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I've heard a man know if he wants to marry you in the first month or 2, but seeing as this was mostly a ldr, I would wait a bit before saying yes. Move in together for a while and see how compatible you are when you spend so much time together.
5 months is not “too little” time, but you definitely don't know each other well enough. Mainly because of the ldr.
I knew I was going to marry him one day about a week after we started dating, and My husband started talking about wedding rings about a month after we started dating (we were also ldr at that time) , but we had known each other for over 4 years before that as friends (not close friends though). We have been married for almost 9 years now.
Ultimately we don't have all the info, and you have to go with what you feel is right.
I think he’s just insecure. We’ve talked about it and I’ve explicitly said I am not dissatisfied (quite the opposite!). We have sex regularly, so I definitely don’t feel that I’m replacing sex with masturbation.
I tried and he ended up being so controlling I couldn't. Even had me stop my morning runs because a male friend accompanied me, and yet he couldn't do it because he doesn't wanna run and it's unsafe for me to run alone. Had issues with me spending time with family, hated my boss. Didn't want me in sexy clothing, didn't like his friends complimenting me. I could go on. Draining!
Im guessing he rationally doesnt want to be upset in those moments (since he has planned to be 'less picky next time'), but his moodiness comes up because he gets triggered.
Maybe he has some strong engrained emotions and experiences with abandonment or feeling ignored or neglected.
His nervous system, fight/flight trauma response, etc. have been wired to be on high alert in these situations. As an adult rationally the situation is not dangerous or threatening, but the wiring has been established in the primal part of out brain, the prefrontal cortex.
The funny thing is you may feel like youre walking on eggshells because you try to fix the situation rationally and it doesnt work. You modify your sleep schedule and try to satisfy the logical issue, but that only deals with the adult. What he needs is more at the child or primitive or nervous system level – some kind of assurance, breathing, regrounding in the present. He can learn to do that for himself or you can support him too.
She's is probably used to going to sleep in her day clothes, as you said she was neglected growing up and maybe was never shown how to dress for bedtime. Maybe, have a stidwon and show her pictures of you as a kid on PJs or watch movies, etc. Remind her how much more pleasant a night sleep can be in jammies, and also throw in thar she's much more cuddlable in comfy clothes not jeans lol.
Bro, I’m gonna say this gently: the way you expressed your response reeks of insecurity. You need to get a handle on that if you’re going to keep this relationship.
First of all, she was brave enough to tell you the truth. You need to be equally brave in how you handle it.
Second, the things she says she wants: She wants to feel cared for. Sure, you can’t help the age or the car situation. You can still find ways to take care of her and show her she’s in good hands. Try out some acts of service and scale back on the goofy jokes.
Third thing: she still wants to make it work with you. You gave her the chance to break up and she still accepts and wants you in her life. That’s pretty awesome in itself.
Instead of taking all this personally, try sitting down and finding a way you can both get your needs met, without blowing up in each other’s face. That’s a good start to showing her you can be the man she needs.
Again, I apologize if this was too blunt. If all I did was piss you off by saying all this, it would probably be better if you let her go.
When I see stories about people getting scammed, I wonder, “How in the hell could they fall for that? It was obviously a scam.” Then I read something like this and it makes sense to me.
You wouldn't be a jerk for ghosting/blocking, because at the end of the day you're just a customer. It'd be no different than you never returning to Sports Clips. You most likely won't (hopefully) get a chargeback because you willingly gave up money. There's no fraud or anything at play here.
Simply tell him just what you said about an IUD cost for you. No way you should spilt the costs especially since the relationship is still in its early stages. If you two were married and this was an issue maybe then, but no way right now.
If she is going to reach out to you, she'll reach out to you. If and when that happens, you should be excited to hear from her, not upset because it wasn't sooner.
Try actually talking to her. Try “dating” her. Try to find a new hobby that both of you can do. What is it you’re actually looking for and what does she lack?
I've heard a man know if he wants to marry you in the first month or 2, but seeing as this was mostly a ldr, I would wait a bit before saying yes. Move in together for a while and see how compatible you are when you spend so much time together.
5 months is not “too little” time, but you definitely don't know each other well enough. Mainly because of the ldr.
I knew I was going to marry him one day about a week after we started dating, and My husband started talking about wedding rings about a month after we started dating (we were also ldr at that time) , but we had known each other for over 4 years before that as friends (not close friends though). We have been married for almost 9 years now.
Ultimately we don't have all the info, and you have to go with what you feel is right.
I think he’s just insecure. We’ve talked about it and I’ve explicitly said I am not dissatisfied (quite the opposite!). We have sex regularly, so I definitely don’t feel that I’m replacing sex with masturbation.
I tried and he ended up being so controlling I couldn't. Even had me stop my morning runs because a male friend accompanied me, and yet he couldn't do it because he doesn't wanna run and it's unsafe for me to run alone. Had issues with me spending time with family, hated my boss. Didn't want me in sexy clothing, didn't like his friends complimenting me. I could go on. Draining!
He is doing it low-key so they can’t get it because none of them knows about us
I’m not saying ignore it.. the dog needs to be trained. You have no idea how often “shitty” dog owners turn around after some obedience training.
Run away and never give him the time of day again.
To provide insight on why he would’ve turned off his phone….
Im guessing he rationally doesnt want to be upset in those moments (since he has planned to be 'less picky next time'), but his moodiness comes up because he gets triggered.
Maybe he has some strong engrained emotions and experiences with abandonment or feeling ignored or neglected.
His nervous system, fight/flight trauma response, etc. have been wired to be on high alert in these situations. As an adult rationally the situation is not dangerous or threatening, but the wiring has been established in the primal part of out brain, the prefrontal cortex.
The funny thing is you may feel like youre walking on eggshells because you try to fix the situation rationally and it doesnt work. You modify your sleep schedule and try to satisfy the logical issue, but that only deals with the adult. What he needs is more at the child or primitive or nervous system level – some kind of assurance, breathing, regrounding in the present. He can learn to do that for himself or you can support him too.
he deserves bad treatment for being mentally ill? great attitude there. very progressive.
Definitely get some therapy.
Alright OP what's her number I'll date her so you can be friends
She's is probably used to going to sleep in her day clothes, as you said she was neglected growing up and maybe was never shown how to dress for bedtime. Maybe, have a stidwon and show her pictures of you as a kid on PJs or watch movies, etc. Remind her how much more pleasant a night sleep can be in jammies, and also throw in thar she's much more cuddlable in comfy clothes not jeans lol.
Bro, I’m gonna say this gently: the way you expressed your response reeks of insecurity. You need to get a handle on that if you’re going to keep this relationship.
First of all, she was brave enough to tell you the truth. You need to be equally brave in how you handle it.
Second, the things she says she wants: She wants to feel cared for. Sure, you can’t help the age or the car situation. You can still find ways to take care of her and show her she’s in good hands. Try out some acts of service and scale back on the goofy jokes.
Third thing: she still wants to make it work with you. You gave her the chance to break up and she still accepts and wants you in her life. That’s pretty awesome in itself.
Instead of taking all this personally, try sitting down and finding a way you can both get your needs met, without blowing up in each other’s face. That’s a good start to showing her you can be the man she needs.
Again, I apologize if this was too blunt. If all I did was piss you off by saying all this, it would probably be better if you let her go.
When I see stories about people getting scammed, I wonder, “How in the hell could they fall for that? It was obviously a scam.” Then I read something like this and it makes sense to me.
You wouldn't be a jerk for ghosting/blocking, because at the end of the day you're just a customer. It'd be no different than you never returning to Sports Clips. You most likely won't (hopefully) get a chargeback because you willingly gave up money. There's no fraud or anything at play here.
Simply tell him just what you said about an IUD cost for you. No way you should spilt the costs especially since the relationship is still in its early stages. If you two were married and this was an issue maybe then, but no way right now.
She probably has other friends
How well do you know this old friend?
Is there any proof that would back up what he is claiming?
Leave her alone
ok. keep making excuses for him. it's your unhappiness!
Well, you two have a history of casual chit chat.
Relax a little, nothing to get worked up about.
If she is going to reach out to you, she'll reach out to you. If and when that happens, you should be excited to hear from her, not upset because it wasn't sooner.
Try actually talking to her. Try “dating” her. Try to find a new hobby that both of you can do. What is it you’re actually looking for and what does she lack?