Your views are the epitome of reasonable. Doing what he suggested would leave scars. It just would. Mom didn’t love us equally. She didn’t fight for us. I’m really sorry that you have to deal with this.
I don’t have any advice but your valid for feeling uncomfortable. It’s not as easy as “oh just trust your wife”. My spouse would never put me in a weird position or make me feel uncomfortable or not be willing to hear me out about feeling uncomfortable. Trust your gut
Your views are the epitome of reasonable. Doing what he suggested would leave scars. It just would. Mom didn’t love us equally. She didn’t fight for us. I’m really sorry that you have to deal with this.
This wouldn't be short term. Sister is 21 with no high school degree or work history and no ability to support herself.
Have you posted in the abusive relationship sub? This is definitely abusive behavior.
I don’t have any advice but your valid for feeling uncomfortable. It’s not as easy as “oh just trust your wife”. My spouse would never put me in a weird position or make me feel uncomfortable or not be willing to hear me out about feeling uncomfortable. Trust your gut