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Thinking you are on the same page isn't the same as discussing it. That's just being reckless with a baby. Clearly, you wanted another baby and thought it was going to bring you closer. Babies never do.
One of you(at some point) will fall out of love. LDR does not very long, if it does then only a few will make it. Before you marry the person you love and trust, try living with them first so you understand what kind of person they truly are.
What about you: how are you feeling about losing the baby? Rubbish but better than her. I'm just holding it together so I can be supportive to her and make sure our daughter doesn't miss out.
I think the weight comment was probably a red herring
I think so too. I have been going to the gym but it's not been coming off. This is mainly due to the fact that I know I'm comfort eating a bit. But compared to how I was when we first met I'm about 40kgs lighter (88lbs) which is crazy to me. But I am trying and its slowly getting there
If you suspect it will cause a problem. That is the reason to be honest don’t keep quiet and 3 years from now just as you are planning to be together forever it comes out and torpedos everything!
Makes sense, but moving out is not possible at the moment, as I'm a student who works part time, so u don't have alot of money. But yeah, the lesser I see him , the more it helps
How would this situation look if you were not bisexual? Would he not allow you to do the same as he is doing in that scenario? If your weren’t attracted to women he wouldn’t have the option of no men would he?
Also there is just as much a risk of you leaving him for a women as there is a man. He may not measure up to the women you end up with.
He doesn’t have any caveats on the person he picked so neither should you
I have a brother in law with the same name as me and that was weird enough lol The simple fact that they know it bothers her and don't care is all that needs to be said. It's up to them to make it right or accept that she will likely now be mostly out of their life.
Lol sounds like me I post at least 1 picture a year jus to let everyone know I am still alive. Lol not every guy you met will be into social a lot of us prefer to keep our private lives private. Stop looking a social media as the normal not everyone is like that
This morning she told me she’s expecting an apology by the end of the day.
What is she, your boss? Even if she is upset that you didn't share your food with her, this is a weird take. I think instead you should have a conversation about how to handle the situation in the future and lay out expectations: if you decline twice, I'm not going to be buying more than what I want to eat.
Honestly when I was in a similar situation I also felt like saying no made me crazy and insecure because of the way it was being pushed. Once I got out I realized that not wanting that isn't insecure at all and I was being manipulated to feel that way. You may find the same by leaving
See I’ve been josh and tried this and it was for a completely selfish reason and honestly it was toxic. The only reason I write this is because at the time at 21 I would’ve said almost anything to get what wanted and I don’t want to see someone else fall for that bs 🙁
I think she’s playing you. It’s not that hard to at least give a ballpark of what else she is bringing/space needed—unless she’s just angling for you to move all of your stuff to make room. Also if she’s staying there the majority or all the time she definitely needs to be paying. I think she’s being manipulative.
The only compromise I’d be willing to make is a concerted effort, CONCERTED – meaning all occupants are involved in decluttering, downsizing and minimizing the shit-show you described – with a predetermined end date in mind where it’s livable, breathable and easily maintained.
The caveat here is: Mom. She may be a bipolar pack-rat for all you know and the mere mention of moving ONE of the 3 nightstands in the living room (why do we have even ONE nightstand in THE LIVING ROOM), and she’ll have a herniated conniption fit. This is where you have to tread lightly. You don’t want to become the odd one out, or the third wheel, or seen as dead weight, or a fourth nightstand in the living room. Don’t get on mom’s bad side and don’t drive a wedge between them and DEFINITELY don’t let her walk all over you.
I’d say, stay in your apartment until you all agree on a plan and then spend significant time there working the plan but then, get the fuck out of there when you aren’t working the plan. If you “feel” like you can spend time there, do. If things slide back into “Cave of the Neanderthal”, you’ll have to step back and reassess.
Best of luck to you. I don’t think I could do it. You must love this dude.
Well you’re not exactly mad she’s a “ho”, you’re mad she self destructs on a weekly basis and refuses to acknowledge or receive advice/help when she comes crying to you about it.
If she was going out there and having sex with guys she wanted to because she enjoys it, not expecting anything else, and having normal standards for one night stands like avoiding people who are known sexual abusers, I guarantee you she would not be like this. She seems to be going for terrible guys who mistreat her and expecting more after a brief physical fling or one night stand. That’s not someone who enjoys having a lot of sex, that’s coming from a place of terrible self esteem and possible trauma. She needs therapy, and you can’t do anything to help her.
Gently cut her off and explain why. And hope she gets better for herself.
Leave this alone. ALL men look at other women, ALL of them. They look live!, they look in person, if they say they don't they're lying. And yes, sometimes they maturbate to the pictures. This is something men do, looking isn't cheating.
The only reasons you should be concerned about this is if A) he starts messaging these women or sending them money or B) if your and his sex life is affected by it. And when I say affected I mean that he's preferring masturbating to pictures over having real see with you. I do NOT mean getting his rocks off when you're at work or otherwise indisposed.
This is no different than you being flattered that the cute waiter asked for your number. You turned him down of course, cause you're married. But it made you feel good right? You weren't cheating. Neither is he. Leave this alone and go rock his world in bed so he knows he has everything he needs at home.
Sleep is underrated when you have kids. i remember about 4 weeks after my youngest was born, i was stopping for a coffee and realized i lived as a zombie those weeks. Called my mother to ask if she would look after the kids for a night, and took my wife to a hotel so we could get a normal night sleep. Ofcourse we both could hardly sleep in a hotel, without hearing the kids etc. but the slow wake up, a shower without kids crying and wanting something, and the included breakfast gave us a decent energy boost.
“My boyfriend. He's early 50's with wild, curly silver hair, tall, big dark eyes. He's also incredibly smart, sweet, thoughtful, and puts up with me.”
This post from you right here is how you got to this point. You view him as the best and putting up with you . So you give more and require nothing or minimal .
Are you fckn kidding me?! You don’t know what to do?!!! Stand there and twiddle your thumb, watch him rpe your younger cousins, other lil girls. When you have kids, you gonna let him rpe them too?
What the fck do you think you should do?! Stupid ass question like that!! Ffs
Then maybe you should find a loving couple to show him, because it doesn't sound like you and your gf qualify.
Do not give in to her crazy demands – or return it by asking she cut all contact with her mother, since she seems to be the root of most of your issues. You should go to couple's counseling, if you want to salvage anything – but tell her that you cutting all contact with the mother of your son is not going to happen while your son still needs you to deal amicably with one another – she is completely unreasonable to demand that. And if she makes you choose between her and your son, it will break your heart, but your obligation to your son has to be your priority – and destroying your relationship for that would be absolutely on her.
Thinking you are on the same page isn't the same as discussing it. That's just being reckless with a baby. Clearly, you wanted another baby and thought it was going to bring you closer. Babies never do.
Dated my ex LDR for one year, do not accept.
One of you(at some point) will fall out of love. LDR does not very long, if it does then only a few will make it. Before you marry the person you love and trust, try living with them first so you understand what kind of person they truly are.
What about you: how are you feeling about losing the baby? Rubbish but better than her. I'm just holding it together so I can be supportive to her and make sure our daughter doesn't miss out.
I think the weight comment was probably a red herring
I think so too. I have been going to the gym but it's not been coming off. This is mainly due to the fact that I know I'm comfort eating a bit. But compared to how I was when we first met I'm about 40kgs lighter (88lbs) which is crazy to me. But I am trying and its slowly getting there
If you suspect it will cause a problem. That is the reason to be honest don’t keep quiet and 3 years from now just as you are planning to be together forever it comes out and torpedos everything!
Makes sense, but moving out is not possible at the moment, as I'm a student who works part time, so u don't have alot of money. But yeah, the lesser I see him , the more it helps
How would this situation look if you were not bisexual? Would he not allow you to do the same as he is doing in that scenario? If your weren’t attracted to women he wouldn’t have the option of no men would he?
Also there is just as much a risk of you leaving him for a women as there is a man. He may not measure up to the women you end up with.
He doesn’t have any caveats on the person he picked so neither should you
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I have a brother in law with the same name as me and that was weird enough lol The simple fact that they know it bothers her and don't care is all that needs to be said. It's up to them to make it right or accept that she will likely now be mostly out of their life.
Lol sounds like me I post at least 1 picture a year jus to let everyone know I am still alive. Lol not every guy you met will be into social a lot of us prefer to keep our private lives private. Stop looking a social media as the normal not everyone is like that
It's very high, and out of character for him. I think we spent like $100 on his own mother this year.
He is physiologically incapable of the emotion as the rest of us know it. The only kind of love this man understands is possession.
This morning she told me she’s expecting an apology by the end of the day.
What is she, your boss? Even if she is upset that you didn't share your food with her, this is a weird take. I think instead you should have a conversation about how to handle the situation in the future and lay out expectations: if you decline twice, I'm not going to be buying more than what I want to eat.
Yeah i thought maybe it was the cuddling. Idk maybe im just over reacting but its hard not to think the worst when is that bad head space again.
Have you tried barking at her
I get the point. No need to be insulting though.
Honestly when I was in a similar situation I also felt like saying no made me crazy and insecure because of the way it was being pushed. Once I got out I realized that not wanting that isn't insecure at all and I was being manipulated to feel that way. You may find the same by leaving
See I’ve been josh and tried this and it was for a completely selfish reason and honestly it was toxic. The only reason I write this is because at the time at 21 I would’ve said almost anything to get what wanted and I don’t want to see someone else fall for that bs 🙁
I think she’s playing you. It’s not that hard to at least give a ballpark of what else she is bringing/space needed—unless she’s just angling for you to move all of your stuff to make room. Also if she’s staying there the majority or all the time she definitely needs to be paying. I think she’s being manipulative.
The only compromise I’d be willing to make is a concerted effort, CONCERTED – meaning all occupants are involved in decluttering, downsizing and minimizing the shit-show you described – with a predetermined end date in mind where it’s livable, breathable and easily maintained.
The caveat here is: Mom. She may be a bipolar pack-rat for all you know and the mere mention of moving ONE of the 3 nightstands in the living room (why do we have even ONE nightstand in THE LIVING ROOM), and she’ll have a herniated conniption fit. This is where you have to tread lightly. You don’t want to become the odd one out, or the third wheel, or seen as dead weight, or a fourth nightstand in the living room. Don’t get on mom’s bad side and don’t drive a wedge between them and DEFINITELY don’t let her walk all over you.
I’d say, stay in your apartment until you all agree on a plan and then spend significant time there working the plan but then, get the fuck out of there when you aren’t working the plan. If you “feel” like you can spend time there, do. If things slide back into “Cave of the Neanderthal”, you’ll have to step back and reassess.
Best of luck to you. I don’t think I could do it. You must love this dude.
This is a common manipulation tactic. It’s not on you to “fix” them. Call the police to report their suicidal threats, then get out.
Well you’re not exactly mad she’s a “ho”, you’re mad she self destructs on a weekly basis and refuses to acknowledge or receive advice/help when she comes crying to you about it.
If she was going out there and having sex with guys she wanted to because she enjoys it, not expecting anything else, and having normal standards for one night stands like avoiding people who are known sexual abusers, I guarantee you she would not be like this. She seems to be going for terrible guys who mistreat her and expecting more after a brief physical fling or one night stand. That’s not someone who enjoys having a lot of sex, that’s coming from a place of terrible self esteem and possible trauma. She needs therapy, and you can’t do anything to help her.
Gently cut her off and explain why. And hope she gets better for herself.
Leave this alone. ALL men look at other women, ALL of them. They look live!, they look in person, if they say they don't they're lying. And yes, sometimes they maturbate to the pictures. This is something men do, looking isn't cheating.
The only reasons you should be concerned about this is if A) he starts messaging these women or sending them money or B) if your and his sex life is affected by it. And when I say affected I mean that he's preferring masturbating to pictures over having real see with you. I do NOT mean getting his rocks off when you're at work or otherwise indisposed.
This is no different than you being flattered that the cute waiter asked for your number. You turned him down of course, cause you're married. But it made you feel good right? You weren't cheating. Neither is he. Leave this alone and go rock his world in bed so he knows he has everything he needs at home.
We both have different opinions and that’s fine
Sleep is underrated when you have kids. i remember about 4 weeks after my youngest was born, i was stopping for a coffee and realized i lived as a zombie those weeks. Called my mother to ask if she would look after the kids for a night, and took my wife to a hotel so we could get a normal night sleep. Ofcourse we both could hardly sleep in a hotel, without hearing the kids etc. but the slow wake up, a shower without kids crying and wanting something, and the included breakfast gave us a decent energy boost.
“My boyfriend. He's early 50's with wild, curly silver hair, tall, big dark eyes. He's also incredibly smart, sweet, thoughtful, and puts up with me.”
This post from you right here is how you got to this point. You view him as the best and putting up with you . So you give more and require nothing or minimal .
Are you also in therapy?
Does sound like they are still together yes. She should be really wary.
It could have been that she was away with the kids for the first couple of dates so your friend could go back to his house.
She needs to keep pressing him for a timeline of when he is moving out or the “ex” is moving out and to watch his reaction carefully.
It may just be better for her to cut her losses now before she’s invested any more time on him and fallen for him completely.
Ready for kids but not married means he's not ready for a lifelong commitment, but he wants you to make that commitment so he can be a daddy.
Literally the only thing you can do to “make things right” is get the fuck away from her.
Every second that you refuse to leave you are making it worse. And worse. And worse.
Where did you get the idea that you are entitled to have all the things you want?
Are you fckn kidding me?! You don’t know what to do?!!! Stand there and twiddle your thumb, watch him rpe your younger cousins, other lil girls. When you have kids, you gonna let him rpe them too?
What the fck do you think you should do?! Stupid ass question like that!! Ffs
Do NOT have children with this man. Lots of these perverts make their own victims. He WILL rape any daughters you have.
What did you do to him? He’s thinking about what you did and continues then mentions what you did to offset his culpability.
Then maybe you should find a loving couple to show him, because it doesn't sound like you and your gf qualify.
Do not give in to her crazy demands – or return it by asking she cut all contact with her mother, since she seems to be the root of most of your issues. You should go to couple's counseling, if you want to salvage anything – but tell her that you cutting all contact with the mother of your son is not going to happen while your son still needs you to deal amicably with one another – she is completely unreasonable to demand that. And if she makes you choose between her and your son, it will break your heart, but your obligation to your son has to be your priority – and destroying your relationship for that would be absolutely on her.
I see how my title appears otherwise though.
Then it will be even easier to take a break.
If its something that's going to dig at you and you have a good relationship where you can talk without fighting, I would definitely ask why