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It seems like you really were asking for advice. Although you should never push or get upset about not getting intimacy, it is normal to wonder when things might return to some form of normal.
First off, while attempting any of these things, stop immediately if she says she is in pain. Or don't do any of these things if she isn't on board or willing.
I would get some lube and put it on your fingers. Use them on her to feel if she has any knots or bumps that are painful. She may have scar tissue that is still healing.
If the first part goes well, try massaging all around the area. Gently see for her reaction. If all goes well, try to use a couple of fingers. The goal here is to test limits. See what feels good/doesn't cause pain vs. actions that do cause pain. If all goes well, keep going until she says stop.
Although you may end up having an intimate moment, you are really gathering details for her to share with her doctor. The specifics can help identify if she is having issues healing.
Lastly, know that the first full intimate experience will be painful – regardless. You can do as much as possible to mitigate it, but sometimes it takes a bit to get back in the groove. Be patient, listen, and support your partner. She has been through a lot and may still be coping with a lot of hormones, mixed feelings, fatigue, and fear.
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It’s rape. No means no.
It seems like you really were asking for advice. Although you should never push or get upset about not getting intimacy, it is normal to wonder when things might return to some form of normal.
First off, while attempting any of these things, stop immediately if she says she is in pain. Or don't do any of these things if she isn't on board or willing.
I would get some lube and put it on your fingers. Use them on her to feel if she has any knots or bumps that are painful. She may have scar tissue that is still healing.
If the first part goes well, try massaging all around the area. Gently see for her reaction. If all goes well, try to use a couple of fingers. The goal here is to test limits. See what feels good/doesn't cause pain vs. actions that do cause pain. If all goes well, keep going until she says stop.
Although you may end up having an intimate moment, you are really gathering details for her to share with her doctor. The specifics can help identify if she is having issues healing.
Lastly, know that the first full intimate experience will be painful – regardless. You can do as much as possible to mitigate it, but sometimes it takes a bit to get back in the groove. Be patient, listen, and support your partner. She has been through a lot and may still be coping with a lot of hormones, mixed feelings, fatigue, and fear.