Oh my goodness… I am so sorry. I wish you strength. I personally don't believe in this money separation business. Even if you don't contribute financially, your immediate family is his family too. He should make them feel welcome, specially since he has his friends and family whom you are nice to, I presume. Would your MIL and SIL support you if you told them? It sounds like a tough situation, and you seem like you don't have a confidant to discuss this with. I would advise you to let your sister visit, even if it causes strain and then confide in her. She knows you, and may have a perspective you would benefit from. Best of luck!
All the stuff about your relationship aside – you’re focusing on the wrong thing here. You’re all caught up in what’s fair or not and you’re completely missing the issue of consent. Consent is a two way street and can be revoked at any time. Your husband has revoked his consent. You cannot continue sleeping with others after your husband has revoked consent. You shouldn’t be trying to convince him to keep the relationship open after he revoked consent.
The only decent options are to divorce or to close the relationship back up. Healthy relationships respect their partners and take consent seriously. Neither of you seem to respect one another but that’s a problem for therapy assuming you close the relationship and stay with him.
Oh my goodness… I am so sorry. I wish you strength. I personally don't believe in this money separation business. Even if you don't contribute financially, your immediate family is his family too. He should make them feel welcome, specially since he has his friends and family whom you are nice to, I presume. Would your MIL and SIL support you if you told them? It sounds like a tough situation, and you seem like you don't have a confidant to discuss this with. I would advise you to let your sister visit, even if it causes strain and then confide in her. She knows you, and may have a perspective you would benefit from. Best of luck!
All the stuff about your relationship aside – you’re focusing on the wrong thing here. You’re all caught up in what’s fair or not and you’re completely missing the issue of consent. Consent is a two way street and can be revoked at any time. Your husband has revoked his consent. You cannot continue sleeping with others after your husband has revoked consent. You shouldn’t be trying to convince him to keep the relationship open after he revoked consent.
The only decent options are to divorce or to close the relationship back up. Healthy relationships respect their partners and take consent seriously. Neither of you seem to respect one another but that’s a problem for therapy assuming you close the relationship and stay with him.