He didn’t make these changes when you were with him cause he didn’t face any consequences. He didn’t have any consequences, so he didn’t have the push to make those changes. Once he lost you, he was probably sad and hated himself for pushing you away like this. So now he’s putting in the work so history doesn’t repeat itself.
You move on by blocking him everyone, and telling friends/family not to update you on him. The fact that you even know he’s in therapy and reading live! means you’re still able to keep tabs on him, which will never let you move on.
You're treating your female partner like she is a man. Rigid rules like this don't work out, and you'll both waste a lot of time policing these rules. In my experience you can have one, maybe two naked rules in a single relationship. Very simple rules like “no cheating” or something like that. You can make a point to debate what “cheating” means, but anymore than that and you set yourself up for failure.
If you love and respect your partner, and your partner loves and respects you, you won't fuck eachother over. It's the ideal form of the relationship, and it's what you want to strive for. That requires you to TRUST your partner and requires your partner to TRUST you.
Its very very hot, and if either of you betrays the other it will leave a deep emotional scars. Such is life. I wish you good luck and remember, a relationship without risk is not a relationship, it's a friendship at most.
He didn’t make these changes when you were with him cause he didn’t face any consequences. He didn’t have any consequences, so he didn’t have the push to make those changes. Once he lost you, he was probably sad and hated himself for pushing you away like this. So now he’s putting in the work so history doesn’t repeat itself.
You move on by blocking him everyone, and telling friends/family not to update you on him. The fact that you even know he’s in therapy and reading live! means you’re still able to keep tabs on him, which will never let you move on.
I would 100% not get married. He sounds pretty awful and draining. I bet you’ll find yourself feeling incredibly relieved once he’s out of your life
You're treating your female partner like she is a man. Rigid rules like this don't work out, and you'll both waste a lot of time policing these rules. In my experience you can have one, maybe two naked rules in a single relationship. Very simple rules like “no cheating” or something like that. You can make a point to debate what “cheating” means, but anymore than that and you set yourself up for failure.
If you love and respect your partner, and your partner loves and respects you, you won't fuck eachother over. It's the ideal form of the relationship, and it's what you want to strive for. That requires you to TRUST your partner and requires your partner to TRUST you.
Its very very hot, and if either of you betrays the other it will leave a deep emotional scars. Such is life. I wish you good luck and remember, a relationship without risk is not a relationship, it's a friendship at most.