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Well. Homeboy said he wouldn’t. And he did. And continued to do so. I can see why she’s hurt. He’s young asf though and I feel like it’s inescapable at that age to not be so heavily into porn. I was. And like I said, it totally fucked with my brain. I’m 35 now. I’m not crusading for hurt women. I’m admitting porn warped my brain too as a woman. I used to watch a ton of it. Now I have major issues around body image and what sex is. It’s pretty lame.
However when you begin dating someone you shouldn’t say you’re not going to do something if you really plan on continuing with that behavior. Like, for me. I won’t date anyone who has/had a dependence on heroin. That’s a boundary. Ofc what someone does in their own time isn’t something you can control but you can choose whether or not you stay in that situation. Because your boundaries aren’t being respected or considered. I guess that’s my issue here. That was an expectation established at the beginning of dating this young woman and he agreed.
I just think it’s bullshit how many people defend the use of porn like it’s bananas for women to be upset or hurt that men choose to consume sexual content frequently of other women. I know if I were masturbating to some dude all the time that looked nothing like my husband he would hate it. But when it’s about men, who are vIsUaL, it’s like some weird pass. Which sucks.
You would definitely rather be getting his honesty than lying to you and saying it back only to have it come back and haunt you when his emotional unavailability rears it head down the line
He's not going to change (and maybe for a someone else he wouldn't need to), and your not happy with him how he is. So it's time to end things so you can be happy.
Yeah it sounds like she made some casual comments about wanting a cute puppy, not serious well considered requests for a dog, and unfortunately OP decided to make that a reality.
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I gotta do something to occupy my mind. They're not related, and maybe don't feel or never really felt related, but I am related to both of them so I don't know it makes connections in my mind that aren't really there that make me really uneasy. Even if it's baseless and irrational on my part, I can't make it right in my mind that two of my blood relations are probably sleeping together
Red flag. He met you how you were and is now trying to change you. I think you should dump him. He's shallow and is probably wanting you to dress like an IG thot.
I think you are being somewhat controlling. You meet people where they are at. He works in an industry that has people he works with periodically that he has had sex with. If he doesn't work with those people, he would be limiting who he can work with. Some people have a flirtatious way of speaking and while it would be nice if he toned it down, you can't tell someone how to behave.
It sounds like you both are incompatible, and that neither of you are bad people. You do seem insecure and he sounds like a flirt. You would probably do better with someone who has a more predictable job, and a more reserved personality.
You should never have to give up a social life for someone. Her insecurities are not yours to bare qnd I'd seriously recommend she look into getting some help for those insecurities. It's unhealthy.
Yeah I’d distance myself from that and if she tries to say anything else tell her well I tried and you were being crappy to me. You don’t need that type of treatment, even if it’s a sibling.
Oh god forbid he feed himself for a few days. You're so “extra”! I hate this man. He doesn't love you. He loves a version of you that no longer exists, and the reason he loved that version is it helped him tolerate himself, so completely for selfish reasons. People who love you will encourage you to pursue happiness, not hold you back to be unhappy with them.
In her case I’m sure one of her eyes is always off to one side / looking in another direction but I believe that’s all it is I’m pretty uneducated about it
You don't feel good enough. You worry that she'd leave you for someone more successful. You need to talk with her and ask her why she wants you, in particular, in her life. And not the superficial reasons (like she thinks you are cute, or good in bed, or enjoys your cooking, or you like the same TV shows), but something more profound.
The kinds of things I'm thinking of are like these:
“You accept me in a way no one has, not even my parents.” “I feel safe with you in a way I haven't felt since I was a child.” “You get me to see the humor in my life, when I thought I was boring and dull.”
You can see how these work on a more fundamental level, on our vulnerabilities. If your girlfriend told you something like one of those, it would probably help you understand that you mean more to her than extra cash coming in.
However, if she's not used to reflection, or thinking about herself, she might not have a ready answer. You can talk about what profound reasons to want a relationship may be (give those examples), and ask her to take a few days to think about it, and tell you later what ideas she's had.
Let’s get this straight your fiancé and your mom stole this dress on purpose and withheld it hoping to force you into submission about what they wanted you to do. Take this as the giant red flag it is and break it off with your disgusting fiancé. I would also go no or very low contact with your mom too. Hopefully, they will give you back the dress though.
Well. Homeboy said he wouldn’t. And he did. And continued to do so. I can see why she’s hurt. He’s young asf though and I feel like it’s inescapable at that age to not be so heavily into porn. I was. And like I said, it totally fucked with my brain. I’m 35 now. I’m not crusading for hurt women. I’m admitting porn warped my brain too as a woman. I used to watch a ton of it. Now I have major issues around body image and what sex is. It’s pretty lame.
However when you begin dating someone you shouldn’t say you’re not going to do something if you really plan on continuing with that behavior. Like, for me. I won’t date anyone who has/had a dependence on heroin. That’s a boundary. Ofc what someone does in their own time isn’t something you can control but you can choose whether or not you stay in that situation. Because your boundaries aren’t being respected or considered. I guess that’s my issue here. That was an expectation established at the beginning of dating this young woman and he agreed.
I just think it’s bullshit how many people defend the use of porn like it’s bananas for women to be upset or hurt that men choose to consume sexual content frequently of other women. I know if I were masturbating to some dude all the time that looked nothing like my husband he would hate it. But when it’s about men, who are vIsUaL, it’s like some weird pass. Which sucks.
100%
Not multiple times a day. Once or twice a week would be nice
The insecurity is a bit too obvious from the post. Nothing new here
You would definitely rather be getting his honesty than lying to you and saying it back only to have it come back and haunt you when his emotional unavailability rears it head down the line
He's not going to change (and maybe for a someone else he wouldn't need to), and your not happy with him how he is. So it's time to end things so you can be happy.
Yeah it sounds like she made some casual comments about wanting a cute puppy, not serious well considered requests for a dog, and unfortunately OP decided to make that a reality.
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I gotta do something to occupy my mind. They're not related, and maybe don't feel or never really felt related, but I am related to both of them so I don't know it makes connections in my mind that aren't really there that make me really uneasy. Even if it's baseless and irrational on my part, I can't make it right in my mind that two of my blood relations are probably sleeping together
Red flag. He met you how you were and is now trying to change you. I think you should dump him. He's shallow and is probably wanting you to dress like an IG thot.
Because Prositution is illegal?
I think you are being somewhat controlling. You meet people where they are at. He works in an industry that has people he works with periodically that he has had sex with. If he doesn't work with those people, he would be limiting who he can work with. Some people have a flirtatious way of speaking and while it would be nice if he toned it down, you can't tell someone how to behave.
It sounds like you both are incompatible, and that neither of you are bad people. You do seem insecure and he sounds like a flirt. You would probably do better with someone who has a more predictable job, and a more reserved personality.
You should never have to give up a social life for someone. Her insecurities are not yours to bare qnd I'd seriously recommend she look into getting some help for those insecurities. It's unhealthy.
Tbh i was about to comment not to chain yourself to a family that stipulates such stiff with an apartment on their grounds
And it’s completely ok to understand wanting a child doesn’t mean it’s the right time to have one. A mature man gets that, you clearly don’t
Try posting on justnofil. They give good advice and will have a resource guide for reading in the sidebar.
Yeah I’d distance myself from that and if she tries to say anything else tell her well I tried and you were being crappy to me. You don’t need that type of treatment, even if it’s a sibling.
fair point. maybe I'm not being the fool it just feels that way ig. thanks for the comment btw dude appreciate it
Well then, you know what to do!
Oh god forbid he feed himself for a few days. You're so “extra”! I hate this man. He doesn't love you. He loves a version of you that no longer exists, and the reason he loved that version is it helped him tolerate himself, so completely for selfish reasons. People who love you will encourage you to pursue happiness, not hold you back to be unhappy with them.
“lol”, she never said that in the original post
You don’t agree?
In her case I’m sure one of her eyes is always off to one side / looking in another direction but I believe that’s all it is I’m pretty uneducated about it
Probably not. She’s going to be hurt and it’s hot to go backwards in a relationship.
You don't feel good enough. You worry that she'd leave you for someone more successful. You need to talk with her and ask her why she wants you, in particular, in her life. And not the superficial reasons (like she thinks you are cute, or good in bed, or enjoys your cooking, or you like the same TV shows), but something more profound.
The kinds of things I'm thinking of are like these:
“You accept me in a way no one has, not even my parents.” “I feel safe with you in a way I haven't felt since I was a child.” “You get me to see the humor in my life, when I thought I was boring and dull.”
You can see how these work on a more fundamental level, on our vulnerabilities. If your girlfriend told you something like one of those, it would probably help you understand that you mean more to her than extra cash coming in.
However, if she's not used to reflection, or thinking about herself, she might not have a ready answer. You can talk about what profound reasons to want a relationship may be (give those examples), and ask her to take a few days to think about it, and tell you later what ideas she's had.
Listen to what she says.
Give him space. You might get your friend back
Let’s get this straight your fiancé and your mom stole this dress on purpose and withheld it hoping to force you into submission about what they wanted you to do. Take this as the giant red flag it is and break it off with your disgusting fiancé. I would also go no or very low contact with your mom too. Hopefully, they will give you back the dress though.