Have you explained that you need more stimulation in order to enjoy sex? It’s reasonable for your sex drive with him to go way down if he’s not actually pleasing you.
Additionally, an option could be a hair tie trick. If you’re in the mood, put a hair tie on the doorknob. It just shows you’re willing, and he can either approach or not. You could both do it. But it’s usually better done by the person with the lower libido, or if the other partner prefers to initiate.
I work at an STD clinic. I have never once done a trich swab orally. Gonorrhea and chlamydia sure.
Have you explained that you need more stimulation in order to enjoy sex? It’s reasonable for your sex drive with him to go way down if he’s not actually pleasing you.
Additionally, an option could be a hair tie trick. If you’re in the mood, put a hair tie on the doorknob. It just shows you’re willing, and he can either approach or not. You could both do it. But it’s usually better done by the person with the lower libido, or if the other partner prefers to initiate.