Well sex is minimal, communication turns to an argument (not on my part, rather talk calmly then argue), I know my drinking played a part in things (12 years heavy drinker, recently sober), on and off again relationship, my toxic parents who tried a few things which I won't go into, my attitude and dumb life choices also doesn't help
Make a new post. Say you are xx weeks pregnant, live in xx location and need to find resources to support yourself and baby as soon as possible. Say you want to go back to work but need to figure out child care. Say you plan to put the father on child support. Say you are staying with the father now, he is not abusive, but he doesn’t want the child.
Then you will get good info and advice. The #1 advice I have is that you must try to find housing BEFORE your delivery date. If you go to a homeless shelter TODAY, you will shoot to the top of the list for housing as a pregnant woman about to give birth. If you wait until baby arrives, you will be 3x more exhausted, with all the baby stuff, and already exposing your child to potential bad vibes or even anger from a frustrated sleep-deprived man who doesn’t want to be a father.
Otherwise all these people are going to keep scolding you about sex, abortion and adoption and not really help you at all.
Well sex is minimal, communication turns to an argument (not on my part, rather talk calmly then argue), I know my drinking played a part in things (12 years heavy drinker, recently sober), on and off again relationship, my toxic parents who tried a few things which I won't go into, my attitude and dumb life choices also doesn't help
Make a new post. Say you are xx weeks pregnant, live in xx location and need to find resources to support yourself and baby as soon as possible. Say you want to go back to work but need to figure out child care. Say you plan to put the father on child support. Say you are staying with the father now, he is not abusive, but he doesn’t want the child.
Then you will get good info and advice. The #1 advice I have is that you must try to find housing BEFORE your delivery date. If you go to a homeless shelter TODAY, you will shoot to the top of the list for housing as a pregnant woman about to give birth. If you wait until baby arrives, you will be 3x more exhausted, with all the baby stuff, and already exposing your child to potential bad vibes or even anger from a frustrated sleep-deprived man who doesn’t want to be a father.
Otherwise all these people are going to keep scolding you about sex, abortion and adoption and not really help you at all.
Treat her as a fwb. Just have sex with her but no to a relationship