This is definitely frustrating. BUT DO NOT have a kid with a man who isn't sure he is ready. That is vastly different from supporting someone when they are down on their luck because you will be providing for and caring for a child as will he and if he doesn't want it, that is not fair to the child.
Very good point, I guess it is hot to let go of what my hopes were and what it had been for a couple years prior to all this
there’s no way he’s sleeping with other people (we live and work together)
You spend every waking moment together? You or he never goes out and does something without the other?
This is definitely frustrating. BUT DO NOT have a kid with a man who isn't sure he is ready. That is vastly different from supporting someone when they are down on their luck because you will be providing for and caring for a child as will he and if he doesn't want it, that is not fair to the child.