I don't even think it's having their back – you need to have their front in situations like this.
Your family can talk all the shit they want about you for interpersonal conflict – you're related, they can't get rid of you. When it comes to your spouse, they should present somewhere between a boy scout and the second coming of Jesus to your family. You handle the dirty work with them, let him/her keep their own image clean. They should give you the same treatment with their own family.
Adults shouldn't punish adults. He should absolutely educate himself and apologize, but this kind of “punishment” isn't healthy
It isn’t healthy at all. And it is also rooted in the idea that women do not enjoy sex and use it only as an exchange coin for other things.
Teach me Daddy. I want my cock to be as big as yours
I don't even think it's having their back – you need to have their front in situations like this.
Your family can talk all the shit they want about you for interpersonal conflict – you're related, they can't get rid of you. When it comes to your spouse, they should present somewhere between a boy scout and the second coming of Jesus to your family. You handle the dirty work with them, let him/her keep their own image clean. They should give you the same treatment with their own family.