It honestly sounds to me like he's trying to take relationship terminology and communication strategies, and weaponize it against you.
Which is one of the reasons people are cautioned against going to therapy with abusers. He is already doing it here, I haven't read through all the comments, but I'll bet there's people recommending couples therapy. I'd be extremely wary about that given his tendencies to do this.
Do not get married to someone who makes threats about withholding access to your child. Instead, get a good lawyer and have them deal with this to create a legal custody and child support court order.
A name is just a name, OP. Your infant child isn't going to have a clue for many, many years. Stop obsessing about this silly issue. It's just a name. People change their names all the time.
Marital benefits do have value, but they are primarily related to things that can be shared by spouses – job benefits, next of kin issues (if one of you became incapacitated), insurance, property purchases, tax issues, debt, etc. If you are having children together, these things can be very important!
I guess it doesn't matter. Its officially have been a week since the fight. Nothing new.
Was about to comment this
It honestly sounds to me like he's trying to take relationship terminology and communication strategies, and weaponize it against you.
Which is one of the reasons people are cautioned against going to therapy with abusers. He is already doing it here, I haven't read through all the comments, but I'll bet there's people recommending couples therapy. I'd be extremely wary about that given his tendencies to do this.
This is an advice sub, and my advice is –
Do not get married to someone who makes threats about withholding access to your child. Instead, get a good lawyer and have them deal with this to create a legal custody and child support court order.
A name is just a name, OP. Your infant child isn't going to have a clue for many, many years. Stop obsessing about this silly issue. It's just a name. People change their names all the time.
Marital benefits do have value, but they are primarily related to things that can be shared by spouses – job benefits, next of kin issues (if one of you became incapacitated), insurance, property purchases, tax issues, debt, etc. If you are having children together, these things can be very important!