This goes against the grain of this site but it’s the truth. You should help.
First, remember when you were in her position- first kids are hot. Help adds way more than it costs and possibly someone did it for you.
Second, you have a few decades left until you’re going to need more help than you’re considering giving your daughter as you age. Family help goes both ways.
Please know Jacob is a total scumbag and if it had not been Ellie it would have been some other girl. Your sister is going to be very sad and hurt for a long time but it is NOT your fault. She will move on some day and find someone better and Jacob and Ellie won't have the fairytale life they currently imagine together. Newborn babies are HOT work and will put any relationship to the test. Not to mention your sister will likely get child support if not marital support. Jacob is in lala land but the second family court is in session it's gonna wipe that smile right off his stupid face.
I don't go into personal details. And, I don't have the interest to go through your comments because I really don't care too much about you or what you do.
Don’t leave your home. Also check in with your son. Both of you need therapy and possibly therapy together. Honestly I would schedule a consultation with a divorce attorney. You don’t have to decide on a divorce now but it would be good to talk our all possibilities.
Big disagree here. I'll give him points for not flipping the fuck out. But he's being extremely naive and the fact that he's actually advocating that they keep in contact is proof of that.
This is the other thing to consider, you are lonely. Maybe it's the feeling of wanting to be loved by someone is attracting you more to this guy than you actually liking him. Work relationships are usually not a good idea too
What kind of advice are you looking for? You know his behaviour is awful, you know he won't change, and you say in another comment that you are trying to leave. So, what can we do for you right now to help your current situation?
he makes you feel like the crazy one when what he does is lying to your face. I would break up with him ASAP, trust me, he will come clean after breaking up with him. But there shouldn't be any 2nd chances, it is one of the worst situations when they get caught in a lie and they start blaming you.
Please look into premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD). This sounds a lot like it.
Break up. After you break up, break up. And break up for good measure.
Guess I have to start waking up around 4am.
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This goes against the grain of this site but it’s the truth. You should help.
First, remember when you were in her position- first kids are hot. Help adds way more than it costs and possibly someone did it for you.
Second, you have a few decades left until you’re going to need more help than you’re considering giving your daughter as you age. Family help goes both ways.
Can you date a liar? You're too old to be dealing with her childish games – it's incredibly unattractive. Move on.
Please know Jacob is a total scumbag and if it had not been Ellie it would have been some other girl. Your sister is going to be very sad and hurt for a long time but it is NOT your fault. She will move on some day and find someone better and Jacob and Ellie won't have the fairytale life they currently imagine together. Newborn babies are HOT work and will put any relationship to the test. Not to mention your sister will likely get child support if not marital support. Jacob is in lala land but the second family court is in session it's gonna wipe that smile right off his stupid face.
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what was the gist of it
Sleep apnea is my partners problem. Effects my sleep, but atleast his chainsaw snores tell me he's alive
I don't go into personal details. And, I don't have the interest to go through your comments because I really don't care too much about you or what you do.
Do not ask questions if you can't handle the answer. I totally understand him.
If he is concerned about money then he should be trying to live! within your means. If he's not willing to do that, then just break up.
Wait, I just realized he's living in your place. That changes things a bit, I can see your point now
Don’t leave your home. Also check in with your son. Both of you need therapy and possibly therapy together. Honestly I would schedule a consultation with a divorce attorney. You don’t have to decide on a divorce now but it would be good to talk our all possibilities.
Why do you keep creating new accounts over and over again to post this verbatim after repeatedly being told you need therapy?
Big disagree here. I'll give him points for not flipping the fuck out. But he's being extremely naive and the fact that he's actually advocating that they keep in contact is proof of that.
Infidelity seems like a very significant form of “emotional abuse”
Oh come on. You can do much better than this guy. The next time he accuses you of cheating on him, cut him lose.
Get out there an find someone more compatible.
This is the other thing to consider, you are lonely. Maybe it's the feeling of wanting to be loved by someone is attracting you more to this guy than you actually liking him. Work relationships are usually not a good idea too
What kind of advice are you looking for? You know his behaviour is awful, you know he won't change, and you say in another comment that you are trying to leave. So, what can we do for you right now to help your current situation?
he makes you feel like the crazy one when what he does is lying to your face. I would break up with him ASAP, trust me, he will come clean after breaking up with him. But there shouldn't be any 2nd chances, it is one of the worst situations when they get caught in a lie and they start blaming you.