I wouldn't move in an active addict no matter who they are. First of all there's the concern that authorities find the substances in YOUR house and you end up having legal troubles as a result of her consumption of drugs, depending on your local laws. Also, the reality that addicts are sick people, it is a decease, one that a lot of people can heal from but only if they want to. She doesn't seem to want to do the steps needed for healing. She might OD in your house (again, legal problems for you) or she might steal items from you to fund her addiction. Even if she doesn't, she might bring to your house very shady individuals connected to drugs and this is a security risk for you.
I don't think your boyfriend understands any of these risks, not all of them connected to his friend (he might trust her… but can he trust her dealer? Can he trust other addicts that made her see a drug purchase and decide to follow her to her house to steal the drug?). If he moves in his friend, I'd definitely move out immediately. This does not mean that I wouldn't have empathy for the friend. I do! Like I said, addiction is a decease and I do have a lot of sympathy for people trying to heal and I have given support to people in that situation in the past and I would do it again. But I don't share the same sympathy for the people who do not want to follow any treatment to get better. I feel the same about any other decease, for instance: diabetic patients that don't want to be careful about what they eat? Sorry, I can't be responsible. Cancer patients that don't want to treat their very treatable cancer? Sorry, seek end of life care but not at my house.
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I wouldn't move in an active addict no matter who they are. First of all there's the concern that authorities find the substances in YOUR house and you end up having legal troubles as a result of her consumption of drugs, depending on your local laws. Also, the reality that addicts are sick people, it is a decease, one that a lot of people can heal from but only if they want to. She doesn't seem to want to do the steps needed for healing. She might OD in your house (again, legal problems for you) or she might steal items from you to fund her addiction. Even if she doesn't, she might bring to your house very shady individuals connected to drugs and this is a security risk for you.
I don't think your boyfriend understands any of these risks, not all of them connected to his friend (he might trust her… but can he trust her dealer? Can he trust other addicts that made her see a drug purchase and decide to follow her to her house to steal the drug?). If he moves in his friend, I'd definitely move out immediately. This does not mean that I wouldn't have empathy for the friend. I do! Like I said, addiction is a decease and I do have a lot of sympathy for people trying to heal and I have given support to people in that situation in the past and I would do it again. But I don't share the same sympathy for the people who do not want to follow any treatment to get better. I feel the same about any other decease, for instance: diabetic patients that don't want to be careful about what they eat? Sorry, I can't be responsible. Cancer patients that don't want to treat their very treatable cancer? Sorry, seek end of life care but not at my house.