Asking for anyone's number while they're at work in a service position is uncool. They're obligated to be nice to you, literally that's that they get paid for. You're forcing them into an interaction outside work that they may not be interested in, simply because you have power over them (if they upset you, you might leave a bad review, complain to their manager, etc.). Men with bruised egos do all sorts of weird stuff and this woman doesn't know that kind of person you are, so may feel like she has to err on the side of keeping herself safe.
If you really feel like you've got a deep connection with someone in this situation, just give them your number. That way they can get in touch if they feel called to, and aren't pressured to give their sensitive info out to random people.
You've got some conflicting information. You “hooked them up” but he was the one that broke your weird code first? You don't get it both ways.
You wouldn't normally associate with cheaters but…
Your whole thing reads like you're looking for people to justify behavior you're already looking to follow through on. Specifically your bullet points towards the end.
Should you do it? Probably not, the situation sounds a bit sloppy. Does it matter if you? Probably not, you apparently don't care much for your friend and would rather hide it from him rather than be honest.
Ok well your reality isn’t everyone’s reality. Like I said to you before, I know women who are stay at home mothers and their man does not want them to work. I’m sorry if it angers you and other people, but there are men out there who are capable and want the same things I do. I don’t want to have to worry about finances and it’s not because I’m selfish. It’s because I have a vision for myself and I won’t let it go no matter what. It’s no good for people to tell me to turn away from this goal, because I won’t. What I want exist.
Asking for anyone's number while they're at work in a service position is uncool. They're obligated to be nice to you, literally that's that they get paid for. You're forcing them into an interaction outside work that they may not be interested in, simply because you have power over them (if they upset you, you might leave a bad review, complain to their manager, etc.). Men with bruised egos do all sorts of weird stuff and this woman doesn't know that kind of person you are, so may feel like she has to err on the side of keeping herself safe.
If you really feel like you've got a deep connection with someone in this situation, just give them your number. That way they can get in touch if they feel called to, and aren't pressured to give their sensitive info out to random people.
You've got some conflicting information. You “hooked them up” but he was the one that broke your weird code first? You don't get it both ways.
You wouldn't normally associate with cheaters but…
Your whole thing reads like you're looking for people to justify behavior you're already looking to follow through on. Specifically your bullet points towards the end.
Should you do it? Probably not, the situation sounds a bit sloppy. Does it matter if you? Probably not, you apparently don't care much for your friend and would rather hide it from him rather than be honest.
Ok well your reality isn’t everyone’s reality. Like I said to you before, I know women who are stay at home mothers and their man does not want them to work. I’m sorry if it angers you and other people, but there are men out there who are capable and want the same things I do. I don’t want to have to worry about finances and it’s not because I’m selfish. It’s because I have a vision for myself and I won’t let it go no matter what. It’s no good for people to tell me to turn away from this goal, because I won’t. What I want exist.