She has apologised for both and appologised for having an emotional response and storming away/leaving me feeling alone there over something I didn’t have much control over (being spoken to/being friendly back) She tried to say that what I’d done was worse/that having a conversation with a stripper when people are there for the sexual side of things is more intimate than an actual dance etc. She told me she thought the stripper was actually into me more than just as a customer and I explained that in my mind that was the stripper doing her job/sensing that I was maybe more awkward than the others and potentially trying to gain a customer through conversation/relating/making me feel more at ease there. I felt kinda sad because the stripper had been friendly with me and I wasn’t even thinking of it as inherently sexual, I was just happy someone was talking to me like a person since strip clubs aren’t really my scene and she seemed like a bit of an alt girl; someone I’d be friends with outside of this environment… probably not a place to make a friend and I’m a bit naive thinking she wouldn’t get a lap dance considering where we were but my intentions going in was to bond with my workmates/admire girls without touching and maybe watch them get a dance.
It is a little creepy yeah, I think he only offered us a lap dance because we’re girls tbh and maybe he got a kick out of it. I’m not entirely sure he didn’t want to stir things up between us but don’t want to indulge in that feeling/read too much into it or be paranoid. Group was mostly guys, two big supervisors from our work and one other girl. The guys that were in relationships didn’t get dances/I asked one if he would and he said his gf was back home and he didn’t want one… kinda cute and wholesome but everyone’s relationship is different with what’s okay and what’s not.
I would just leave the group. Even if it was genuine, do you want to hang out with a bunch of people that excluded you?
She has apologised for both and appologised for having an emotional response and storming away/leaving me feeling alone there over something I didn’t have much control over (being spoken to/being friendly back) She tried to say that what I’d done was worse/that having a conversation with a stripper when people are there for the sexual side of things is more intimate than an actual dance etc. She told me she thought the stripper was actually into me more than just as a customer and I explained that in my mind that was the stripper doing her job/sensing that I was maybe more awkward than the others and potentially trying to gain a customer through conversation/relating/making me feel more at ease there. I felt kinda sad because the stripper had been friendly with me and I wasn’t even thinking of it as inherently sexual, I was just happy someone was talking to me like a person since strip clubs aren’t really my scene and she seemed like a bit of an alt girl; someone I’d be friends with outside of this environment… probably not a place to make a friend and I’m a bit naive thinking she wouldn’t get a lap dance considering where we were but my intentions going in was to bond with my workmates/admire girls without touching and maybe watch them get a dance.
It is a little creepy yeah, I think he only offered us a lap dance because we’re girls tbh and maybe he got a kick out of it. I’m not entirely sure he didn’t want to stir things up between us but don’t want to indulge in that feeling/read too much into it or be paranoid. Group was mostly guys, two big supervisors from our work and one other girl. The guys that were in relationships didn’t get dances/I asked one if he would and he said his gf was back home and he didn’t want one… kinda cute and wholesome but everyone’s relationship is different with what’s okay and what’s not.
Well shoot you paid off her loans the least she could do is give you have of what she receives. It's fair, it's what adults do.