Would you like to be asked to do the same thing you also say no to, every 6 months? At some point you would feel ignored and disrespected. If he doesn’t want it now and he doesn’t tomorrow, he won’t in 6 months either.
If you NEED to be with someone who takes pics, then you NEED to find someone new. Otherwise respect his “no”.
A very common way to get chlaymydia is by having sex with a yeast infection. They don’t reach this because so much of sex Ed is based on promiscuity. It ultimately leads to people believing you can’t get an sti in a monogamous relationship, which is not true and harmful. Even monogamous relationships require safe sex. This makes it more challenging to know, through, if someone is genuinely in shock or has cheated ?
I'm sorry that you are going through that but but lying about rape isnt just a red flag. Its absolutely disgusting. First of all, it destroys peoples lives when they are being accused of that and most importantly, no one believe real rape victims because of people like your wife.
I want to feel sympathy but the fact that you think that her cheating is worst than her lying about rape just feels…. wrong.
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Cleansing yourself of those is an important step of moving past it unless it’s useful in my eyes.
Needing things purely sentimental from past relationships tells me you still need a feeling from those things you are getting. Thinking of people you’ve moved on from is generally not a helpful activity especially to a point you have trouble letting go of a thing, so I don’t see a point keeping them if you haven’t.
If kids are involved I would see this entirely differently, as those things involve your children.
It's OK to feel frustrated at her actions, whatisn't OK is picking fights with your bf about it, given that you've already expressed your frustration and he started to be professional with her (which is what you want — reward good behavior, don't punish someone for acting correctly!). You can feel what you feel, it's fine — just don't allow bad action on your part to come out of your feelings.
Call Duolingo and they may be able to refund you your $130, just let them know you forgot about the free trial. Also, don't get back with someone that can't and won't accept an important part of you. Do better for yourself.
OP, it will absolutely 100% get worse once you have kids. There's never been a controlling abusive man that is magically healed once the kid gets popped out. Even during your pregnancy, I can 100% promise you that he's not gonna show you any mercy. The fact that you're now carrying his child changes nothing for the better.
Maybe you do Marriage Counseling before doing anything to see if he has changed. People have come back together after divorce. Just make sure you protect yourself and the kids.
How is your child going to learn about healthy relationships if they grow up seeing this? This will form what they think is normal, and they'll repeat it in their own life. You need to pick the kid over the too-old wife, and that means you need to leave her, and quickly. If you won't do that, you need to think about whether or not it might be better for someone else to have custody.
That's a bit different though, dating you don't care as much about someone's pleasure because you don't like the way their genitals look (they're all a bit ugly to be blunt) is just kind of different to just saying your vagina is too fleshy/tight/whatever.
Have you actually spoken to her about it? Sometimes folks with ASD need you to frankly spell out an issue because – depending on the person – social nuance is a difficult thing to pick up on
I was sad cause I sort of was like oh well this didn’t go well.
I'd communicate and tell her that. ? Kinda wondering if both of you are a little down just because you're worried the other one had a bad time. Sounds like a good time for reassurance and clearing the air.
Good luck man!
She's following up on stuff yall talked about the date, checking in with you, worrying about you, texting back…I'm just a rando on here and there's always a chance I'm wrong, but all signs are pointing in good directions as far as I can tell tbh.
Would you like to be asked to do the same thing you also say no to, every 6 months? At some point you would feel ignored and disrespected. If he doesn’t want it now and he doesn’t tomorrow, he won’t in 6 months either.
If you NEED to be with someone who takes pics, then you NEED to find someone new. Otherwise respect his “no”.
A very common way to get chlaymydia is by having sex with a yeast infection. They don’t reach this because so much of sex Ed is based on promiscuity. It ultimately leads to people believing you can’t get an sti in a monogamous relationship, which is not true and harmful. Even monogamous relationships require safe sex. This makes it more challenging to know, through, if someone is genuinely in shock or has cheated ?
She came back early because they hooked up and she felt guilty. She was doing damage control.
Yeah ok. Why don’t you tell us all why women don’t report rape and other harassment??? ?
I'm sorry that you are going through that but but lying about rape isnt just a red flag. Its absolutely disgusting. First of all, it destroys peoples lives when they are being accused of that and most importantly, no one believe real rape victims because of people like your wife.
I want to feel sympathy but the fact that you think that her cheating is worst than her lying about rape just feels…. wrong.
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27 M ended things with girls of 2 and 4 years at different points in life for different reasons. Learned lessons, moved on with my life.
Cleansing yourself of those is an important step of moving past it unless it’s useful in my eyes.
Needing things purely sentimental from past relationships tells me you still need a feeling from those things you are getting. Thinking of people you’ve moved on from is generally not a helpful activity especially to a point you have trouble letting go of a thing, so I don’t see a point keeping them if you haven’t.
If kids are involved I would see this entirely differently, as those things involve your children.
You’re entitled to your own option, if it means nothing to you then good luck. I fundamentally disagree with you and we won’t see eye to eye on this
That’s embarrassing.
It's OK to feel frustrated at her actions, whatisn't OK is picking fights with your bf about it, given that you've already expressed your frustration and he started to be professional with her (which is what you want — reward good behavior, don't punish someone for acting correctly!). You can feel what you feel, it's fine — just don't allow bad action on your part to come out of your feelings.
Call Duolingo and they may be able to refund you your $130, just let them know you forgot about the free trial. Also, don't get back with someone that can't and won't accept an important part of you. Do better for yourself.
Couples therapy is next.
If not working out, consider contacting lawyer next week.
If he’s not an idiot than the ring will have insurance so it’s honestly not a big deal
OP, it may get worse once you have kids.
OP, it will absolutely 100% get worse once you have kids. There's never been a controlling abusive man that is magically healed once the kid gets popped out. Even during your pregnancy, I can 100% promise you that he's not gonna show you any mercy. The fact that you're now carrying his child changes nothing for the better.
Maybe you do Marriage Counseling before doing anything to see if he has changed. People have come back together after divorce. Just make sure you protect yourself and the kids.
How is your child going to learn about healthy relationships if they grow up seeing this? This will form what they think is normal, and they'll repeat it in their own life. You need to pick the kid over the too-old wife, and that means you need to leave her, and quickly. If you won't do that, you need to think about whether or not it might be better for someone else to have custody.
Avg like 5.1-5.5 inches like world avg? What country do you online in? Most women in USA want 6+
That's a bit different though, dating you don't care as much about someone's pleasure because you don't like the way their genitals look (they're all a bit ugly to be blunt) is just kind of different to just saying your vagina is too fleshy/tight/whatever.
Have you actually spoken to her about it? Sometimes folks with ASD need you to frankly spell out an issue because – depending on the person – social nuance is a difficult thing to pick up on
I was sad cause I sort of was like oh well this didn’t go well.
I'd communicate and tell her that. ? Kinda wondering if both of you are a little down just because you're worried the other one had a bad time. Sounds like a good time for reassurance and clearing the air.
Good luck man!
She's following up on stuff yall talked about the date, checking in with you, worrying about you, texting back…I'm just a rando on here and there's always a chance I'm wrong, but all signs are pointing in good directions as far as I can tell tbh.
Fingers crossed for what's next ?