First off, you being able to process and vocalize your wants/needs is a huge win. None of his tantrums will change that. You should be proud of yourself.
That aside, there are a couple things I think you need to take away from this conversation. 1) He does not share the same values as you. Family isn’t as important for him as it is for you. That doesn’t make him a bad guy but if family is as important to you as you say, it makes him the wrong guy for you. 2) He made it incredibly clear that taking you out and showing love/appreciation for you is too much for him. He thinks putting in effort is you asking for too much. Believe him when he says that this is who he is. You shouldn’t have to sacrifice things that you want/need just because he can’t be arsed to do it.
It’s important that you date the person you’re with, not the potential they might have. If he wanted to do these things for you, he would. You telling him this is what you need to feel loved is great, his reaction tells you all you need to know about his intentions. Do with this information what you will but I personally think you deserve a helluva lot better than a person who thinks that the bare minimum is hard.
I must have missed that. I thought he said the dog does go outside but then wants right back inside after.
First off, you being able to process and vocalize your wants/needs is a huge win. None of his tantrums will change that. You should be proud of yourself.
That aside, there are a couple things I think you need to take away from this conversation. 1) He does not share the same values as you. Family isn’t as important for him as it is for you. That doesn’t make him a bad guy but if family is as important to you as you say, it makes him the wrong guy for you. 2) He made it incredibly clear that taking you out and showing love/appreciation for you is too much for him. He thinks putting in effort is you asking for too much. Believe him when he says that this is who he is. You shouldn’t have to sacrifice things that you want/need just because he can’t be arsed to do it.
It’s important that you date the person you’re with, not the potential they might have. If he wanted to do these things for you, he would. You telling him this is what you need to feel loved is great, his reaction tells you all you need to know about his intentions. Do with this information what you will but I personally think you deserve a helluva lot better than a person who thinks that the bare minimum is hard.