I don’t get why people think saying “no” is so easy? Saying “no” is very hot when you’re in a pretty new relationship, saying “no” is hot when you’ve moved in with someone and have to potentially be worried about being kicked out, saying “no” is naked when there is an age difference, saying “no” is hot when there is a physical strength difference. These are just some of the hurdles to saying “no” before you hit extreme naked mode where there has been CSA and from being emotionally vulnerable. It’s ok to feel let down from a partner who did not see you as you needed to be seen in that moment. You deserve comfort. Do whatever you can to comfort yourself before you do communicate with him when you are on steady ground to say you want to work out what you need. Safe words have been mentioned which is great. I would also give him an opportunity to have him explore ways he can help besides his fallback of space and sex.
Tbh this relationship didn't sound great to start with since you had to give up a friendship for it but you messed up and broke the trust so it's over now and keep it that way.
This! Specially when the cheater is a woman because they’ll never not shift blame or gaslight.
I don’t get why people think saying “no” is so easy? Saying “no” is very hot when you’re in a pretty new relationship, saying “no” is hot when you’ve moved in with someone and have to potentially be worried about being kicked out, saying “no” is naked when there is an age difference, saying “no” is hot when there is a physical strength difference. These are just some of the hurdles to saying “no” before you hit extreme naked mode where there has been CSA and from being emotionally vulnerable. It’s ok to feel let down from a partner who did not see you as you needed to be seen in that moment. You deserve comfort. Do whatever you can to comfort yourself before you do communicate with him when you are on steady ground to say you want to work out what you need. Safe words have been mentioned which is great. I would also give him an opportunity to have him explore ways he can help besides his fallback of space and sex.
Why lie if it’s really from awhile back. Congratulations on seeing through the bullshit.
“Even my mom knows”
So does he just randomly tell his mom about all the shit his hookups leave behind??
Tbh this relationship didn't sound great to start with since you had to give up a friendship for it but you messed up and broke the trust so it's over now and keep it that way.