So your crazy, obsessing, love-bombing wife got lured away by a crazy, obsessing, love-bombing guy because you weren't crazy, obsessive and love-bomb-y enough for her…and you think that's not a good thing? In the end, while it hurts now, you're the one who won out. They're each others' problem now, and you never have to deal with her again.
I'm fine with no reply!
Thank you for deleting this post. This guy has posted at least 3 times under a different account and gets very hostile when people don't agree
So your crazy, obsessing, love-bombing wife got lured away by a crazy, obsessing, love-bombing guy because you weren't crazy, obsessive and love-bomb-y enough for her…and you think that's not a good thing? In the end, while it hurts now, you're the one who won out. They're each others' problem now, and you never have to deal with her again.
Put boundaries in your friendship with this guy (or just cut him off completely) and grovel to your bf. He’ll come around.