Also I literally stated he had plenty of other porn lots of straight porn of all types of kinks that i dont care about:) I don’t even particularly care about the sissy porn, if thats all it is porn. However from my knowledge of the sissy community it is a very much lifestyle thing. Thats why I included the bit about messages, because I can on-line with it however its already clearly more than just porn.
Im looking for advice on if I should even bring it up to him:)
You go from saying he shouldn't be told this because it is rare, to a 0% argument. Do you know where OP lives? Do you know the conviction rates and sentencing limits there? If either of those answers are no, then you can not claim what you are claiming. Your argument over these people's “possibility” with your absolute “zero” is ridiculous. Nobody said there is a high probability of conviction or jail time, you are arguing for the sake of arguing.
I’ve never been in anything like that situation before so my advice is probably meaningless but if I (34M) were to give you any it would be to talk to him and let him know if/when you feel like you’re being left out and how that makes you feel. He might not even realize that he’s doing it so if you want to be included you might have to make it glaringly obvious that you do. As a man myself I can attest, and I’m sure that my fiancé (39F) would agree, that we’re not always the best at picking up on subtle social cues. If his friends aren’t giving you guys space and you feel like you need it or more of it then I wouldn’t hesitate to talk to them about that. I would be sure to let him know that you’re feeling left out and like you might be growing apart some before things get too bad. Don’t let things get out of hand and risk losing someone that you care about because you were too nervous to take action.
Also I literally stated he had plenty of other porn lots of straight porn of all types of kinks that i dont care about:) I don’t even particularly care about the sissy porn, if thats all it is porn. However from my knowledge of the sissy community it is a very much lifestyle thing. Thats why I included the bit about messages, because I can on-line with it however its already clearly more than just porn.
Im looking for advice on if I should even bring it up to him:)
You go from saying he shouldn't be told this because it is rare, to a 0% argument. Do you know where OP lives? Do you know the conviction rates and sentencing limits there? If either of those answers are no, then you can not claim what you are claiming. Your argument over these people's “possibility” with your absolute “zero” is ridiculous. Nobody said there is a high probability of conviction or jail time, you are arguing for the sake of arguing.
Why are you choosing this situation?
I’ve never been in anything like that situation before so my advice is probably meaningless but if I (34M) were to give you any it would be to talk to him and let him know if/when you feel like you’re being left out and how that makes you feel. He might not even realize that he’s doing it so if you want to be included you might have to make it glaringly obvious that you do. As a man myself I can attest, and I’m sure that my fiancé (39F) would agree, that we’re not always the best at picking up on subtle social cues. If his friends aren’t giving you guys space and you feel like you need it or more of it then I wouldn’t hesitate to talk to them about that. I would be sure to let him know that you’re feeling left out and like you might be growing apart some before things get too bad. Don’t let things get out of hand and risk losing someone that you care about because you were too nervous to take action.