I think people have very different standards of what is an acceptable time frame to discuss and meet the family, and what is not. (As evidenced by this comment section, filled with extremes on both sides of the issue).
To me, as a parent (though not single and looking), a month is a decent amount of time to wait to bring up the kid, but also to discuss much about my family at all. I wouldn't imagine it's been more than 4-5 dates at this point, and couldn't possibly be as serious as you state though, in a month. And I have only been in one relationship in my life where that sort of timeline for getting into personal info about me, wasn't the norm (my current one, with my endgame partner). Equally, outside of highschool relationships, Ive been deeply put off by partners who tried to introduce me to their family very early on in seeing eachother.
Obviously you, having already introduced her to your family, feel the polar opposite on these topics. Hence why it feels like a betrayal to you, and like she hid things, when in reality, it's more likely a comfort thing for her, than a deceptive one.
I don't think there is anything wrong with either view you two have, but I do think it's a pretty big difference that indicates a stark incompatibility. I think, knowing how differently you two view this, that there are probably a lot of other big differences in opinions on intimacy and personal info, as well as, like I mentioned before, possibly how “serious” this actually is to her, vs you.
If it was as serious to her as it is to you, I can't imagine she wouldn't have told you about her son before now. Food for thought. And yes, a good reason to end things, despite me not thinking she lied to you, or hid things from you.
It's broke and you can't fix it. GF lies. You know it. You also know that she won't quit lying. So accept reality and find someone who respects you enough to tell you the truth. GF can never change her behavior. Sorry.
Yeah I’m talking to my mom about this hopefully she talks to him
I think people have very different standards of what is an acceptable time frame to discuss and meet the family, and what is not. (As evidenced by this comment section, filled with extremes on both sides of the issue).
To me, as a parent (though not single and looking), a month is a decent amount of time to wait to bring up the kid, but also to discuss much about my family at all. I wouldn't imagine it's been more than 4-5 dates at this point, and couldn't possibly be as serious as you state though, in a month. And I have only been in one relationship in my life where that sort of timeline for getting into personal info about me, wasn't the norm (my current one, with my endgame partner). Equally, outside of highschool relationships, Ive been deeply put off by partners who tried to introduce me to their family very early on in seeing eachother.
Obviously you, having already introduced her to your family, feel the polar opposite on these topics. Hence why it feels like a betrayal to you, and like she hid things, when in reality, it's more likely a comfort thing for her, than a deceptive one.
I don't think there is anything wrong with either view you two have, but I do think it's a pretty big difference that indicates a stark incompatibility. I think, knowing how differently you two view this, that there are probably a lot of other big differences in opinions on intimacy and personal info, as well as, like I mentioned before, possibly how “serious” this actually is to her, vs you.
If it was as serious to her as it is to you, I can't imagine she wouldn't have told you about her son before now. Food for thought. And yes, a good reason to end things, despite me not thinking she lied to you, or hid things from you.
It's broke and you can't fix it. GF lies. You know it. You also know that she won't quit lying. So accept reality and find someone who respects you enough to tell you the truth. GF can never change her behavior. Sorry.