The reality is that they are threatening you, as they think they can control you.
Cut contact for a month and let them know that if they try to control you moving forward they lose access to future grandkids. I highly doubt they would permanently block you- however it would be good to talk to a therapist about this as it seems you currently have an unhealthy relationship with them. A good therapist can help you form boundaries that make for a better relationship.
There’s no point telling him you’re not going to wait around for him when he hasn’t asked you to and he’s clearly stated he’s not coming back for years if at all. Just say ‘yes, let’s stay in touch, sounds great’ and you can jointly re-evaluate the dating thing if you domains up in the same city again in a year or two as he suggested.
was it actually an STI? I (M) get a frequent infection that presents excatly like a common STI but there is a less than zero percent chance it is an STI, just an unfortunate thing I carry.
I’m not sure what the big deal is here. Why can’t you give her the house for a few hours once in a while? Do you never leave the house? Your “compromise” of staying in one bedroom with headphones on isn’t really a compromise – you’re still there, still potentially coming out to use the bathroom and/or taking your headphones off for whatever reason, and it absolutely makes a difference, because her friends are going to be conscious of your presence and will likely not want to share anything they’d be worried about you overhearing (eg, personal issues).
I’m friends with a coworker who lives with her significant other; when we schedule plans to hang out (usually a few weeks in advance), she’ll check in with him, and sometimes he’ll either chat for a bit and then go to a separate room, or he’ll use that time to go visit a friend. It’s not that naked imo.
Also, kind of weird that you’re calling yourself her roommate… is that indicative of how you feel about your relationship?
He's a bully who needs to put others down to build his own confidence. Once they find your weakpoint they will exploit it every chance they get.
What helped for me with my bully was just turning my back and let everything slide of it. I do not engage or respond in any way when he tries to bully me again. I will also not diminish myself. When he makes fun of my dancing skill, I dance a little harder. I just pretend I don't give a flying f about him and turn to talk to the person next to him.
It's not easy, and it will not make you feel any less bad when he does his shit, but at least it will not give him te satisfaction and with time, you will become an uninteresting target. Confidence is a trade bullies can't handle
My husband is like this. They’re wonderful compliments but my self esteem is bad and the message is almost lost in translation. I just can’t accept compliments
You need to tell him before he finds out from someone else, namely the best friend
They wish every man put their wife and kids first
The reality is that they are threatening you, as they think they can control you.
Cut contact for a month and let them know that if they try to control you moving forward they lose access to future grandkids. I highly doubt they would permanently block you- however it would be good to talk to a therapist about this as it seems you currently have an unhealthy relationship with them. A good therapist can help you form boundaries that make for a better relationship.
There’s no point telling him you’re not going to wait around for him when he hasn’t asked you to and he’s clearly stated he’s not coming back for years if at all. Just say ‘yes, let’s stay in touch, sounds great’ and you can jointly re-evaluate the dating thing if you domains up in the same city again in a year or two as he suggested.
was it actually an STI? I (M) get a frequent infection that presents excatly like a common STI but there is a less than zero percent chance it is an STI, just an unfortunate thing I carry.
I’m not sure what the big deal is here. Why can’t you give her the house for a few hours once in a while? Do you never leave the house? Your “compromise” of staying in one bedroom with headphones on isn’t really a compromise – you’re still there, still potentially coming out to use the bathroom and/or taking your headphones off for whatever reason, and it absolutely makes a difference, because her friends are going to be conscious of your presence and will likely not want to share anything they’d be worried about you overhearing (eg, personal issues).
I’m friends with a coworker who lives with her significant other; when we schedule plans to hang out (usually a few weeks in advance), she’ll check in with him, and sometimes he’ll either chat for a bit and then go to a separate room, or he’ll use that time to go visit a friend. It’s not that naked imo.
Also, kind of weird that you’re calling yourself her roommate… is that indicative of how you feel about your relationship?
Also curious ?
He's a bully who needs to put others down to build his own confidence. Once they find your weakpoint they will exploit it every chance they get.
What helped for me with my bully was just turning my back and let everything slide of it. I do not engage or respond in any way when he tries to bully me again. I will also not diminish myself. When he makes fun of my dancing skill, I dance a little harder. I just pretend I don't give a flying f about him and turn to talk to the person next to him.
It's not easy, and it will not make you feel any less bad when he does his shit, but at least it will not give him te satisfaction and with time, you will become an uninteresting target. Confidence is a trade bullies can't handle
My husband is like this. They’re wonderful compliments but my self esteem is bad and the message is almost lost in translation. I just can’t accept compliments