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best of luck with this one.
you're already engaged, but his behavior is scary, and i don't think the traits that he is showing are likely to go away anytime soon. people keep the behavior that your describing for life, the redirecting criticism back onto the person who brought something up in the first place. you have to on-line in a house with him for the rest of your life if you get married, and if you haven't found a way to split up housework already, then you're kinda doomed imo. its his house too, so he should be trying to keep up with the chores without you having to tell him.
his response to you being overwhelmed about the state of the house is a crazy red flag to me, as well as bringing up a boundary in advance. i'm sorry, but what? you have establish a boundary first, otherwise its not a boundary, its trying to fix your partners behavior after a line was already crossed.
best advice to redirecting the conversation is speaking calmly, or having a sit down with him to talk about everything that's been going through your head. however, if hes saying you're constantly being negative, maybe try going a couple of days without saying anything about the housework. clean what needs to be cleaned on your end, books, shoes, your stuff, but maybe leave a few things around to see if does anything. if he doesn't, then you might need couples counseling to find better solutions from a professional
She thinks everything in her body doesn’t work from her surgery.
Indirectly, this may well be true. When removing a tumor from the brain, you need to expect that not everything will return to normal. It can affect mood, perception, even subtle physiological changes. It can affect executive functions. It can even affect pain.
You've asked how you can help her. First, acknowledge that her distress is real. If you don't like her whining, imagine how SHE feels about her complaints. Show her sympathy.
You can suggest she seems uncomfortable a lot and ask if she would like to try meeting with a doctor for evaluation for depression. Antidepressants are often given for chronic pain, too. Other modalities can be very effective, for instance periodic therapeutic massage, TENS (electrical stimulation), topical pain ointments, etc.
I can talk to the commander. But that requires a lot of formal work. When this stuff happens they put the marks on you like your guilty, but you are not till the board decides. I just want the next month to go by so they decide guilty or not. I tried to claim bias investigation from day two, but it will probably not help.
You’re right… honestly, we would fight a lot(that he’d start from nothing) and some things that he’s said have stuck with me. But I convince myself that maybe he’s changed since we have fought in a while, but how can it be possible if we barley even talk
She's going through a period of major transition in her life. An hour a day is too much time to spend on the phone with anyone, and still have a daily life. I suggest you back off, be supportive, and stop pressuring her.
But also, what is your plan? To just have a relationship based on hour chats? I think this has run its course.
You shouldn't be upset. You know he's a cheater and if you follow him it will add stress to his dating life. You want to be with him so respect his boundaries whilst he tries to find his wife.
You're the one choosing to be with him, this is the man you're with. Stop expecting him to change, he's not interested.
I'm embarrassed for you having to ask internet strangers if upsetting your gf over a fetish art phone case is ok.
It's not.
Sure, you can do what you want with your money and your phone, but you're in relationship, and there will be consequences for ignoring the other person's feelings.
You never know, if she loves and misses him enough this experience might push her over the edge and make her stand up to that piece of crap. You never know….
best of luck with this one.
you're already engaged, but his behavior is scary, and i don't think the traits that he is showing are likely to go away anytime soon. people keep the behavior that your describing for life, the redirecting criticism back onto the person who brought something up in the first place. you have to on-line in a house with him for the rest of your life if you get married, and if you haven't found a way to split up housework already, then you're kinda doomed imo. its his house too, so he should be trying to keep up with the chores without you having to tell him.
his response to you being overwhelmed about the state of the house is a crazy red flag to me, as well as bringing up a boundary in advance. i'm sorry, but what? you have establish a boundary first, otherwise its not a boundary, its trying to fix your partners behavior after a line was already crossed.
best advice to redirecting the conversation is speaking calmly, or having a sit down with him to talk about everything that's been going through your head. however, if hes saying you're constantly being negative, maybe try going a couple of days without saying anything about the housework. clean what needs to be cleaned on your end, books, shoes, your stuff, but maybe leave a few things around to see if does anything. if he doesn't, then you might need couples counseling to find better solutions from a professional
She thinks everything in her body doesn’t work from her surgery.
Indirectly, this may well be true. When removing a tumor from the brain, you need to expect that not everything will return to normal. It can affect mood, perception, even subtle physiological changes. It can affect executive functions. It can even affect pain.
You've asked how you can help her. First, acknowledge that her distress is real. If you don't like her whining, imagine how SHE feels about her complaints. Show her sympathy.
You can suggest she seems uncomfortable a lot and ask if she would like to try meeting with a doctor for evaluation for depression. Antidepressants are often given for chronic pain, too. Other modalities can be very effective, for instance periodic therapeutic massage, TENS (electrical stimulation), topical pain ointments, etc.
I can talk to the commander. But that requires a lot of formal work. When this stuff happens they put the marks on you like your guilty, but you are not till the board decides. I just want the next month to go by so they decide guilty or not. I tried to claim bias investigation from day two, but it will probably not help.
You sound very immature unfortunately. And very very ignorant.
Break up! Why put yourself thro something this stupid, she won’t listen and keep doing that so why be depressed? End it and u do u..
You’re right… honestly, we would fight a lot(that he’d start from nothing) and some things that he’s said have stuck with me. But I convince myself that maybe he’s changed since we have fought in a while, but how can it be possible if we barley even talk
She's going through a period of major transition in her life. An hour a day is too much time to spend on the phone with anyone, and still have a daily life. I suggest you back off, be supportive, and stop pressuring her.
But also, what is your plan? To just have a relationship based on hour chats? I think this has run its course.
You shouldn't be upset. You know he's a cheater and if you follow him it will add stress to his dating life. You want to be with him so respect his boundaries whilst he tries to find his wife.
You're the one choosing to be with him, this is the man you're with. Stop expecting him to change, he's not interested.
Yeah, this chick is nuts.
Don't have sex with people you don't particularly like or respect.
I'm embarrassed for you having to ask internet strangers if upsetting your gf over a fetish art phone case is ok.
It's not.
Sure, you can do what you want with your money and your phone, but you're in relationship, and there will be consequences for ignoring the other person's feelings.
You never know, if she loves and misses him enough this experience might push her over the edge and make her stand up to that piece of crap. You never know….
So what’s the hobby he insists on having a massive monthly allowance for?
OP, your post is unreadable.
Please rewrite this in a way that makes sense, and make it clear what you are actually asking for advice on.
Stop expecting anger from innocent people. It’s been shown over and over again, that’s not how you can tell who is innocent and who isn’t.