Gala-Guzman live webcams for YOU!

One thought on “Gala-Guzman live webcams for YOU!”

1. Ok, I have a ton of questions that I need to ask to give good advice:

   First question first: How long have you two been together, and how long have you two been married? Second question: Have there been any changes in both your lives that happened around the time of your marriage? Third question: How many hours a day and how many days a week do you both work? Also, what sort of work are you both doing? Fourth question: How much housework do you, specifically you, do and what is it? Fifth question: Outside of sex how does your married life compare to your pre-married life? Sixth question: How much time do you spend together when not working and how is it? Seventh question: How much do you know about women's libido? Both from experience with previous partners, and just generally.

   Here are the reasons why I ask these questions:

   First reason: Most couples find that libido naturally drops after about the first year of a relationship. Not sure why, but it's a normal thing. This is only a problem if this reveals a disparity in the couples libido, i.e. one has a naturally high libido, the other has a naturally low libido. Second reason: Before marriage there is usually plenty of time and space for sex. Both doing it and thinking about it. Once marriage happens couples normally start thinking about things like kids, getting a house, etc. etc. You two are thinking about buying together, hence the busy work schedule. This can reduce time and space to both have sex and think about sex. Third reason: If your wife is working a long day at an exhausting job then this can kill her libido. I recently started a physically demanding job and for awhile I was too physically tired and in the wrong headspace to even jerkoff, let alone have sex with someone I care about. Fourth reason: Inequality in the housework is a big turn-off for women. I've lost count of the number of posts by guys who say they do their fair share of the housework and, when asked for specifics, they do the dishes and take out the garbage once a week. You need to list each task you do and compare them to a list of what she does. Are the amounts similar or different? What about the effort required? Putting dishes in a dishwasher is much easier than scrubbing a burnt on lasanga until the pan shines. Fifth reason: I already asked about any changes in your lives post-marriage, but the reason I ask to compare it to your pre-marriage life is so that you can examine specifics. Are you spending more time together or less time together. Have the amount of dates increased or decreased. When you talk what do you talk about? Sixth reason: Quality time together and a lack of it can make and break relationships. You say you commute together in your car and then pick her up afterwards to take her to your work where you keep working for a couple more hours. You might feel that's quality time together, but she might not. When you're driving you're not focussed on her, and when she's at your work you're again not focussed on her. She might enjoy that time together, but it might not be all she wants. Seventh reason: I know that question sounds harsh, but it doesn't sound like you have alot of experience in understanding a woman's libido. All the things you've said are common reasons why women don't want to have sex. They're not weird excuses she's giving you. Being in the right physical and emotional space is crucial for a woman to feel comfortable to have sex. Especially if it's with someone she cares about.

   I can try and give specific advice if you answer the questions, but for now I'll leave some general advice:

   First advice: Talk to her. Not “Why won't you have sex with me?” but “How are you feeling?” It's important that you communicate your concern, but don't do it in a way that leaves her feeling blamed or defensive. You need to look at it as the both of you working together to solve a problem, not one person being the problem. Second advice: Couples counselling! It can be very helpful to jointly see a neutral and independent third-party for advice. They can help you learn to better communicate your needs and understand your wife's needs. Third advice: If this has been or continues for a long-time, then you need to think about whether you want to stay together. If she refuses to see that there's an issue or refuses to go to couples counsellling, then you need to think about whether you want to stay together. If she agrees to couples counselling, you both follow the advice, and then it still doesn't get any better? Then you need to think about whether you want to stay together.

   From one guy to another I hope everything works out for you. Good luck!

   Reply