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Oh okay that’s lovely I forgot to include in the question about reaching out to an ex to hook up, have sex not just reaching out in general
That's good that she will say that. I understand how she feels as well. Perhaps see a doctor because there could be a medical condition behind this.
Fair enough, I just don’t like feeling like I hurt her feelings. I’m sure the sober follow-up conversation will be more productive.
So the only reason you want to end it is because you like him more and are worried he is going to talk to other girls because you pushed him away. Yeah, you could end it… or tell him how you feel and start dating.
Just have to ask yourself if you'd like to be happy or not?
Why do you care, F@*#$@ him.
I do not have friends like I said I'm socially stunted and very strange sorry.
OP didn't even know they knew eachother. If he wasn't hiding anything she would at bare minimum know they talked every now and again.
That does nothing to counter the list of huge red flags you just gave us. Break up, because this behavior isn't slowing down
Im a dad and my eyes are misty
You need to kick him out, as safely and quickly as possible. There is nothing to salvage.
I’m asking for kindness and understanding advice, not criticism and insults and disrespect.
I am a victim, in plenty of ways. What’s wrong with that? I get chastised for writing too much so i can explain the context better so people dont make superficial assumptions and judgments, and then they use that extra information to nitpick and be even crueller to me.
I have never encountered so many awful people in one place before, but where else am I supposed to get advice from a reasonable pool of people who can be objective and use their own experience or education on such matters to help?
The sad honest truth is that it sounds like you guys are not compatible. He wants a partner that is more present, and you aren't able to give him that as you focus on your career. It sucks but unless you want to give up your dreams, he either needs to completely adjust his expectations or you will end up breaking up.
My partner is in residency and we have been together for a decade. I knew exactly what I was getting into because he was extremely honest with me about the whole thing, and even he wasn't totally aware of how absolutely life-sucking the road to being a doctor is. I decided it was worth it, but it was an informed decision. You will need to have some real honest talks with your boyfriend about the reality of the situation – it only gets harder from here and it's not fair to either of you to sugarcoat it and string him along hoping it eventually gets better.
You are only in the beginning of a long, long, grueling road. Med school is 10x more demanding than any undergraduate classes you are taking to get into med school. Then residency is 10x more demanding than med school. We are FINALLY approaching the end of residency where we will actually have some control over our lives. It's really very hot and if he is already feeling neglected now, I don't know how you'll possibly get through it all together, as sorry as I am to say it.
Pride cometh before the fall
I'm a fool. I love being a fool. I get fooled all the time and couldn't be happier. I tried. My best. I don't regret anything. My fool is what allows me to on-line life fully.
Example. I lost 2 kids and my wife when I was 19. I didn't take it well, went into the woods for about 9months. Lived buck nude in the woods. When I came back to civilization, I was wearing a bear I had jumped out a redwood to kill with a rock. In the next 5 months I went around the world 2 times with no passport. Once by boat as a deckhand, once hitching planes. Did you know you could hitchhike a plane? I didn't before I heard a guys say it, and tried. I was a fool to listen to him, a fool to try and a fool who loved it.
Never be afraid to try, especially if your in hell already.
you don't have the guilt of being the other woman.
She probably was. Unless dude just decided to get engaged to a new person a few months after being single and sleeping with someone else.
Either way, I hope OP doesn't feel guilty because she didn't know.
I’m human too and I had urges. Nobody cared for me so why should I care for anybody else?
What’s porn???
This is a very complicated situation so I'm going to try to be as unbiased as possible here. Full disclosure, I'm a guy, happily married, and have children. When we decide we no longer want to have any more children, I'll be the first person to head over to the doctor and get snipped. From that perspective, I want to just agree with you that he should do it.
But at the end of the day, it's his body and his choice. You're obviously also dealing with some (seemingly very conservative) cultural issues here. No matter how we (as in myself and anyone else commenting) might feel about any of that, our feelings are irrelevant. That's simply how it is.
Like you obviously know, a tubal ligation is a much more serious procedure than a vasectomy. That your doctor advises against it should logically end the discussion, although I would say that you should get a second opinion as anyone should when it comes to serious medical issues.
Regardless of all that, why do these have to be the only options? I get that you had a pregnancy scare, but at the end of the day it was a freak occurrence. Birth control is still very much a reasonable option. There's also the option to use condoms.
The bigger problem here is that this has opened you up to the real issues in your relationship which are deeper than this situation. At this point, you should consider yourself lucky that you don't have children. Knowing that, why would you stay with someone who doesn't give a flying fuck about you?
Most people can't smell their own body odors. Tho when it comes to dating, I'd rather have my partner take care of himself and not have any body odor too
Victim blaming is fucking gross even in a suspected false narrative.
Fuck off.
I mean, would you expect this guy to be still be attracted to you if your looks changed? Like you dyed your hair or gained weight? If so, you kinda suck for not being as gracious to him.
Umm…could you two wait a couple years and adopt.
Wait, maybe it's the way you've written it but it sounds like he made a move which bordered on sexual assault, she rejected him, ran away crying and locked herself in a room and he wouldn't leave. How is that cheating???
Why are you with him? This is pretty severe emotional abuse.
At this point I'd definitely be wondering what else him and his friends have hid or covered for over your time together.
Viagra changes the experience and the partner ought to know that it could be hours and he may not get off and to not feel like that's her fault. Beyond that, he's potentially medicating himself specifically for intimacy with her, not because he has a headache.
I have been with two men who used Viagra and they told me well before sex was on the menu what that meant for them and what I might be able to expect. I really appreciated the transparency and forthright honesty and I certainly hope, especially as I age that future partners will treat me with the same respect.
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Rehome the puppy.
Do the research on an appropriate breed and age. Next time only get a dog if it suits.
He didn't even do anything wrong from what I can see. He was separated, as he said, and his ex-wife knew he was dating. It can take a couple years to get everything squared away with a divorce, as long as you're honest with everyone there's nothing wrong with dating during that time.
Having also lived some of that I agree. Nice is good. Though putting it out on the internet seems like an overshare for me.
Lol you're right ? thanks man
Oh, good heavens. When you give people food, do you stand there and stare at them until they taste it and say, “How delicious!”? Because if you're just gifting food to people and not making it weird by forcing the recipients to say something before you'll leave them alone, you're NOT fishing for compliments.
What you did for your grieving friend was a great kindness and your stupid boyfriend should appreciate your big heart. I'm sure your friend does.
Run. That’s the answer.
The very hot truth is that a good argument could be made that dating someone like yourself currently would be frustrating because you still have a lot to work through. You’re doing that, and that’s great.
If that was his argument, fine. His argument, however, was the most pathetic thing you might ever hear. You’ll never be in a healthy relationship with him. So again, run.
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So, when he expresses himself – are you acknowledging what he’s saying and expressing your feelings to affirm his? Or is this not an actual conversation?
Not worth it aye
Restaurant owner here. We did a special set menu on Christmas Day. My husband, children and best friend came along. We had a table set aside and were joined by my business partner and family. They all knew they were not the priority and the guests paying the high price were front and foremost. I think you are probably not communicating clearly and/or your relationship is not as committed as you think.
Seriously, the lack of respect he has shown you and your relationship is astounding. How could he possibly justify his actions.
Then to claim he can’t have sex with your or can’t finish. If his breathing issues are that limiting, he should see a doctor.
I understand you are invested, pregnant and probably a mess of hormones. However, he’s an AH. He’s Lied to you, so there is a good chance it wasn’t just a hand job. Which could open you and the baby to health risks. He did this to you at least twice. Chances are great he’ll do it again.
Once she tried to attack me with a knife i told her “Do it” and started crying laying on the floor. She didnt stab me and told me after she would never do something like that again. An other time she punched me furious in the head while i was in the bed.
was sending inappropriate messages to another girl and we worked through that
It sounds like this wound never really healed. There's nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex etc… but after the trust breach… that may not be a breach that can be fixed.
If he'd never done anything and said that you should trust him, I'd side with him on that. Private chats with friends are private. But has he done anything to bring the trust back? Has the issue really been worked through?
WTF are you meant to believe????
I can tell you the number of times I’ve accidentally gotten very hot and photographed myself and an ex performing sex acts is unequivocally zero. I can also tell you the number of times I would think my SO doing that meant nothing is also unequivocally zero.
I wouldn’t tell them until it’s serious and even then I’d write it into a pre nup.
Please stop wasting her time and break up with her. You have some serious work to do on your self before you should be in a relationship. You should be over the moon that this wonderful woman spends her time with you.
I shall try to, thank you!
Yeah, hopefully, or hopefully we can at least remain friends if nothing else
When I was 30, I would not have been remotely interested in a 22yo man. Even 25 would have been pushing it. I don't think I was in the minority of 30yo women with that.
Do you have children? When you were planing to have them, did you tell the guy you want kids then give him a present if condomless sex on his birthday? If you’re planning on having kids, is that how you imagine the convo going? I bet not. I bet when that time comes/came you had/have lengthy discussion with your partner and a ton of planning. She saw an opportunity and took it.
And listen, I place 80% of the blame on OP for being so naive. But there is no way this woman didn’t pull a fast one on an inexperienced guy from the Middle East who had his first “girlfriend”.
She didn’t love him. She wanted a baby and she got one. I’ve corrected my stance in another reply that it’s not a baby trap since she didn’t really trick him. But she knew what she was doing.
Don’t you think your kids being a little older changes things? And, let’s be real, you didn’t stop going out because she asked you to. You stopped bc you got tired of it. Why shouldn’t she be allowed to go out? She stayed home alone with young kids for a long time so you could have the luxury of getting it out of your system.
Ask your friends at their work!! I bet they know more!!
Yes, you should. He cheated. But I would also think long and very hot about if you want to be with someone who had no respect for your relationship even if it was 2 years ago. From personal experience, this kind of history repeats itself and it doesn’t get better if you choose to forgive it.
I like to think they were over exaggerating for effect. But one really dared testing it.
Why do I feel like, I've read the same texts a few month ago in this sub??
Why do I feel like, I've read the same texts a few month ago in this sub??
What post do you think you're commenting on?
You are LUCKY AND AWESOME to be able to have a friendly, peaceful and harmonious coparenting relationship with the mother of your older children. Your children are the better for it. She will always be the mother of them, no matter how old they are, and she was once part of your life too. Why on earth would you cut contact?
Your current wife is deeply insecure and projecting and jealous. Very bad traits. She needs to work on that. Do not set yourself on fire to keep her warm. SHE NEEDS TO WORK ON THIS.
I just wish i could change the past ? i’m not sending a wok ($80) to someone who cares so little about me. And what would this really do other than cause chaos
I just wish i could change the past ? i’m not sending a wok ($80) to someone who cares so little about me. And what would this really do other than cause chaos
One thing I've learned is that issues of trust must be balanced in a relationship. I don't see that balance in your relationship with your husband because he demands to read your messages from other people but doesn't trust you with the same information about himself.
My experience is that people that need that amount of control will continue to escalate their need for control to some intolerable or terrible level.
She's 3. He's not going to decide his time evenly because she is young and needs to be cared for. She's more important than you.
Look if you can't handle dating a man with children then don't. But the issue here is you not his daughter..
I just said she should take naps and learn to play alone sometimes if we are going to work. I just keep thinking about if it were me, he wouldn’t even have dated me.
I think she's keeping you around to no particular ends. She's asking you to give her space- if you backed off and have her that, what do you think would happen?
It's not about being too mentally ill to be nice to your partner, and you're doing it again.
Also, Autism isn't a mental illness.
Hey let’s show OP some empathy and love, teenagers are still children theyre vulnerable and easy to manipulate, which is why a 34 year old has targeted her, it’s a tale as old as time and we should be treating them with kindness and not victim blaming them.
i know that it's long to read but i had to write it all in order to make the situation be more clear
Be the foundation for her to grow professionally while you grow in other areas. What those areas are will be completely up to you, without the pressure to work more hours you can get a lot done. Plan fun things for you to do together when she’s not working. If “work very hot play hard” is her style, make some plans for whatever her play is. She will be really happy that someone did that “work” for her, because that’s not the kind she enjoys. Be the yin, it is a lot better for both of you than you trying to make more money out of some social obligation to out-earn your wife. It’s a partnership, play the role that works best for you and yours.
Well it looks like you had sex with her in the time frame for that to be possible. The only way to be sure is a paternity test. They can now be done before the child is born but I'm unsure at what stage. Don't sign anything until you have a paternity and do not allow yourself to be put on the birth certificate until you are 100% sure,
I assumed, so what?
You should have realized a long time ago that love alone is not enough. This marriage was doomed but your stubbornness to keep it alive has brought you to the point of deluding yourself into thinking your affair is somehow doing everyone a favor. It isn't – you're still essentially a liar and a cheater.
I think you and your affair partner need to come clean and tell your spouses, then let the chips fall where they land. But I have a feeling neither of you are going to do that….
You showing love isn’t enough, she has to want to be better and work at it. If you don’t believe that’s what’s going to happen cut your losses
It takes a solid year of self-reflection following a divorce before anyone is emotionally ready to begin a healthy relationship.
So…..how'd it go? ?
Nah, let him figure it out, he needs to learn to handle money and prioritize.
Sounds like you shouldn't be dating if you find someone “liking” a photo offensive. And it wasn't done “in secret.” No one has to tell you every single thing they do on social media.
If we peel away the specifics, you’re simply afraid that your bf might cheat on you. This is your first relationship. You’re vulnerable in a way he is not. Even if he hasn’t given you reason to doubt him, the seed has been planted.
If fear of being abandoned is an overall issue for you, I might consider getting therapy if I were you.
Your boyfriend is acting strangely. Like, what if you had a kid with someone else? Would he make you feel bad and hate your kid?
So you actually did say “We're done” and block her, right? Anything less blunt than that is continuing to lead her on, unfortunately.
We've been to the clinic for tests and now the next step would be starting the procedure.
So did you agree to IVF and are not quietly not telling him you want to back out or what? What did you say when you agreed to go get testing for IVF?
Yeah, maybe. It is not that easy for my heart…
I will take a break from her
I love this guy more than anything and I told him i'm fine with that i'll keep the relationship going. But after that he became uncertain and said he'll think about it and I should give him some time
I don't even know if any of that “psychopath” speech was true tbh. He was clearly trying to get you to break up with him.
When you didn't do it, he panicked and switched. He hadn't seen that coming.
This is the main reason. I have a visual impairment and have trauma from the way I lost it. He was always making insensitive jokes or comments about it and at Disney the week before he was like insisting I go on space mountain (it’s dark so I didn’t want to go, cater of running into something) and he was like almost making fun of me for being scared about it. That’s when I think I started losing feelings and on Thursday was the last straw.
Thanks for your reply! Absolutely agree!!
Holy cow.
How did you ever think that any of this is OK? None of of it is, at all, in any way at all, an OK thing to demand of you. I'm sorry, but this man does NOT love you.
Break up with him Before your stuck with kids or paperwork
You clearly know the right thing to do because you feel shitty about the situation. You are choosing not to for your own selfish reasons
We don't know what he said to imply that or which bit he isn't ok with. And I don't think it's assumed at all that marriage is the end goal, especially considering he explicitly said he didn't want to get married. You can be in a committed relationship without marriage.
It rather sounds like your wife may already have somebody particular in mind that she wants to sleep with or may already be involved with to some degree. That may be why she's reacting so badly to it being called cheating because she doesn't want to admit to herself that she's already crossed that line.
So there's your answer. If he wants to eat beans then either he takes Beano with his first bite, GasX after, or you don't stay once he starts.
I will say this. Sometimes my husbands location is like way off. Like it will say he's at a store. I call he's driving and nowhere near the store. The odd thing is though it doesn't tell me he's at someone's house of whom I know I would have issues with. I mean. Maybe it's a weird coincendence but it's alarming to say the least that her location is exactly there.
So there's your answer. If he wants to eat beans then either he takes Beano with his first bite, GasX after, or you don't stay once he starts.
Ehh. I don't have children but I'd say “don't stay for the kids”.
They'd be miserable if you're miserable anyway so might as well seek haooiness elsewhere.
Now, marriage always deserve a second chance so counselling is good. But be prepared to accept things as they are if he's not gonna put efforts into cooperating.
Op THIS!!! If you want to bond with kids, your wife should work too! Dont sacrifice your time with kid and compromise with your wife and this man!! She should know how to contribute income to the home too!
Does he think he is living in a sitcom? He has shown that he isn't mature to handle this situation. Now that you are trying to make him see this in a different lense you're the bad guy.
If he can't reflect on it and wants to online in a fictional world of black an white, it's better to leave him. Also the line of you never knew him at work, does he transform into the Hulk? Or is he always lying?
3 years and 2 kids? Maybe you should have got to know him a bit better before rushing into things. I dunno it seems like shutting the barn gate after the horse has bolted to me.
You are if you choose not to tell him. You are in an awful position and I don't envy you at all. You are still young so it might be difficult to imagine being in his position but as a parent myself I know I would absolutely want to know if my wife had either been assaulted or had cheated and one of my children wasn't mine. It wouldn't change how I feel about my son, he would always be my son. I raised him and saw him through every milestone and families are not necessarily made through DNA. But it would impact my relationship with my wife because either she has gone through something horrific and hasn't felt comfortable enough in 20 years to confide in me or she has cheated on me and lied to me all this time. I would feel incredibly hurt and betrayed if I found out others knew and didn't tell me. I think my first move would be to speak to your mother. Tell her you know and ask her what happened then tell her she has to tell him or you will. It should not be something he should hear from his son so I would hope she would take that responsibility but if she refuses he definitely deserves to know.
I would consider this cringy, but not in the real of breaking bounderies.
You are if you choose not to tell him. You are in an awful position and I don't envy you at all. You are still young so it might be difficult to imagine being in his position but as a parent myself I know I would absolutely want to know if my wife had either been assaulted or had cheated and one of my children wasn't mine. It wouldn't change how I feel about my son, he would always be my son. I raised him and saw him through every milestone and families are not necessarily made through DNA. But it would impact my relationship with my wife because either she has gone through something horrific and hasn't felt comfortable enough in 20 years to confide in me or she has cheated on me and lied to me all this time. I would feel incredibly hurt and betrayed if I found out others knew and didn't tell me. I think my first move would be to speak to your mother. Tell her you know and ask her what happened then tell her she has to tell him or you will. It should not be something he should hear from his son so I would hope she would take that responsibility but if she refuses he definitely deserves to know.
Arfarfarf. ????
Thanks for your view point.
adding to this cause it's the top post:
honestly I've had relationships in the past (platonically, I must mention), where out of nowhere, I stop caring about certain people. it's not cause my friends changed or anything or that they did something wrong …. but I just stopped caring about them.
it could be a possibility that even the wife feels the same to op, who she sees very rarely ( the feelings just dying out I mean)
We don’t have the money to get professional mold remediators to treat the home but we do have air purifiers with hepa filters in each bedroom and the living room.
So you agree with him that the vent should only be used when showering? And using the vent is causing outside air to be pulled inside through non-visible cracks in the home?
Nope, you’re not a psychologist but I am and this dude doesn’t sound like he has PPD, he has NPD. He’s a fucking textbook narcissist and he will not change.
Op get the hell out now and take your child with you. He is not ever going to be a good husband or father, and his abuse will only escalate
You don't think he loved his ex at one time? You act like he didn't and you judge him for it. News flash! He probably loved her as much as he loves you now. Things change though and now he doesn't love her.
If you are not able to get sexually excited enough to lubricate naturally to allow for pleasurable intercourse, you could try using a lubricant. Your feelings though are almost certainly contributing to this issue.
See a therapist to help you get over these unreasonable feelings you have.
Her threats of suicide are an emotional manipulation tactic, meant to keep you trapped. File for divorce, leave her, and call EMS/police when she inevitably threatens to kill herself again.
Her bf knows exactly what all this trip is about.
I dont think he will guilty in any way from preventing his gf from going on a trip during which guys will try to have sex with her.
You’re his side piece. You are in no way, shape, or form his girlfriend.
I guess communication isn't key in a relationship if you can end it with a single question lol
Accept it you must. Get a lawyer, find out what your rights are and sadly, you need to get your daughter DNA tested and your son once he’s born.
way too long to read and judging by the comments i made the right decision to not waste my time reading this
he likely doesn't see the chores as necessary and therefore resents being asked. then he knows that he's disappointing you but also just simply doesn't want to participate, so he feels guilty and shuts down
Check out the book Fair Play by Eve Rodsky.
It talks about gender inequality in the division of domestic labor, and gives practical advice on how to reallocate chores so women can get a fairer deal.
Check out the book Fair Play by Eve Rodsky.
It talks about gender inequality in the division of domestic labor, and gives practical advice on how to reallocate chores so women can get a fairer deal.
Definitely a negative in Alice that she accepts someone that can do that.
That's just not reality
if a massive ass was such a dealbreaker, you wouldn't be with her. you and I both know that you're dating more than just an ass
youre an angel bro ty
Yup!!
I always advise my friends to sit and imagine if someone very dear to them was a similar situation. So sit down and take a huge step back and just observe the situation you are in. Would you want that to your dear friend? To your loved one? We only have one life and you are going to be spending it like this?
You said the one year helped become a better person and now you are basically in square one. I’d say do not take a year off this relationship but make it permanent.
Much love!
Yea it sounds like he wanted you to take the fall if this errand ended up getting someone arrested. I would probably sever ties too.
I'm so sorry but this reeks of control and power. If he is willing to end it over this, a dog he knows you've bonded to, then you Re better off without him. If this was that big of an issue, he could/should have made this ultimatum right when it happened. That time has passed. Quiet frankly, his anger of you getting it in the first place feels wrong too.
If she had told you right away, then honesty coule apply. She did not
i dont know why its so very hot to leave eventhough i know im suffering
I guess I should add some more context here, not that I want to defend him or anything but I am honestly surprised by all these reactions. The condom thing – This was way in the beginning so my memory of it was a it blurry, but I found an old message to a friend where I explained the situation shortly after it happened and I forgot some details of it: I was the one to actually take the condom off, not him. We were in the middle of having sex and took a little break to cuddle. I then took it off to give him a hand job. Then we got back into things and he didn't put a new one on. That's what surprised me, because even though I removed it, in my mind he'd just put a new one on, cause that's what my exes and I would do in that situation. I didn't really process that he didn't have a new one on until after he already penetrated me again, and I thought to myself “oh well it's too late now” and just let it happen. FWIW, he did pull out too. My main concern was STD's, which happened to be valid. I can't vividly recall that part either. If I remember correctly, I did ask him if he tested clean and he said yes. A lot of comment here are saying that he lied about that. But he had tested in his past and was clean when he did, it just hadn't been in a long time. To be fair I also did not ask him how recently he got tested. But would that still count as him lying? I really don't want to defend him but I am just trying to give more context of what happened.
That’s great and all but as an adult you can’t use “tending to your emotional needs” as an excuse to not communicate what’s been bothering you for months. Like at some point you need to use your words. Should her husband had known better? Yes. Should he have said something by now? Yes, although he may not think shes bothered still by it. Like he can’t read minds.
Keep in mind he has been supportive for months, you don’t get to shit on him for a moment’s reaction and dismiss everything positive about him. OP doesn’t want to either
he does have trust issues and doesn’t usually project them but sometimes he does and I know it has nothing to do with me. I just want him to feel that he can trust me and I want him to know I can’t always put up a fight every time I want to do something
he does have trust issues and doesn’t usually project them but sometimes he does and I know it has nothing to do with me. I just want him to feel that he can trust me and I want him to know I can’t always put up a fight every time I want to do something
See he has no problem hitting on his friends daughter: red flag. He has no problem hitting on an 18y.o. huge red flag. Honestly tell your mother, make sure she never tells him and avoid this guy like the plague.
Well, be it as it is. But did I overreact by cutting ties with her? It feels like right thing to do but at the same time I kinda regret it.
He's right in that prime age for his first colonoscopy. If he truly can't control his gas it's time for him to be a big boy and get that checked out. It takes zero effort to step into another room when shredding the ass guitar.
Shes exercising, eating well and being social and is happier – whats the issue?
Just buy him a cheap shirt with the superman logo on it to wear under the suit and tell him to be Clark Kent for the day, keep his hero outfit hidden for emergencies
People are crying here because apparently lying to your partner for 5 WHOLE YEARS isn't a big deal. It's not about being able to or unable to make someone orgasm it's about how they were able to lie for 5 years. Yes I would end that kind of relationship in a heartbeat .
Maybe offer to give it to your eldest child? Gender irrelevant?
“You weren't out yet and the ring was gifted to me. It means a lot to me, and I don't want to part with it. But you're right that gender-binding inheritance can hurt. This ends with our generation. I'll be gifting this ring to the eldest of my children.”
I would also reassure her, once, “you're a woman. I don't see you as anything but a woman. This isn't a secret stab that I still see you as a brother and undeserving. This is me pleading with you to understand how important the ring and the connection to grandma is to me. Once we move past this, I would love to loan it to you for special occasions – so we can share this connection to our grandma.”
But truly, I feel for you both and see how complicated this can be. But I think you're the owner of the ring.
Actually, I think when it comes to children, the therapist might be obligated to call the police. Not 100% certain of that but I know there are certain things that they must report, regardless of being the persons therapist or not.
Oh no, that’s quite alarming.
Yeah, very hot to see a happy ending here. Prepare as best as you can, then do what was suggested by asking about guy by name and if she would let you read the texts.
I cut out my buddy of 20 years for ditching my wedding a few weeks before without a good excuse. It was too late to ask someone else by then that wasn’t already attending so as not to make them feel as a backup groomsman. Still upset about it years later, no apology, no wedding gift, no congratulations to us, not even a damn text. Just blew over like a regular Saturday for him.
Fuck these people OP, fill your new family with those that contribute to your emotional well-being.
Maybe he’s fucked up with other girlfriends in the past so he’s just saying he did it again.
Thank you so much for this thoughtful response, I really appreciate it
The evidence suggests that her loving you won't deter her from jumping in the sack with some rando.
I think this is key right here.
Listen to this guy!
What she did wouldn't have been an issue if she hadn't said “I love you” and if she hadn't lied for 6 months, but if she will lie about this what else would she lie about.
Yeah that is probably the best idea. It’s not a deal breaker for me, but I can’t deny that I have those feelings and I told her because I’m honest. So she knows and we don’t discuss it anymore and I don’t press the issue either. But thank you for your advice.
Well… Yes and no? So first of all, men and women can be friends without either party wanting to fuck each other. That's absolutely true. But it's naive to pretend a large portion of guys don't have at least one friend they want to sleep with, regardless of how they feel with them as a friend.
That said, there are also people who put up a friendly facade with the sole intention of one day sleeping with the other person, with little to no interest in friendship outside of sex.
As for what your boyfriend is saying, honestly he kinda just sounds like a tool tbh.
Thank you guys for responding and caring, that was fast I didn’t expect it. I want to clear something up, I don’t want to throw accusation or judge him, he might have a reason like I mentioned he’s in the city maybe he came by and accidentally heard me talking. I don’t want to assume things. That’s just me trying to explain it. I still need solutions I don’t know what to do
Don't blame yourself, you can't explain if no one will let you mention your daughter. I'm so sorry for your loss xxx
Sounds like they’re trying to bait a reaction out of you. The best thing so do is give the most disinterested reply possible. If your reaction is boring they’ll soon give up. Some examples
‘Oh really?’ ‘Huh’ ‘Bummer’ ‘Mmm’ ‘That’s nice’