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1. Similar to you guys we have no money to go to therapy, and similar to your wife I used to hate my partner using porn especially if I was in the house, and similar to you my partner needs to get off every day, more of than not it's at least twice a day.

   Honestly I didn't even realise how much he jerked off until the last couple of years (I'm 32, he's 37, we've been together 11 years) as we weren't very sexually communicative until we had our son 3 years ago. If I had known the extent of it at your wife's age, I probably would have had a similar reaction.

   In terms of how we managed what I did know about, we agreed that he wouldn't jerk off in a shared space where I could walk in on him, he would do it in the bathroom or when I wasn't home. I also asked that did have pictures of other women as screen savers anywhere and he basically kept it to himself as it made me feel so insecure and like I wasn't enough for him.

   Fast forward 4 years when our son was born I stumbled across (and then delved into, let's be honest) his massive use of NSFW reddit, and instead of getting mad I decided to join reddit and see what it was all about, having never used visual porn in my life before. It was a revelation. I searched about and looked at some of the subs he had searched for over a few months to get an idea of how it was, and then I initiated a conversation where I admitted I had seen his search history and that I wasn't mad, I just wanted to know more.

   Since then our sex life and sexual communication have done a complete 180°, I no longer hide my written porn, he no longer hides when he has jerked off, I no longer hide my vibrator and in fact we have an entire drawer full of toys, wands, butt plugs and now we're exploring restraints and pain play. It has been so good for our relationship, just being open to understanding how the other feels. And honestly seeing what he watched and how similar the women are to me in body type and sexuality made me feel empowered, he said he'd always just felt like a pervert around me, like he had to hide how attracted he was to me all the time because my libido was up and down. But now he openly stares at me and tells me how frustrated he is etc and I take a lot more nudes and videos for him than ever before, and he jerks off to them probably more than reddit now.

   I suppose my advice would be to go in with a gentle and open mind. Try your best to understand her point of view and validate her feelings without any “buts” or conditions. If you can be open to learning, she may reciprocate or you'll at least set a precedent. Be more curious about what gets her off, like I enjoy visual porn but mostly I like written, so in exchange for graphic nudes he writes me graphic fantasy stories about us together and what he wants to do to me. And he constantly, constantly tells me how naked I am, even after two kids, I feel more secure and confident now than I did at 23.

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