You can salvage the situation. Yes he sounds angry, but has he lost his love for you? He must have told you what he expects from your relationship. Try to meet his expectations with teasing him about his sex drive.
Yeah it sounds like this is a her thing and she needs to work on it. You should not feel like you have to walk on eggshells around your girlfriend if you wanna put your arm around her.
You matter and you always have worth. Your needs and wants matter. Your boundaries are to be respected. You are stronger than you think. You have the heart of a survivor. Just be the best version of you that you can be. Learn. Grow. Blossom. You have it in you to be brave. You have it in you to do what you need to do for YOU. Because, again, you matter. Good luck!! I'm rooting for you!
It wasn't a flex. I was just making a point that you don't really know people. How well do you know your neighbors? You don't know the thoughts or musings that go on inside people's heads.
A lot depends on the company, too. If I was out with my boys then there might be some bro talk going on. But, if I'm out with my BIL then probably not.
What do you think you will gain? Emotional satisfaction by telling her off? You might get some short term satisfaction, all it will really do is prolong the process of moving on. Delete the text and forget about it
The same way one would educate their sexist partner : “dear, men cry. We've been peer pressured into thinking that men shouldn't cry and so we hide to do it. For me to cry in front of you is somewhat of a proof of love and thrust. Now to be frank seeing that otherwise is a bit sexist and that is not something you would really enjoy from my side.”
It's her choice. But she involved you. Up to you, would you not make a call about a random building on fire? And if she can't appreciate your burdens, what friend this?
Totally wrong OP can prove ownership with documentation vet records photos etc… No sane person is going to get into a legal battle for a cat they have acquired for a few days. OP was gone a few days not months.
OP owned it not husband so yes it’s considered stolen property especially if she paid for everything.
I'm around moms age as well. I wouldn't be friends with a man my age who spoke to any 18yr old this way. And if I saw someone speak to my kid this way I'd be dealing with it myself, not expecting my kid to allow it. Fucking gross.
I think you need to dig down into this “honesty” a little, because you clearly are not fine just being friends – and that's normal! You have romantic feelings for her and you want more, which is why you feel jealous and upset when she talks about other people. What you're feeling is totally normal, but you need to stop pretending that you are fine with how things are when you're not. It's a recipe for heartbreak.
Your friendship as it was went out the door when you started developing feelings. You could rebuild a friendship down the line, but you need to get over her first. I guarantee she knows how you feel, but she has told you in no uncertain terms that she doesn't want to date you for real. If you're unable to back out of prom without causing major issues, go just as friends without any cuddling or relationship-esque behavior. Then take some distance from the friendship and if you have a strong bond you'll reconnect in the future when you've gotten over her. Otherwise (and most likely), you'll just look back on this as a high school crush.
right? i’m seeing those kinds of opinions way too much here and it’s making me lose faith in humanity.
You can salvage the situation. Yes he sounds angry, but has he lost his love for you? He must have told you what he expects from your relationship. Try to meet his expectations with teasing him about his sex drive.
Yea l guess you are right, didn’t realise I was exhibiting so many red flags.
How was there no parking if you pre-paid?
Also people weren’t literally leaving their cars everywhere. ?
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Yeah it sounds like this is a her thing and she needs to work on it. You should not feel like you have to walk on eggshells around your girlfriend if you wanna put your arm around her.
She’s 29 year old and she’s throwing a tantrum because tits are on a TV screen?
Run, brother. Run like the wind.
Do you believe your relationship is so fragile, that not having a class together will break it?
I have faith in you. Just remember:
You matter and you always have worth. Your needs and wants matter. Your boundaries are to be respected. You are stronger than you think. You have the heart of a survivor. Just be the best version of you that you can be. Learn. Grow. Blossom. You have it in you to be brave. You have it in you to do what you need to do for YOU. Because, again, you matter. Good luck!! I'm rooting for you!
It wasn't a flex. I was just making a point that you don't really know people. How well do you know your neighbors? You don't know the thoughts or musings that go on inside people's heads.
A lot depends on the company, too. If I was out with my boys then there might be some bro talk going on. But, if I'm out with my BIL then probably not.
I think so too and he kinda just brushed it off saying it’s not a big deal and that I’m being insecure
It’s not normal and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. You need a new girl and a new “friend”
What do you think you will gain? Emotional satisfaction by telling her off? You might get some short term satisfaction, all it will really do is prolong the process of moving on. Delete the text and forget about it
This is child abuse. People having children they can’t support need to be charged for child abuse.
If you have a pet you can’t feed, house or provide vet care for they charge you for animal abuse and remove the pet from that environment.
Bring a kid into the world do the same thing and it’s all good.
We are a F’d up society.
Thank you for the link, I will check it out
I think the bigger issue is why is she talking to guys now (while exclusive) who send her “stuff”
Sketchy
didn’t say that… i meant specifically women. the guys i’m friends with go clubbing and stuff too lol.
The same way one would educate their sexist partner : “dear, men cry. We've been peer pressured into thinking that men shouldn't cry and so we hide to do it. For me to cry in front of you is somewhat of a proof of love and thrust. Now to be frank seeing that otherwise is a bit sexist and that is not something you would really enjoy from my side.”
It's her choice. But she involved you. Up to you, would you not make a call about a random building on fire? And if she can't appreciate your burdens, what friend this?
Totally wrong OP can prove ownership with documentation vet records photos etc… No sane person is going to get into a legal battle for a cat they have acquired for a few days. OP was gone a few days not months.
OP owned it not husband so yes it’s considered stolen property especially if she paid for everything.
I'm around moms age as well. I wouldn't be friends with a man my age who spoke to any 18yr old this way. And if I saw someone speak to my kid this way I'd be dealing with it myself, not expecting my kid to allow it. Fucking gross.
I honestly am fine with just being friends
I think you need to dig down into this “honesty” a little, because you clearly are not fine just being friends – and that's normal! You have romantic feelings for her and you want more, which is why you feel jealous and upset when she talks about other people. What you're feeling is totally normal, but you need to stop pretending that you are fine with how things are when you're not. It's a recipe for heartbreak.
Your friendship as it was went out the door when you started developing feelings. You could rebuild a friendship down the line, but you need to get over her first. I guarantee she knows how you feel, but she has told you in no uncertain terms that she doesn't want to date you for real. If you're unable to back out of prom without causing major issues, go just as friends without any cuddling or relationship-esque behavior. Then take some distance from the friendship and if you have a strong bond you'll reconnect in the future when you've gotten over her. Otherwise (and most likely), you'll just look back on this as a high school crush.