That doesn’t sound like a very loving relationship… I’m genuinely sad for you. You shouldn’t have to attack/be attacked like this with the person you’re married to.
Maybe you should reevaluate why you’re with him at all.
I just had a bit of a peruse, you can definitely buy a property in Toronto for less than 1m, it's your first home, you will probably move in your life time.
You don't have to use all 300k.
Where I live it isn't uncommon for family members to help pool money together for a deposit, though 100k is the most you'd put in and that's between 25-50% of the house price. Maybe your husband thought he would be able to just take the whole 300k without his brother minding given that some families do do that… In this scenario he would be intentionally obtuse as I can't see anyone being happy to let go of 150k knowing he already had 150k of his own.
You said you had been saving for 5 years before you got married but don't mention how much you've been able to save. He's already bringing 150k to the pot, the way you talk about your marriage almost being a lie comes off as a little gold diggery which is why I ask how much you have.
Let me ask: in your heart of hearts, if Chris wasn't long distance and you 2 never met, do you think they would've been a couple?
In other words, do you think you're a placeholder for Chris?
That doesn’t sound like a very loving relationship… I’m genuinely sad for you. You shouldn’t have to attack/be attacked like this with the person you’re married to.
Maybe you should reevaluate why you’re with him at all.
I just had a bit of a peruse, you can definitely buy a property in Toronto for less than 1m, it's your first home, you will probably move in your life time.
You don't have to use all 300k.
Where I live it isn't uncommon for family members to help pool money together for a deposit, though 100k is the most you'd put in and that's between 25-50% of the house price. Maybe your husband thought he would be able to just take the whole 300k without his brother minding given that some families do do that… In this scenario he would be intentionally obtuse as I can't see anyone being happy to let go of 150k knowing he already had 150k of his own.
You said you had been saving for 5 years before you got married but don't mention how much you've been able to save. He's already bringing 150k to the pot, the way you talk about your marriage almost being a lie comes off as a little gold diggery which is why I ask how much you have.