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I think you need to ask yourself your reasonings for wanting to tell her? I get being pissed off and feeling hurt but there is a bit of spite undertone to reading your post. Are you wanting to tell her out of spite under the guise that you have her back but it's just a way to punish him by exposing him ? I don't agree with his behaviour but you also know nothing about their relationship or her and don't even really really know him. They online in a whole other country, you might ruin this girls life even though you think you're doing her a favour, but who are you to decided that for her? I would just take the hit, accept it and move on and let it be. If you all lived in the same city or country and you and him were continuing your relationship and then you found out then that would change things. I dunno. Just feels like you want to tell her because he hurt you and now you want to hurt him by telling his girlfriend. Just feel like she might an innocent person getting caught in the crossfire ….. especial when you know nothing about her or the details of their relationship ??♀️ I don't think people should cheat if they're in a committed monogamous relationship, just don't be in one or be in a open relationship or polyamorous……I do think sometimes people make mistakes though…… you have no idea what either of these 2 people are going through etc. Also they live in another country. Let it go and move on, let them deal with their business.
For sure. I hope the conversation goes well. She is probably used to antagonism in her romantic relationships, but clearly you care for her well-being, & hopefully she recognizes that as well.
I dont tend to post photos of my kids on social media and I think a lot more parents are starting to do the same so I wouldn't think that's weird.
That being said there being no evidence of him at the house is weird. I'm the kind of person who hates kids clutter around the house, so they've to confine their stuff to their rooms when not in use.
Even then, theres still evidence of kids living here, their toothbrushes, kiddy shampoo, one of the games consoles in the living room. They're on the Netflix/disneyplus/prime accounts.
He abused her cat that’s the only reaction. Wtf is up with ppl thinking this is acceptable behavior. It’s literally an elderly cat their bones are brittle
This is what I'm wondering too. I mean, I absolutely agree with the other comments that he shouldn't have to stay in a stressful situation like this if he doesn't want to.
But if I knew my SO had a trigger like this… Id go out of my way to find a way of avoiding the trigger. An example of that would be not hugging them from behind. Perhaps announcing my presence verbally, and communicating with them about coming up with a subtle signal together that would allow me to check if it's alright to get that close.
Idk. It just seems weird that this was a known problem before, but neither OP nor his (ex)gf have come up with a way to communicate about this.
Even if she had a moment to see who he was – that's a split second really. I don't think the comments here are really fair in implying that this is some power play on her part.
This is amazing and so very helpful, thank you so much. 🙂
We're not in student housing, we are in residential housing, so I'm trapped, unfortunately. I've already paid my contract for the year. But I'm just hoping to “grey-rock” her (as someone else said upthread) and avoid being close to her until I move out.
No, I don't know anyone who is treated by her. I'm very concerned as well, which is why I will let someone know about her behaviour.
Why do I get the feeling that her already telling people under the “guise of being concerned” was to ruin my reputation?
Hopefully, once I block her (which I will) she won't be able to ruin me even if she wanted to. Can she?
“Darling, I love you and respect you, but I’m not about to change how I dress at home when I’m relaxing. If that’s a problem then it might be a good idea for you to start looking for your own place again.”
The issue is when the two are in completely separate stages of life. When OP’s friend and her fiancé met, she was probably fresh from high school and he was the age where he’d be a year+ out of college. Completely different stages mentally and in maturity. It would have the same connotation if the genders were flipped, not just “women” at 18. If she was 23 and he was 18 the statement would still stand.
I’ve read all of your posts and comments. You are young and naive. You are kinda TA for your attitude and inability to see beyond your own nose. But no one is helping you with your question. Should you attend the wedding; as it stand now, no. However I would suggest you call your friend and ask her outright. Be honest; be vulnerable. Respect her answer and comply with it. Then you’ll know. (OP I suspect, this girl won’t want to be your friend much longer if you don’t exercise the ability to think about someone other than yourself.) Good Luck.
Which is why I was saying… they would be more forgiving of bad sex if they got to know my personality first and not just jump right into sex after the first 4 dates.
This is one of those things that sounds true until you see actually that it is simply not the way thinks work and you wouldn't know unless you've seen how it doesn't
It's not the worst age gap ever…depends where you both are in life, and what you both are looking for. I know people in their young twenties more mature and put together than people in their 40s. Just beware a power dynamic. You're not like a kid or anything, but just keep your eyes open for him trying to subtly change your behavior.
I think you’re dating beneath you. You’ve got a toxic situation is going on around you. That aren’t even your issue. She’s got children from other men, you’re 28 years old. This is not a great relationship.
She’s going to choose whether or not to sleep with him herself. But she also needs to know if she’s going to choose to continue to sleep with him that she will need to take BC and buy her own protection for herself. Yes it’s fine for us to tell her don’t do it but how many times do people actually listen to others opinions?
This is what I’m thinking or either he wants me to spell it out coz he did mention before it’s my house so he didn’t wanna be forward, it’s only when he’s invited
She didn’t tell you. That’s on her. Your not a transphobe you just like them women fully equipped with all the aftermarket parts. The way you found out is traumatizing. She should have known better. Most tf will tell you immediately so you can make an informed decision. You should call her and inform her that how she went about this was wrong. She should have told you. Let you make an informed decision. Sorry kiddo.
Today she spit in you face, tomorrow she will throw a mug and break your nose, next week she will push you to the ground while telling you it’s your fault and if you would just listen it would not happen.
Leave, tell that piece of trash you deserve better and she can go find someone else to spit on and there are no second chances.
I think you need to ask yourself your reasonings for wanting to tell her? I get being pissed off and feeling hurt but there is a bit of spite undertone to reading your post. Are you wanting to tell her out of spite under the guise that you have her back but it's just a way to punish him by exposing him ? I don't agree with his behaviour but you also know nothing about their relationship or her and don't even really really know him. They online in a whole other country, you might ruin this girls life even though you think you're doing her a favour, but who are you to decided that for her? I would just take the hit, accept it and move on and let it be. If you all lived in the same city or country and you and him were continuing your relationship and then you found out then that would change things. I dunno. Just feels like you want to tell her because he hurt you and now you want to hurt him by telling his girlfriend. Just feel like she might an innocent person getting caught in the crossfire ….. especial when you know nothing about her or the details of their relationship ??♀️ I don't think people should cheat if they're in a committed monogamous relationship, just don't be in one or be in a open relationship or polyamorous……I do think sometimes people make mistakes though…… you have no idea what either of these 2 people are going through etc. Also they live in another country. Let it go and move on, let them deal with their business.
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50+ and she's agreed to be exclusive is a bad sign. You could ask her about it.
For sure. I hope the conversation goes well. She is probably used to antagonism in her romantic relationships, but clearly you care for her well-being, & hopefully she recognizes that as well.
I dont tend to post photos of my kids on social media and I think a lot more parents are starting to do the same so I wouldn't think that's weird.
That being said there being no evidence of him at the house is weird. I'm the kind of person who hates kids clutter around the house, so they've to confine their stuff to their rooms when not in use.
Even then, theres still evidence of kids living here, their toothbrushes, kiddy shampoo, one of the games consoles in the living room. They're on the Netflix/disneyplus/prime accounts.
I'd trust your gut and speak to her
How about he grow up and be more mature to focus on the future and know how put up with finance and expenses .
He abused her cat that’s the only reaction. Wtf is up with ppl thinking this is acceptable behavior. It’s literally an elderly cat their bones are brittle
This is what I'm wondering too. I mean, I absolutely agree with the other comments that he shouldn't have to stay in a stressful situation like this if he doesn't want to.
But if I knew my SO had a trigger like this… Id go out of my way to find a way of avoiding the trigger. An example of that would be not hugging them from behind. Perhaps announcing my presence verbally, and communicating with them about coming up with a subtle signal together that would allow me to check if it's alright to get that close.
Idk. It just seems weird that this was a known problem before, but neither OP nor his (ex)gf have come up with a way to communicate about this.
Even if she had a moment to see who he was – that's a split second really. I don't think the comments here are really fair in implying that this is some power play on her part.
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This is amazing and so very helpful, thank you so much. 🙂
We're not in student housing, we are in residential housing, so I'm trapped, unfortunately. I've already paid my contract for the year. But I'm just hoping to “grey-rock” her (as someone else said upthread) and avoid being close to her until I move out.
No, I don't know anyone who is treated by her. I'm very concerned as well, which is why I will let someone know about her behaviour.
Why do I get the feeling that her already telling people under the “guise of being concerned” was to ruin my reputation?
Hopefully, once I block her (which I will) she won't be able to ruin me even if she wanted to. Can she?
i LOVE that we are all pissed off that OP wants to apologize!
Send all your friends a like to this post. and let the hateful friend eat butt. she is a bad person, and obviously jealous.
I don't like your other friends that much either that just sat there and let her talk and talk.
“Darling, I love you and respect you, but I’m not about to change how I dress at home when I’m relaxing. If that’s a problem then it might be a good idea for you to start looking for your own place again.”
That’s how you resolve it.
The issue is when the two are in completely separate stages of life. When OP’s friend and her fiancé met, she was probably fresh from high school and he was the age where he’d be a year+ out of college. Completely different stages mentally and in maturity. It would have the same connotation if the genders were flipped, not just “women” at 18. If she was 23 and he was 18 the statement would still stand.
Honestly I think this is less of an issue that you think.
He was probably using this opportunity as a “bro space” where he could vent a bit and have other men commiserate.
Was it inappropriate? Most definitely.
But it feels like from his multiple apologies thar this was a minor lapse in judgement rather than any major transgression.
Ignore the Redditors who want to put his head on a spike. Once he's apologised, the best thing to do is laugh about it and move on.
I’ve read all of your posts and comments. You are young and naive. You are kinda TA for your attitude and inability to see beyond your own nose. But no one is helping you with your question. Should you attend the wedding; as it stand now, no. However I would suggest you call your friend and ask her outright. Be honest; be vulnerable. Respect her answer and comply with it. Then you’ll know. (OP I suspect, this girl won’t want to be your friend much longer if you don’t exercise the ability to think about someone other than yourself.) Good Luck.
I do actually.
If what one encounters makes one bothered with oneself we may need a place to think things through and sort them out first.
He question was:
is it him or is it me?
It's her.
Question is: where is her lesson? What can SHE learn?
Being envious of somebody means we do see faculties in that other person we suppress, don't like or think we don't have in us.
Yet: what we see is ourselves. Not the other one.
Other people tend to serve as our mirrors.
Which is why I was saying… they would be more forgiving of bad sex if they got to know my personality first and not just jump right into sex after the first 4 dates.
This is one of those things that sounds true until you see actually that it is simply not the way thinks work and you wouldn't know unless you've seen how it doesn't
It's not the worst age gap ever…depends where you both are in life, and what you both are looking for. I know people in their young twenties more mature and put together than people in their 40s. Just beware a power dynamic. You're not like a kid or anything, but just keep your eyes open for him trying to subtly change your behavior.
I think you’re dating beneath you. You’ve got a toxic situation is going on around you. That aren’t even your issue. She’s got children from other men, you’re 28 years old. This is not a great relationship.
It honestly isn’t that serious
She’s going to choose whether or not to sleep with him herself. But she also needs to know if she’s going to choose to continue to sleep with him that she will need to take BC and buy her own protection for herself. Yes it’s fine for us to tell her don’t do it but how many times do people actually listen to others opinions?
This is what I’m thinking or either he wants me to spell it out coz he did mention before it’s my house so he didn’t wanna be forward, it’s only when he’s invited
She didn’t tell you. That’s on her. Your not a transphobe you just like them women fully equipped with all the aftermarket parts. The way you found out is traumatizing. She should have known better. Most tf will tell you immediately so you can make an informed decision. You should call her and inform her that how she went about this was wrong. She should have told you. Let you make an informed decision. Sorry kiddo.
Now that would be petty. And beautiful.
The relationship btw that sounded dark asf ?
Today she spit in you face, tomorrow she will throw a mug and break your nose, next week she will push you to the ground while telling you it’s your fault and if you would just listen it would not happen.
Leave, tell that piece of trash you deserve better and she can go find someone else to spit on and there are no second chances.
come clean
You don't love him
If you did you wouldn't have cheated and continued to cheat
What would “trying harder” look like? What do you think you would need to do to solve all the problems in this relationship?
So no, you are not a lawyer with any professional expertise in this matter to advise OP on “how it works.”
Well, at least you can learn from it and move on. We all make mistakes and bad decisions. Just apart of life