Weird as shit. But not just on her, he is too for letting it happen. I wouldn’t be surprised if you find out they were even closer than you think at some point in their life. I don’t think I’d keep dating that person honestly. Too weird for me.
Don’t worry about what your think might happen(ruining the friendship, work dynamic etc) because you don’t know what will happen. Take her out to dinner or something and tell her. Then she will either tell you good or bad news and you will talk about it and then let things flow from there. If you’re shy to ask her directly if she has feelings for you or to tell her your feelings then pop a question like “have you ever thought about us together? As a couple?”
If you really like her then go for it. Think about this: if some other manager from work came and ask her out tomorrow and she said yes could you just sit there and stomach it? Would you have any regrets?
First you cheated on her (conveniently left that out, but it's all over your post history), then you waste time and money into therapy (I'm pretty sure her resentment is still there), and now you want to withold/delay breaking up to screw up her financial independence? Why the delay, why wait around for no fcking reason? Dude just do it now.
Seriously stop wasting time, there is nothing to dilly dally about and there is no reason to draw it out any longer.
Also the fact that you fund the therapist is because you had an affair and wanted to string her along. She resents you for your betrayal. The fact that you resent her for the therapy bill because you want to “fix” the betrayal you caused is a sort of a “leopards ate my face” rhetoric. Ironic.
Exactly! You husband can block her number so he doesn’t have to deal with unsolicited pics/ texts
Weird as shit. But not just on her, he is too for letting it happen. I wouldn’t be surprised if you find out they were even closer than you think at some point in their life. I don’t think I’d keep dating that person honestly. Too weird for me.
Don’t worry about what your think might happen(ruining the friendship, work dynamic etc) because you don’t know what will happen. Take her out to dinner or something and tell her. Then she will either tell you good or bad news and you will talk about it and then let things flow from there. If you’re shy to ask her directly if she has feelings for you or to tell her your feelings then pop a question like “have you ever thought about us together? As a couple?”
If you really like her then go for it. Think about this: if some other manager from work came and ask her out tomorrow and she said yes could you just sit there and stomach it? Would you have any regrets?
This is the way!
First you cheated on her (conveniently left that out, but it's all over your post history), then you waste time and money into therapy (I'm pretty sure her resentment is still there), and now you want to withold/delay breaking up to screw up her financial independence? Why the delay, why wait around for no fcking reason? Dude just do it now.
Seriously stop wasting time, there is nothing to dilly dally about and there is no reason to draw it out any longer.
Also the fact that you fund the therapist is because you had an affair and wanted to string her along. She resents you for your betrayal. The fact that you resent her for the therapy bill because you want to “fix” the betrayal you caused is a sort of a “leopards ate my face” rhetoric. Ironic.