Honestly I think you're just stirring the pot with this. Who cares what your parents were thinking? Your brother didn't choose to be born and your other brother didn't choose to be sick. Blaming each other for a decision your mum and dad may or may not have made is stupid, and they should be moving past that rather than fixating and digging more into it. At the end of the day it shouldn't matter one bit to their relationship as brothers, because neither of them had anything to do with it.
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Just know that if you bring it up your relationship will more than likely be over. If she says no and you say OK never mind it will likely still eb the end of the relationship jsut for bringing it up. Or she agrees to it to “not lose you” without begging truly on board with it and it will be over as well. Or she agrees with it and she gets more action than you and you'll get jealous and it will be the end of it as well.
In short, when people open up previously monogamous relationship it rarely does not end up ending the relationship. So think long and nude about this before bringing it up. And if she says no what will happen to that appetite for sleeping around?? I'm betting you won't be able to suppress it long term. You're young and you're allowed to feel the way you but it means you're just not ready for a long-term monogamous relationship. That's why people should avoid LTR when they're young because too many people end up feeling like they missed out. So set her free and go sleep around.
He’s not going to get his shit together; he’s going to pretend until he gets into your house, and then you will never be able to trust him around your dog.
Is that what you want? Always wondering if he’s going to secretly harm your dog?
His petulant and childish hatred for an animal is manipulative bullshit; he must’ve done a number on you for you to even consider his feelings on this. He can experience sadness, but he can’t go around telling you that he wants to get rid of an animal you have chosen to adopt and care for as long as you are able to. What a terrible thing to say to someone.
No “chances”; just break up and free yourself of this abuse.
No. Your children see what’s going on. You’re in denial, and can act stupid to these things all you want but it doesn’t change the fact that they do see things, pick up on things, and learn from both of your actions. Wow are you really going to treat your kids like ignoramuses? I hear this kind of shit allll the time. Parents underestimating their children. Shame on you.
Don’t marry her that’s my advice
What would happen if you told an older male relative about this?… eg. Your father.
Honestly I think you're just stirring the pot with this. Who cares what your parents were thinking? Your brother didn't choose to be born and your other brother didn't choose to be sick. Blaming each other for a decision your mum and dad may or may not have made is stupid, and they should be moving past that rather than fixating and digging more into it. At the end of the day it shouldn't matter one bit to their relationship as brothers, because neither of them had anything to do with it.
I’m married to them. So I try my best. It’s not something crippling to my marriage, I’m just curious as to if anyone else has these fleeting thoughts.
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Yup, any help she requires from him in the future will be met with “stop being pathetic”.
I'm sorry your friends can't understand why you don't want to be nude around someone who has hit on you before.
Especially with that age gap, that's creepy.
TIL how women get pregnant. 😉
If they weren't happy with each other, they wouldn't of gotten engaged.
why do the comments keep getting deleted
Just know that if you bring it up your relationship will more than likely be over. If she says no and you say OK never mind it will likely still eb the end of the relationship jsut for bringing it up. Or she agrees to it to “not lose you” without begging truly on board with it and it will be over as well. Or she agrees with it and she gets more action than you and you'll get jealous and it will be the end of it as well.
In short, when people open up previously monogamous relationship it rarely does not end up ending the relationship. So think long and nude about this before bringing it up. And if she says no what will happen to that appetite for sleeping around?? I'm betting you won't be able to suppress it long term. You're young and you're allowed to feel the way you but it means you're just not ready for a long-term monogamous relationship. That's why people should avoid LTR when they're young because too many people end up feeling like they missed out. So set her free and go sleep around.
He’s not going to get his shit together; he’s going to pretend until he gets into your house, and then you will never be able to trust him around your dog.
Is that what you want? Always wondering if he’s going to secretly harm your dog?
His petulant and childish hatred for an animal is manipulative bullshit; he must’ve done a number on you for you to even consider his feelings on this. He can experience sadness, but he can’t go around telling you that he wants to get rid of an animal you have chosen to adopt and care for as long as you are able to. What a terrible thing to say to someone.
No “chances”; just break up and free yourself of this abuse.
White his therapist a letter and mail it to her.
No. Your children see what’s going on. You’re in denial, and can act stupid to these things all you want but it doesn’t change the fact that they do see things, pick up on things, and learn from both of your actions. Wow are you really going to treat your kids like ignoramuses? I hear this kind of shit allll the time. Parents underestimating their children. Shame on you.
If you find out why, let me know. My ex wife supported me getting a vasectomy and then left me six weeks later.