I asked my husband to marry me and it was a great decision. As long as you’re clear on your goals and you don’t think he will take this as a sign of disrespect re: his boundary on when he thinks marriage is appropriate
Only you can determine if you want to stay in your marriage. But you need to confront her asap. And you also need to send the info to your friends wife. She needs to be able to make an informed decision about her future.
Don't worry if she gets upset that you saw her messages. Just tell her in no uncertain terms does she get to be the one that is mad. I would probably determine my future with her based on her reaction to your discussion. Don't rug sweep this. That would be the worst thing you could do.
You withheld information you didn't think was relevant. He committed a sex crime. These are not the same thing.
I asked my husband to marry me and it was a great decision. As long as you’re clear on your goals and you don’t think he will take this as a sign of disrespect re: his boundary on when he thinks marriage is appropriate
Someone who’s fucked up more than my fair share so have had to learn the hard, but at least I learned something, right? ??♂️
Only you can determine if you want to stay in your marriage. But you need to confront her asap. And you also need to send the info to your friends wife. She needs to be able to make an informed decision about her future.
Don't worry if she gets upset that you saw her messages. Just tell her in no uncertain terms does she get to be the one that is mad. I would probably determine my future with her based on her reaction to your discussion. Don't rug sweep this. That would be the worst thing you could do.