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At the risk of being the cynic I think sheâs more interested in her immigration status than in a good marriage. You have the sensible, reasonable approach whereas sheâs rushing you for her own reasons. My guess is that once sheâs established in The country you will be of no further use. Donât fall into that trap.
Break up. He sounds like he wants to dial things back and run from commitment with you, but he still wants the fun parts of you, of course. If he canât communicate with you about something like this happening, he isnât going to be able to communicate with you when life hits you both with even bigger challenges, assuming he would move back in with you at any point.
Sounds like a porn addiction. He probably does love you and is attracted to you but he's so used to porn and not having to put in any effort to getting release so a real woman is too much work for him. I think this woukd be true no matter who he was with so it has nothing to do with you.
There's some subreddits about porm addiction and the partners of people with porn addiction that might help you see some people with simillar stories.
The issue is that he is physically abusive. That's the only issue that matters. You cannot “address” physical abuse with an abuser. You can leave, or you can stay and let them kill you. Your advice is irresponsible and could get her killed.
Who said anything about being perfect? That has nothing to do with the fact that it is DANGEROUS to encourage someone to rationalize abuse.
Men will sleep with who they can, whereas women sleep with whom they want. That's just reality.
So I'll try and put myself in his shoes for a moment.
Okay, yeah, he's in it for the sex at first 100%, that's what fwb is. Allegedly, he has fallen for your personality, which can happen after you spend time with someone.
Are you responsible for transforming yourself to match his vision? NOPE.
We have to admit that at 167cm, 95kg is unhealthy. If you are considering losing weight, you must do it for yourself, not him.
If you do it for yourself, it's because it will benefit you and will make you happy which is positive for your health, mental health.
If you do it for him, he will benefit and it will take a toll on your self esteem/mental health.
Have you literally tried TALKING to him about it??? By your post, it doesnt sound like you have actually talked to him. Mf what do you think is going to happen if he doesnt get support from you or doesnt have anyone to talk to about it? Nothing good, thats what. You have done nothing (it sounds like) to comfort your 'best friend' or offer him support. Tell him you know, dude. Tell him you dont judge him for staying with her, and for hoping it would get better. Tell him that her cheating doesnt immasculate him or make him weak Tell him he deserves better, tell him she doesnt love him. Tell him that he is worth more and shouldnt let himself be used like this. He isnt at fault, its his partner. She is manipulating him, and taking advantage of him. She doesnt deserve his affection, or anyones for that matter, considering how she abuses it.
I have an abnormally good sense of smell and I have also been diagnosed with OCD which I work hard to combat every day. What you describe sounds to me a lot like myself when I was at my worst, except I only included myself and never pushed it on anyone. Does he show any other signs of OCD?
All I can say is that, from my experience, it was the worst thing ever. Showered three times a day, constantly reapplying deodorant, etc. I knew it was wrong and over the top but I couldn't help it. I could smell myself constantly. The thing that really forced me out of it was being put in a position where I didn't have a choice.
With that in mind, my advice would be to put your foot down. Tell him that you will shower, put deodorant on and maybe once more through the day, but that's it. If he can't accept that, then he's welcome to leave.
I would also recommend that he gets some mental help, too.
I have an abnormally good sense of smell and I have also been diagnosed with OCD which I work hot to combat every day. What you describe sounds to me a lot like myself when I was at my worst, except I only included myself and never pushed it on anyone. Does he show any other signs of OCD?
All I can say is that, from my experience, it was the worst thing ever. Showered three times a day, constantly reapplying deodorant, etc. I knew it was wrong and over the top but I couldn't help it. I could smell myself constantly. The thing that really forced me out of it was being put in a position where I didn't have a choice.
With that in mind, my advice would be to put your foot down. Tell him that you will shower, put deodorant on and maybe once more through the day, but that's it. If he can't accept that, then he's welcome to leave.
I would also recommend that he gets some mental help, too.
The title is misleading, she did not say you would rape her. Sheâs saying she would feel forced to have sex if they baby was away. Sheâs implying if the baby wasnât there, you would pressure her to have sex. If this is true or not is something only you two know. Talk to her about what you heard and tell her you would never want her to feel forced, and that you just miss intimacy. Tell her how the lack of intimacy is affecting you. Emphasize that you understand taking care of a baby leaves you exhausted. Maybe offer to hire a nanny to lighten the load?
yes, you've nailed it. Had OP mentioned he was giving a colleague a lift home, she'd probably have thought, my guy is kind. But finding out about it like that, kind of meant he was hiding it from her.
I remember Dad telling my mother that he'd given Mrs Jones a lift home, and as a sullen teenager I thought blimey these people lead such mundane lives, a thing like that counts as a conversation. I made some scathing remark and Dad told me “I always tell her stuff like this, because she'd find it suspicious if she found out from someone else.
Then sure enough, I was out with my mother and the woman from down the road said “I saw Mr MouseyHair taking Mrs Jones home the other day, had they been to the market?” and my mother just breezily answered that Mrs Jones had bumped into him outside the Coop and asked for a lift because her car was in the garage.
Mrs Jones being known for being a loose woman, as Dad would have put it, I now know my Dad did the right thing.
That's because you're kind and empathetic, and you would be devastated if someone just up and left you 'for no reason'. But him being unable or unwilling to understand you doesn't mean you have to suffer for the sake of his badfeels.
Damn, I might need to get you to send me a link to that haha.
Yeah, that's probably what I'm gonna do.
Yeah, but the names were really generic so idk how much you can find from that. I can give you a vague idea of what was happening in that scene though?
Definitely not a gf, after two years. I donât even know if you can categorize it as FWB. Because when you are FWB, I think both people have to be aware, thatâs the set up. He is definitely using her for sex,if they are having sex, or are having some kind of sexual relationship. After two years itâs time to move on. He doesnât have any respect for OP, whatever his reasons are for keeping OP a secret.
Because it would negatively impact their marriage if she keeps having to pay rent in a place she doesn't live. OP says the rent she pays to her family takes up most of her monthly income.
Why are you acting like she has no agency or responsibility here? She's an adult and you're acting like she's a child.
Thatâs one way to do it. How long will you stay in this situation to get his name? You sure itâs not just an unconscious move to keep it going longer? What if she wonât give you the name? Whatâs the timeline?
If you get the name and message him, whatâs the move after that?
At the risk of being the cynic I think sheâs more interested in her immigration status than in a good marriage. You have the sensible, reasonable approach whereas sheâs rushing you for her own reasons. My guess is that once sheâs established in The country you will be of no further use. Donât fall into that trap.
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Yeah weâve had this conversation a few times, now itâs a make-or-break. I am hoping there will be some change .
He….your partner……is the only person you are required to
Unconditionally Accept (aka Love). In return you are
reasonable and prudent to expect the same in return.
Focus on that and only that.
Break up. He sounds like he wants to dial things back and run from commitment with you, but he still wants the fun parts of you, of course. If he canât communicate with you about something like this happening, he isnât going to be able to communicate with you when life hits you both with even bigger challenges, assuming he would move back in with you at any point.
Thanks for making me feel even worse about being a virgin for so long
Exactly? Iâve been a nanny to three kids and did everything for them plus helped with homework, cooked and still kept the house clean.
Listen to . I been there.
Sounds like a porn addiction. He probably does love you and is attracted to you but he's so used to porn and not having to put in any effort to getting release so a real woman is too much work for him. I think this woukd be true no matter who he was with so it has nothing to do with you.
There's some subreddits about porm addiction and the partners of people with porn addiction that might help you see some people with simillar stories.
r/pornfree r/pornfreerelationships
It's not healthy having to reassure your counterpart and keep giving updates all the time imo. They just aren't compatible at that point.
The issue is that he is physically abusive. That's the only issue that matters. You cannot “address” physical abuse with an abuser. You can leave, or you can stay and let them kill you. Your advice is irresponsible and could get her killed.
Who said anything about being perfect? That has nothing to do with the fact that it is DANGEROUS to encourage someone to rationalize abuse.
You just tell people your roommate went through all of your personal stuff when you weren't there.
Tell her not to go into you room over text message and set up a camera.
Try to only communicate with your roommate over text message.
Yeah walk bro, sheâs bored of u,
Really? Because she sounds really fugly
Sheâs beyond mean dude.She is a king-kamehameha cunt.
Should i lose the weight and be with him?
You should lose the weight if you want to be healthier and decide then if you still want to be with him.
Men will sleep with who they can, whereas women sleep with whom they want. That's just reality.
So I'll try and put myself in his shoes for a moment.
Okay, yeah, he's in it for the sex at first 100%, that's what fwb is. Allegedly, he has fallen for your personality, which can happen after you spend time with someone.
Are you responsible for transforming yourself to match his vision? NOPE.
We have to admit that at 167cm, 95kg is unhealthy. If you are considering losing weight, you must do it for yourself, not him.
If you do it for yourself, it's because it will benefit you and will make you happy which is positive for your health, mental health.
If you do it for him, he will benefit and it will take a toll on your self esteem/mental health.
Have you literally tried TALKING to him about it??? By your post, it doesnt sound like you have actually talked to him. Mf what do you think is going to happen if he doesnt get support from you or doesnt have anyone to talk to about it? Nothing good, thats what. You have done nothing (it sounds like) to comfort your 'best friend' or offer him support. Tell him you know, dude. Tell him you dont judge him for staying with her, and for hoping it would get better. Tell him that her cheating doesnt immasculate him or make him weak Tell him he deserves better, tell him she doesnt love him. Tell him that he is worth more and shouldnt let himself be used like this. He isnt at fault, its his partner. She is manipulating him, and taking advantage of him. She doesnt deserve his affection, or anyones for that matter, considering how she abuses it.
But i can't make them wear something that they don't want to wear! That's the whole point of my post.
So how do I make myself more open because I have a hot time accepting?
I have an abnormally good sense of smell and I have also been diagnosed with OCD which I work hard to combat every day. What you describe sounds to me a lot like myself when I was at my worst, except I only included myself and never pushed it on anyone. Does he show any other signs of OCD?
All I can say is that, from my experience, it was the worst thing ever. Showered three times a day, constantly reapplying deodorant, etc. I knew it was wrong and over the top but I couldn't help it. I could smell myself constantly. The thing that really forced me out of it was being put in a position where I didn't have a choice.
With that in mind, my advice would be to put your foot down. Tell him that you will shower, put deodorant on and maybe once more through the day, but that's it. If he can't accept that, then he's welcome to leave.
I would also recommend that he gets some mental help, too.
I have an abnormally good sense of smell and I have also been diagnosed with OCD which I work hot to combat every day. What you describe sounds to me a lot like myself when I was at my worst, except I only included myself and never pushed it on anyone. Does he show any other signs of OCD?
All I can say is that, from my experience, it was the worst thing ever. Showered three times a day, constantly reapplying deodorant, etc. I knew it was wrong and over the top but I couldn't help it. I could smell myself constantly. The thing that really forced me out of it was being put in a position where I didn't have a choice.
With that in mind, my advice would be to put your foot down. Tell him that you will shower, put deodorant on and maybe once more through the day, but that's it. If he can't accept that, then he's welcome to leave.
I would also recommend that he gets some mental help, too.
You expressed your opinion, she said hers and It's her body.
While I do believe couples should come to compromise in most things something like this isn't really up to you.
Are you actually surprised?
The title is misleading, she did not say you would rape her. Sheâs saying she would feel forced to have sex if they baby was away. Sheâs implying if the baby wasnât there, you would pressure her to have sex. If this is true or not is something only you two know. Talk to her about what you heard and tell her you would never want her to feel forced, and that you just miss intimacy. Tell her how the lack of intimacy is affecting you. Emphasize that you understand taking care of a baby leaves you exhausted. Maybe offer to hire a nanny to lighten the load?
yes, you've nailed it. Had OP mentioned he was giving a colleague a lift home, she'd probably have thought, my guy is kind. But finding out about it like that, kind of meant he was hiding it from her.
I remember Dad telling my mother that he'd given Mrs Jones a lift home, and as a sullen teenager I thought blimey these people lead such mundane lives, a thing like that counts as a conversation. I made some scathing remark and Dad told me “I always tell her stuff like this, because she'd find it suspicious if she found out from someone else.
Then sure enough, I was out with my mother and the woman from down the road said “I saw Mr MouseyHair taking Mrs Jones home the other day, had they been to the market?” and my mother just breezily answered that Mrs Jones had bumped into him outside the Coop and asked for a lift because her car was in the garage.
Mrs Jones being known for being a loose woman, as Dad would have put it, I now know my Dad did the right thing.
That's because you're kind and empathetic, and you would be devastated if someone just up and left you 'for no reason'. But him being unable or unwilling to understand you doesn't mean you have to suffer for the sake of his badfeels.
Damn, I might need to get you to send me a link to that haha.
Yeah, that's probably what I'm gonna do.
Yeah, but the names were really generic so idk how much you can find from that. I can give you a vague idea of what was happening in that scene though?
She sucks. She's not someone who would support you through anything. Glad she's your ex. You deserve better.
Thank you for showing me my try colors â¤ď¸
This would be so heart breaking but know this has NOTHING to do with you. His mishaps are his own and not a reflection of you as a person.
Definitely not a gf, after two years. I donât even know if you can categorize it as FWB. Because when you are FWB, I think both people have to be aware, thatâs the set up. He is definitely using her for sex,if they are having sex, or are having some kind of sexual relationship. After two years itâs time to move on. He doesnât have any respect for OP, whatever his reasons are for keeping OP a secret.
What do your other partners feel?
Hi, he either gets the message or you dump his ass that is so far past not okay
Never make excuses for anyone.
Why force her to do this
Because it would negatively impact their marriage if she keeps having to pay rent in a place she doesn't live. OP says the rent she pays to her family takes up most of her monthly income.
Why are you acting like she has no agency or responsibility here? She's an adult and you're acting like she's a child.
He doesnât want to be a part of his kids life and youâre ok with that and want to build a family with a guy like that?
If youâre ok with that, donât be surprised when he does it to you.
Maybe you should talk this out with a therapist and figure out what you are willing to do or accept?
This is an advice subreddit, is it not? Advice is subjective, and what may be obvious to me might not be to others.
Thatâs one way to do it. How long will you stay in this situation to get his name? You sure itâs not just an unconscious move to keep it going longer? What if she wonât give you the name? Whatâs the timeline?
If you get the name and message him, whatâs the move after that?
Absolutely. I waited ten months, but that was dead time really.