 16. My bestfriend married a 44 year old that had no kids and only 1 prior relationship. Now they have 2 kids and been married 9 years, his mom always said she has given up hope that he would have a family. Hell He says it all The time as well, but now they have this great family. The first half of your life can look much different from the next half. On-line life buddy, you could be enjoying so much more of it.
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