Go to Europe. I didn't study abroad in college because my boyfriend didn't want me to leave. Seemed like a nice sweet guy. He ended up being a lying alcoholic with bad hygiene who almost certainly fed my hamster to his giant pet lizard. Then it took me another nearly 20 years to finally get to Europe. GO TO EUROPE omg go go go.
I had an ex that would get belligerent and violent when drunk. Her eyes would glaze over and it was like a switch flipped. It was rare but it sucked so much. She would say the nastiest shit and sometimes hit me. The worst part was she would be annoyed when I would say anything about it the next day. I was told to let it go and get over it. Luckily for me she dumped me. Yes, I did not dump her. I was blind absolutely blind to the abuse I was subjected to. I didn’t realize how fucked up it was until a few years later.
The right thing to do here is help her escape asap, then you can focus on you without the stress of uncertainty she brings
It’s clear you’re attracted to this female colleague. You’re the AH, divorce your wife so she can move on
Go to Europe. I didn't study abroad in college because my boyfriend didn't want me to leave. Seemed like a nice sweet guy. He ended up being a lying alcoholic with bad hygiene who almost certainly fed my hamster to his giant pet lizard. Then it took me another nearly 20 years to finally get to Europe. GO TO EUROPE omg go go go.
I had an ex that would get belligerent and violent when drunk. Her eyes would glaze over and it was like a switch flipped. It was rare but it sucked so much. She would say the nastiest shit and sometimes hit me. The worst part was she would be annoyed when I would say anything about it the next day. I was told to let it go and get over it. Luckily for me she dumped me. Yes, I did not dump her. I was blind absolutely blind to the abuse I was subjected to. I didn’t realize how fucked up it was until a few years later.