Don’t get him anything. If you never speak again, great.
Girl, do you have any idea how impressive you are? To be a homeowner making six figures at 27 would be impressive for anyone, but someone who did it as a young parent AND coming from foster care? You need and deserve someone on your level and he’s not even close. End this chapter and move on.
It is alarming you even need advice on this…you will be devaluing yourself by selling your house, and then by moving into a woman's place which is a rental apartment. Don't set yourself up for a bad situation.
I am 28. Just thinking about 18-19 year olds… No, it makes me physically cringe and almost nauseous. They are still teenagers in their minds while you are way further in life. These relationships rarely work out and often, whether you do it intentionally or not, contain power imbalance. Where obviously the younger one gets controlled or influenced by the power dynamics to give in to the older person. Their lack of experience and naive view contributes to this.
Or worse, he will brainwash the kids to think that their mom every bit the looser that dad says she is. They will start treating her like dirt just like he does
You married a man-child, what did you expect….
As a man it sounds like he cheated to me.
I don’t think he has access to that kind of information… he’s never told me that
You both didn’t bring it up so why all this deflecting on him? He’s not just doing sex to you. It’s a mutual act.
Don’t get him anything. If you never speak again, great.
Girl, do you have any idea how impressive you are? To be a homeowner making six figures at 27 would be impressive for anyone, but someone who did it as a young parent AND coming from foster care? You need and deserve someone on your level and he’s not even close. End this chapter and move on.
It is alarming you even need advice on this…you will be devaluing yourself by selling your house, and then by moving into a woman's place which is a rental apartment. Don't set yourself up for a bad situation.
I am 28. Just thinking about 18-19 year olds… No, it makes me physically cringe and almost nauseous. They are still teenagers in their minds while you are way further in life. These relationships rarely work out and often, whether you do it intentionally or not, contain power imbalance. Where obviously the younger one gets controlled or influenced by the power dynamics to give in to the older person. Their lack of experience and naive view contributes to this.
No, man. Just no.
He was at least emotionally cheating if he was going straight to her bedroom every day after work, then going to sleep with no time for you.
Sounds like it’s best to move on and keep it strictly business.
Talking is not dating. Talking is not monogamy. Talking is talking.
You feel betrayed because you think she knew that you might, possible, want to date her at some undisclosed point in the future?
If you want monogamy, ask someone out and ask for exclusivity. Not this wishy-washy nonsense that is designed to hurt your own feelings.
Or worse, he will brainwash the kids to think that their mom every bit the looser that dad says she is. They will start treating her like dirt just like he does
Sounds like she just might be Canadian