Personally? I think you should go for J because he seems more real and doesn't have the past commitment issues.
But if your heart triumphs logic? Then be honest with J that you're going to give K one more chance. Be prepared to lose J or for him to move in the time it takes for things to fail with K if it doesn't work out with K.
Ohhhh, so dude carries out emotional affairs and fiancee has had enough and OP is somehow in denial that nonsexual romantic relationships are a thing? I'm also curious as to how it is that OP never bothered to go looking for the fiancee themselves and reach out to her? Cut out the middle man.
Personally? I think you should go for J because he seems more real and doesn't have the past commitment issues.
But if your heart triumphs logic? Then be honest with J that you're going to give K one more chance. Be prepared to lose J or for him to move in the time it takes for things to fail with K if it doesn't work out with K.
Ohhhh, so dude carries out emotional affairs and fiancee has had enough and OP is somehow in denial that nonsexual romantic relationships are a thing? I'm also curious as to how it is that OP never bothered to go looking for the fiancee themselves and reach out to her? Cut out the middle man.