If you feel like a compromise then: Why don’t you both share all financial information with each other. You can both discuss things including longer term financial goals. But as long as your finances are separate then he can’t control your spending as long as you both are contributing, at least proportionally , with current expenses and long term savings.
That's a very easy case to win in court.
If you feel like a compromise then: Why don’t you both share all financial information with each other. You can both discuss things including longer term financial goals. But as long as your finances are separate then he can’t control your spending as long as you both are contributing, at least proportionally , with current expenses and long term savings.