Putting on 30lbs in 6 months is logically insane, and certainly incredibly noticeable.
If she goes to the gym 6 days/week, she's either just socializing, or eating absurdly above her maintenance calories. I mean that's clearly happening either way, but that amount of weight gain is monumentally significant, meaning, she's eating A LOT.
Very hot as this conversation may be, you need to be honest with yourself; do you want to be with her as she currently is? We could all come here and call you shallow, but it's your life and you're entitled to be attracted to what you're attracted to. From a health perspective, we'd have to assume it's only going to get worse.
So bring it up. Is it better to just avoid a physical relationship and be miserable?
There’s nothing to say. If you’re not attracted, break up. You’re entitled to your preferences. You can break up with someone for any reason or none at all. You’ve dated for 6 mos—the purpose of dating is to see if it’s a good fit. This isn’t a good fit for you.
There’s literally zero way to tell someone that you’re no longer attracted due to their weight and expect them to not feel hurt and self conscious.
She ostensibly had a mirror and a scale—she knows she’s gained weight. She knows what she would need to do to lose it. It’s not a priority for her right now. Or she’s got a medical issue that inspite of exercise, she’s gaining. Or she is on a medication like birth control or anti depressants that are impacting her. Or her metabolism is simply slowing as she’s nearly 30.
Regardless of the reason, you telling her she’s gained weight and you’re not attracted will be hurtful.
Lol, oh to be 18-20 again.
It's your body and you do whatever makes you feel safe and comfortable.
I guess your brother realized qucker than I that animals>>>>people.
Good for him.
Leave him alone and dont try and force your mindset on live! on to him.
The hard truth is that you can only be direct.
Putting on 30lbs in 6 months is logically insane, and certainly incredibly noticeable.
If she goes to the gym 6 days/week, she's either just socializing, or eating absurdly above her maintenance calories. I mean that's clearly happening either way, but that amount of weight gain is monumentally significant, meaning, she's eating A LOT.
Very hot as this conversation may be, you need to be honest with yourself; do you want to be with her as she currently is? We could all come here and call you shallow, but it's your life and you're entitled to be attracted to what you're attracted to. From a health perspective, we'd have to assume it's only going to get worse.
So bring it up. Is it better to just avoid a physical relationship and be miserable?
There’s nothing to say. If you’re not attracted, break up. You’re entitled to your preferences. You can break up with someone for any reason or none at all. You’ve dated for 6 mos—the purpose of dating is to see if it’s a good fit. This isn’t a good fit for you.
There’s literally zero way to tell someone that you’re no longer attracted due to their weight and expect them to not feel hurt and self conscious.
She ostensibly had a mirror and a scale—she knows she’s gained weight. She knows what she would need to do to lose it. It’s not a priority for her right now. Or she’s got a medical issue that inspite of exercise, she’s gaining. Or she is on a medication like birth control or anti depressants that are impacting her. Or her metabolism is simply slowing as she’s nearly 30.
Regardless of the reason, you telling her she’s gained weight and you’re not attracted will be hurtful.
Get him to remove all his teeth and wear fake ones