Why aren't you equally angry at your wife. She's hardly blameless unless she was SAd. An affair isn't an accident. She made all the many choices needed to get it going so how is the AP solely responsible for your anger? Your drive for vengeance is going to get you into trouble when you go live to openly admit you want to get back at someone and are fishing for ways how.
Why did she change her password? That screams that she is hiding something from you
Why aren't you equally angry at your wife. She's hardly blameless unless she was SAd. An affair isn't an accident. She made all the many choices needed to get it going so how is the AP solely responsible for your anger? Your drive for vengeance is going to get you into trouble when you go live to openly admit you want to get back at someone and are fishing for ways how.