Maybe a dumb question but how are you sure? It is not clear to me how she got the phone back on the charger before you got back to bed if she was in the bathroom. Maybe a dumb detail but just checking if it’s not possible that you just didn’t see your phone if you were groggy when you woke up. I’m not trying to negate what you’re saying, it just isn’t clear to me
Just dont go. He still has done nothing for his first child and is surprised no one wants anything to do with his new shitty family? Have your own celebration without them
To me it kind of sounds like you and your father have a rough relationship, and now you’re upset because you see him giving affection he denied you to another.
If that’s true, he denied it to her as well. I know easier said than done but, try to understand that your sister isn’t to blame for his shortcomings. As for your mom, unlike others I understand you not keeping it from your mom, lying for a parent is a really hard thing to shoulder, no matter the age.
He’s an amazing father and an even better partner when he’s sober.
You clearly have normalised this abusive behaviour. Nope, this man is NOT an amazing father at all. Stop blaming the alcohol.
Your relationship was toxic from the start, and this man hasn't bothered getting help consistently. If he was amazing, he would have started therapy, would have joined a support group etc.
Instead? He is physically and mentally abusive, he hurts you in front of the kids….and once the kids are old enough, he will start abusing them too directly.
what actions were taken with each relationship? in the most respectful tone, what type of response are you looking for?
Maybe a dumb question but how are you sure? It is not clear to me how she got the phone back on the charger before you got back to bed if she was in the bathroom. Maybe a dumb detail but just checking if it’s not possible that you just didn’t see your phone if you were groggy when you woke up. I’m not trying to negate what you’re saying, it just isn’t clear to me
Just dont go. He still has done nothing for his first child and is surprised no one wants anything to do with his new shitty family? Have your own celebration without them
Reaching out to her when she has a family would be a dogshit thing to do on your part. Leave her in your memories where she belongs.
To me it kind of sounds like you and your father have a rough relationship, and now you’re upset because you see him giving affection he denied you to another.
If that’s true, he denied it to her as well. I know easier said than done but, try to understand that your sister isn’t to blame for his shortcomings. As for your mom, unlike others I understand you not keeping it from your mom, lying for a parent is a really hard thing to shoulder, no matter the age.
Your friend is an idiot.
You should look up the term pedophile.
I don't know if your friend is fucking with you or just trying to be mean.
But I thought you said she also thought he was hard.
You have a fucked up relationship.
A 20 year old is not a child by the way.
He’s an amazing father and an even better partner when he’s sober.
You clearly have normalised this abusive behaviour. Nope, this man is NOT an amazing father at all. Stop blaming the alcohol.
Your relationship was toxic from the start, and this man hasn't bothered getting help consistently. If he was amazing, he would have started therapy, would have joined a support group etc.
Instead? He is physically and mentally abusive, he hurts you in front of the kids….and once the kids are old enough, he will start abusing them too directly.
Smart!