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You said you knew this person because of a friend, what does this friend or people you trust know about her? Any background info to her you can get or you cool not knowing? Because I don't know this person from a crazy person I would see if they have any previous friend or roommate experience, or even if she's recovering from a recent breakup. Just to get a feel what I'm getting into and how safe is this setup.
In the end, at least being straight forward would probably do you good. Maybe asking questions (to her and to yourself) like saying if your open or not to see how it goes or that you want a living space first and don't want to risk bad feelings and see if she still wants to roommate. If you bring dates over or even friends who are girls, is it going to be an issue? What are the boundaries? I think having an open dialog like what she suggested could answer some concerns or give you hints who you are dealing with.
If you do go with it, get a lock on your door and protect your valuables, just to be safe. (Maybe even a camera in your room).
I'm a girl and it's probably because of that, that if this happened to me, I wouldn't do it because I don't want to put myself in danger or to live! in a space where I have to walk on eggshells past someone's unrequited love.
It was that and personally realized as a result that I wasn't gaining anything by getting so worked up, in fact, quite the opposite.
And I am not like that in any other area of life, but somehow with driving, I had road-rage. So it was easy to know how I should behave instead haha. THe same as any other activity.
First, take a step back and breathe. She is accusing you of looking at another human, not assaulting them. She sounds like a very immature person to throw that word around so flippantly.
Second, the most important issue here is your child. Whatever happens between you and partner, your child needs to maintain a life that isn't fraught with arguments and chaos. Look up lawyers in your area, and you'll likely find some that will consult for free as to how you can move forward with the least amount of drama.
As much as it sucks to break up a family, not all families are healthy, and your partner needs some serious reflection and possibly therapy. You're young, so don't stick around to find out what else her jealousy makes her capable of. Remain amicable and kind so she has nothing to use against you, and it'll work out. Good luck, OP!
Lol come join us in 2022, my friend. You don’t need to pay for everything for your girlfriend. In fact, you shouldn’t if she has the ability to contribute some proportion. Put your ego away and let her treat you. It doesn’t make you less of a man. It doesn’t make you less of a breadwinner. Your generosity is appreciated but not needed. You are in an equal partnership – so let it be one. You are not her caregiver.
And you not letting her pay for ANYTHING makes you look like a control freak with insecurity issues.
This is actually the first time. To add on to what I said, my boyfriend actually does a lot for me, the reason he had to get the car was due to his previous car breaking down. So I was very supportive on him getting the new car. He even asked me before he done it my opinion on the matter.
All this information my friends know.
My boyfriend is in no way selfish from what I've noticed the months we've been together. Even when my friends and I go out for dinner, he would pick us up and drop each of them at home too. When we go on dates 90% of the time he pays, even when I refuse.
When it comes to minimizing the conversation with my friends it is difficult for me as we do socialise outside of work.
OP, your wife doesn't really get to throw a fit about you lying when she made being honest so exhausting. Yes, lying is wrong. You should have been honest HOWEVER is she really all that surprised when she took offense to you having totally normal, human thoughts about attraction? It's one thing to expect honesty. It's a total other thing to expect honesty so you can, metaphorically, bash someone over the head with it. She was not safe to be honest with, therefore you were not honest. That is a situation of her own making.
She needs to get a grip. You cannot, and should not have to, tiptoe around these insecurities forever. The fact you've done it for so long as it is just screams dysfunction.
In another sub I frequent, they often advise the 'two card system'. One card is for a therapist (maybe add another card as she definitely needs individual therapy as well as couple's counselling) The other is for a divorce lawyer.
Your marriage is on the ropes and something has to give if you both want it to continue. It is HER turn to give. You've made allowances, tiptoed around her feelings and subdued a part of yourself for long enough and it has lead you here, so obviously you subduing yourself does not work.
I'm sorry to be so blunt about it but you're in a two man rowboat and you're rowing by yourself. If she doesn't pick up the slack, you're going to be dead in the water.
Nope nope nope. Stop it right there. She fell down the fing steps but the only marks on her are HAND SHAPED BRUISES AROUND HER NECK AND CHIN?!?! Stop minimizing and acting like you “gently pushed her away”. Bull fing shit!! Grow up, get away from each other, and get help. You are both toxic and abusive. No matter how you slice it you strangled her. Do you know the statistics for domestic abuse involving strangulation? Look it up. This is disturbing on so many levels.
If they disguised their voice is because they knew youd recognize them, i feel like its possibly one of his male friends. Thats why they didnt tell u in person, so they can still.be friends w him
Im sorry but lets be real here, he prolly cheated. A miami trip w the boys?
Reminds me of this rap song “went to miami, my b**** concerned now”
Time to put your foot fully down. Now, I'm not saying you should break up, but I do think you should become fully yourself and demand the respect you deserve and stop doing things out of pressure. Your fiance will either step up, or you will have your answer.
First thing, tell him he cannot speak to you like this. If he doesn't think you know how to plan, then he should do it our be an active partner. If he doesn't like the decisions you are making, it should be a conversation, not him coming to you angry and putting you down.
Second, tell him his behavior- lack of interest but also being mad about things- has made this wedding something you aren't interested in anymore. You aren't spending another dime or another minute on all this until he fully apologizes and agrees to do 50% of the work, and ALL the work on the stuff that is important to him. HE needs to write out a list of what still needs to be done and take responsibility for coming up with a split of the work, until then, the wedding is on pause.
Third, stop planning stuff you don't want to plan. You are already in deep on the wedding, but from here on out, anything that he wants to get done (adding X, changing the food) he can fully take control over.
And finally, after you say these things to him, he needs to offer a full apology where he forms words that demonstrates he understands all the things he has done wrong- not helped, spoken down to you, blamed you for things that were on him, made you feel like crap- otherwise, the wedding isn't just on pause, but it is cancelled.
You said you knew this person because of a friend, what does this friend or people you trust know about her? Any background info to her you can get or you cool not knowing? Because I don't know this person from a crazy person I would see if they have any previous friend or roommate experience, or even if she's recovering from a recent breakup. Just to get a feel what I'm getting into and how safe is this setup.
In the end, at least being straight forward would probably do you good. Maybe asking questions (to her and to yourself) like saying if your open or not to see how it goes or that you want a living space first and don't want to risk bad feelings and see if she still wants to roommate. If you bring dates over or even friends who are girls, is it going to be an issue? What are the boundaries? I think having an open dialog like what she suggested could answer some concerns or give you hints who you are dealing with.
If you do go with it, get a lock on your door and protect your valuables, just to be safe. (Maybe even a camera in your room).
I'm a girl and it's probably because of that, that if this happened to me, I wouldn't do it because I don't want to put myself in danger or to live! in a space where I have to walk on eggshells past someone's unrequited love.
It was that and personally realized as a result that I wasn't gaining anything by getting so worked up, in fact, quite the opposite.
And I am not like that in any other area of life, but somehow with driving, I had road-rage. So it was easy to know how I should behave instead haha. THe same as any other activity.
First, take a step back and breathe. She is accusing you of looking at another human, not assaulting them. She sounds like a very immature person to throw that word around so flippantly.
Second, the most important issue here is your child. Whatever happens between you and partner, your child needs to maintain a life that isn't fraught with arguments and chaos. Look up lawyers in your area, and you'll likely find some that will consult for free as to how you can move forward with the least amount of drama.
As much as it sucks to break up a family, not all families are healthy, and your partner needs some serious reflection and possibly therapy. You're young, so don't stick around to find out what else her jealousy makes her capable of. Remain amicable and kind so she has nothing to use against you, and it'll work out. Good luck, OP!
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Isn't that what Herschel Walker's son Christian said?
Lol come join us in 2022, my friend. You don’t need to pay for everything for your girlfriend. In fact, you shouldn’t if she has the ability to contribute some proportion. Put your ego away and let her treat you. It doesn’t make you less of a man. It doesn’t make you less of a breadwinner. Your generosity is appreciated but not needed. You are in an equal partnership – so let it be one. You are not her caregiver.
And you not letting her pay for ANYTHING makes you look like a control freak with insecurity issues.
Most guys really aren't that subtle. Tell him to cut it out.
This is actually the first time. To add on to what I said, my boyfriend actually does a lot for me, the reason he had to get the car was due to his previous car breaking down. So I was very supportive on him getting the new car. He even asked me before he done it my opinion on the matter.
All this information my friends know.
My boyfriend is in no way selfish from what I've noticed the months we've been together. Even when my friends and I go out for dinner, he would pick us up and drop each of them at home too. When we go on dates 90% of the time he pays, even when I refuse.
When it comes to minimizing the conversation with my friends it is difficult for me as we do socialise outside of work.
OP, your wife doesn't really get to throw a fit about you lying when she made being honest so exhausting. Yes, lying is wrong. You should have been honest HOWEVER is she really all that surprised when she took offense to you having totally normal, human thoughts about attraction? It's one thing to expect honesty. It's a total other thing to expect honesty so you can, metaphorically, bash someone over the head with it. She was not safe to be honest with, therefore you were not honest. That is a situation of her own making.
She needs to get a grip. You cannot, and should not have to, tiptoe around these insecurities forever. The fact you've done it for so long as it is just screams dysfunction.
In another sub I frequent, they often advise the 'two card system'. One card is for a therapist (maybe add another card as she definitely needs individual therapy as well as couple's counselling) The other is for a divorce lawyer.
Your marriage is on the ropes and something has to give if you both want it to continue. It is HER turn to give. You've made allowances, tiptoed around her feelings and subdued a part of yourself for long enough and it has lead you here, so obviously you subduing yourself does not work.
I'm sorry to be so blunt about it but you're in a two man rowboat and you're rowing by yourself. If she doesn't pick up the slack, you're going to be dead in the water.
Nope nope nope. Stop it right there. She fell down the fing steps but the only marks on her are HAND SHAPED BRUISES AROUND HER NECK AND CHIN?!?! Stop minimizing and acting like you “gently pushed her away”. Bull fing shit!! Grow up, get away from each other, and get help. You are both toxic and abusive. No matter how you slice it you strangled her. Do you know the statistics for domestic abuse involving strangulation? Look it up. This is disturbing on so many levels.
Your right mate. I've not had any issues. If they say no just move on. It's no big issue.
The fact that you weren't in a relationship makes it different, I must've missed that the first time reading
Thanks ❤️
If they disguised their voice is because they knew youd recognize them, i feel like its possibly one of his male friends. Thats why they didnt tell u in person, so they can still.be friends w him
Im sorry but lets be real here, he prolly cheated. A miami trip w the boys?
Reminds me of this rap song “went to miami, my b**** concerned now”
I wanted a relationship but it seemed like he didn’t want one. So I said maybe it’s best we keep it at a friendship. He agreed but he’s doing all this
Time to put your foot fully down. Now, I'm not saying you should break up, but I do think you should become fully yourself and demand the respect you deserve and stop doing things out of pressure. Your fiance will either step up, or you will have your answer.
First thing, tell him he cannot speak to you like this. If he doesn't think you know how to plan, then he should do it our be an active partner. If he doesn't like the decisions you are making, it should be a conversation, not him coming to you angry and putting you down.
Second, tell him his behavior- lack of interest but also being mad about things- has made this wedding something you aren't interested in anymore. You aren't spending another dime or another minute on all this until he fully apologizes and agrees to do 50% of the work, and ALL the work on the stuff that is important to him. HE needs to write out a list of what still needs to be done and take responsibility for coming up with a split of the work, until then, the wedding is on pause.
Third, stop planning stuff you don't want to plan. You are already in deep on the wedding, but from here on out, anything that he wants to get done (adding X, changing the food) he can fully take control over.
And finally, after you say these things to him, he needs to offer a full apology where he forms words that demonstrates he understands all the things he has done wrong- not helped, spoken down to you, blamed you for things that were on him, made you feel like crap- otherwise, the wedding isn't just on pause, but it is cancelled.
Your wife has changed her mind.
Adopt, use a sperm donor, or get a divorce
As someone in a age gap relationship, I can say this without bias. Your dad is creepy as shit! Wouldn’t trust him with a CHILD.
If you like each other and she breaks up with you just because you can't have sex, she may not be the partner you want.
You aren't doing it on purpose, so I don't think it's an issue. She may be fine with it and it's all in your head.
Difficult to say
As soon as I read the hand on your knee bit, I immediately knew he was a creep, and it just got worse from there
As soon as I read the hand on your knee bit, I immediately knew he was a creep, and it just got worse from there