This right here. I'm not sure why you're marrying this man at all, but if you really want to stop drowning, stop helping him. Do the stuff for yourself and let him figure it out. Throw his cupcake comment back in his face “maybe you shouldn't play so many video games” when he complains his shit is dirty and he has no food. Tell him until he looks after himself you won't be doing that.
However, I am personally v against “changing” men. Date and marry men who are ALREADY what you need. Don't overlook fatal flaws with “but I love him”. If you think he might change, couples counselling will help this process be less painful. I personally wouldn't waste my energy trying to change a man 8 years my senior.
Ok facts, but at least she may get financial/emotional support by chance? I dunno, at the very least she wouldn’t be holding onto that secret
This right here. I'm not sure why you're marrying this man at all, but if you really want to stop drowning, stop helping him. Do the stuff for yourself and let him figure it out. Throw his cupcake comment back in his face “maybe you shouldn't play so many video games” when he complains his shit is dirty and he has no food. Tell him until he looks after himself you won't be doing that.
However, I am personally v against “changing” men. Date and marry men who are ALREADY what you need. Don't overlook fatal flaws with “but I love him”. If you think he might change, couples counselling will help this process be less painful. I personally wouldn't waste my energy trying to change a man 8 years my senior.
You can ask but that could lead to a break-up, do you want to be with someone who wants her ex?